#desi d

okay so this one is about desi tumblr.

I know there are desi blogs out there who feel excluded and ignored, so this one is for them (and some others dw i'll discuss about them later in this post)

There are things everyone needs to know.

what desi means.

who's desi and who's not

So first of all, by the basic definition of desi we mean south-asian. Indians, Pakistanis, Sri Lankans, Nepalis, and such. 

Desi is a culture and if you fall in these countries, youre desi. I know some people don't want to associate with the desi title because of reasons which make total sense and thats perfectly fine. No one is forcing you to pick up the label. Do whatever makes you comfy. 

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[Very important note: you dont have to like mainstream media to be us. We are a culture, and its not bound by the languages we speak, the food we eat, and other things we do. You dont have to take part in everyday discourses to be a desi blog. This is super fucking important and I hope everyone, and i mean everyone, understands this.]

I, as a desi, think I'm inclusive, and I love when I interact with new blogs. I hope people understand this and know that I would accept them as they are. Damn, siblings, your language and the things you like might be different but that doesnt mean you're any less desi.

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Some more very important things with personal examples:

Hindi is not the only language. You don't have to be a hindi speaker to be included. (three of my fave frens here (rey, billu and clove/alagar/strudel) cant speak hindi fluently i love them as much because a language doesnt bind us)

Indian-themed-things are not the only things. I know this happens and I want to make this point very clear. (I have two pakistani (noor and hazel) and a Sri Lankan (uvi) sister here and i love interacting with them.)

A lot of discourses are political and it's okay if you dont want to interact or if you dont relate to them. Most of us are minors and we aren't  conditioned to have opinions all the time. (no personal examples here, but I mean this.)

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Personal note 1: please send an ask if you want me to edit/add a point. (I dont respond to dms as quickly and I dont want to ignore this) 

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Another very important thing: 

I have heard about the existence of a fabled inner-desi-circle, and apparently me and my close mutuals are a part of it. And some people have been passive agressive to me about it. This has been happening for quite a while so I thought I should talk about it.

I want to make this very clear, and I am very sorry if I sound offensive. 

We are friends and we are accepting people. I mean this very seriously, by the way. Do not throw shade on us just because we are friends and we exist. 

There is no such circle, and trust me when I say I would be lost without them. Most of us are friendless irl, and it feels really shitty when someone is being shady because we show our affection here through posts and inside jokes. Let people exist. 

And if you ever felt excluded because of us, I am really fucking sorry. We didn't think that telling our friends that we love them, or making a personal reference would hurt you. I am sorry.

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personal note 2: I am very sorry if I have ever made anyone on desi tumblr feel excluded, i didnt mean it. (I swear to god I am not being sarcastic, I really am sorry. I am usually not being sincere, but I am being very sincere here.)

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Personal note 3: the others and I are interactive people, trust me. I sure as fuck am. You could totally send an interactive ask, and we would sure as fuck reply. Please dont assume you're not one of us. 

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I know a ton of desi peeps here, and all of them are lovely people.

So once again, repeat after me:

It's okay if you're NRI.

It's okay if you dont speak hindi

It's okay if you dont relate to discourses

It's okay if you're new and still figuring things out

It's okay and you're desi enough.

You're still a desi disaster 

Done!

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Lastly, 

This is the desi tumblr and I hope you enjoy your stay!

A fuckton of love,