#danteo

  This is the take away: It’s not just about ‘well...

And again it’s like, I see so many flagrantly homophobic posts and posts being so superior like this “not like other girls” style and drhdt it’s intense

Exactly and it’s so ugly that when aces wanna talk about inclusion they never want to talk about that. Fuck you bitch you can’t spit in my face then whine about how you need to be included! And act like none of this shit happened lmao. Cishet aces are constantly like I’m not a gross SEXUAL heh I have actual hobbies and talents.

It's definitely true, between lifestyle and genetics we just... age a lot.. I guess just worse??? Than many other groups of people. Usually, anyway. And I'm actually pretty into all these differences, they're neat even though I'm like OH NOOOO, though I do laugh, too. Though I'm not a fan of it being literally used as an insult, like man... A lot of us just have that happen...

Honestly I think another real, not-for-laughs factor is the epigenetics related tot he stuff I just talked about. For instance, the effects of sugar on aging are gonna be stronger on skin with less melanin, but historically more white people than black people generations back had access to lots of sweets (not just candies but foods with added sugar). What happens to a person within their lifetime alters some of their genes, and those genetic ‘updates’ get passed down (this is also one of many reasons I do not want to conceive). Plus, in general, Western (white) beauty/appearance standards are generally about what you can afford to put on/in you rather than how you care for yourself. I mean only recently has real and honest Skin Care Culture become a thing despite white skincare industry being a juggernaut, and this is due largely to Korea. Outside of that I’ve always known of for instance Black and Indian women being damn kitchen scientists when it came to using home remedies and dedicated regimens to prevent blemishing and create naturally luminous skin. Yet white standards of beauty tend to be about being a day late and a dollar short, with most women thinking ‘anti aging’ products are to be used by older women as a band aid after the fact. Nope! Then they just get fillers/botox which is fine but like, that’s not gonna be reflected in the genes they pass on.

My point is white people don’t have to age like milk, and it’s not a given, but on the other hand I think there’s like a socio-economic-genetic factor that heavily affects this tendency.

In the end it doesn’t matter too much bc white supremacy is very very real and even an old-looking white person will be treated better and seen as more desirable than a young-looking brown person so like ...something to keep in mind.

then there're people like my dad who seem to be emotionally allergic to sunblock and hats and also I've never seen a white guy take care of his skin save for my brother.... and yup, the luxury hobbies all in the sun, shheeeeesh

yeah what is WITH that? Even my boyfriend who is a super reasonable person had to be hassled into wearing sunblock when we go for our morning walks in Blistering Morning Sun Florida, and didn’t want to wear something to cover his neck even though it was sustaining too much sun and getting red/damaged by the time we got back. Luckily since he is reasonable, he did start doing it even though he was averse at first.

But like yeah dude white guys need to wear sunblock. They spend forever in the sun and end up looking like leather and that just isn’t even necessary lol. That grizzled look might be cute at 30 but they end up looking 60 at 45.

from a purist perspective, tomato SAUCE shouldn't be on pizza, either, but it is and that's fine, so...

Exactly! That’s why I’m saying if you wanna be a purist then you also can’t love cheesy/saucy Pizza because THIS is what Authentic Italian Pizza looks like:

I don't normally do this but I definitely thought it was a younger Justin McElroy when I was scrolling through

oh dear god but my teeth always rest together......

  tbh….[[MOR] I don’t follow Black Panther nor am...

I guess it’s one of those “take what you can, enjoy what’s right” situations… If they give the ladies some good character writing and avoid other tropes with them that’s still… BETTER I guess…