If you can't communicate, then why are you trying to find someone to be with?

It's one thing to be honest and tell someone your seeing someone, its another thing to drag a relationship that isn't going anywhere and then ghost.

But as I get older, the few times I have gone on dates with people, I always start feeling this dread in my stomach, and during the date I sometimes do have fun, but once it ends, I just want to die, cry, or throw up.

In my mind I start reliving the date; I start to notice little things that they did that made me feel uncomfortable or little comments that they made. I start to hate them, and then I wish and pray to never see them again.

You find someone you like talking to every day, try to meet, but with kids, work, or other stuff going on, I get it and try to make things work.

Then it slowly stops or you maybe get a few words out of them. You don't want to be too forward or seem like your clingy so you give it a few hours.

Nothing.

Then a few hours more you figured you'll wait until tomorrow and hope they reply.

Nothing.

But when they do, they give you enough to make you wait another day for another reply, until they just stop replying altogether.

Then you overthink and wonder, "What did I do wrong?" In your mind, you go over every conversation and try to thing if something you said or did cause them to not be interested in you.

After awhile you become numb and then try again with the next one.

Why is it that we pour our souls into people thinking they want to know us and meet us, giving us the expectation that it will and then it doesn't?

The more and more it happens, there's a tiny piece of you that sort of dies instead and makes you more numb, more unwilling to put yourself out there, more accepting of the fact that your pretty much going to die alone.

Can we please normalize conversations where if you aren't interested in someone, that we tell them instead of ghosting or ignoring them?

almost put myself in a situation where he could take advantage of me because he wasn’t taking no for an answer 😩 I hate it here

I get in my head a lot, so it feels terrible