so, the day has come. our brave, wonderful boy has reached a point in his life where he felt comfortable enough coming out as queer—gay. i think no one wants it but here’s the official statement from the PFBI over it.

i personally have never felt more proud to stan someone in my entire life. Dan is an incredibly strong person who has shown me that it’s not only okay to be sick and need help but that it’s okay for me as a queer to be happy. so from everyone in the PFBI we offer a humble and heartfelt “thank you” to our magnificent cult leader. 10/10 Dan.

now, many of the fandom probably had the knee-jerk “we all been knew” and Dan isn’t exactly an idiot which is why he put in his video he didn’t want to see any of us commenting saying those exact words. i’m not sure if anyone felt attacked by that, but in case someone did then i thought it would be good to have a statement about what he meant. he meant that being queer is his. that he is being himself, and while he hasn’t been subtle, he’s been private and afraid. so him coming out isn’t a “you guys got me lol” but it’s actually a “this is me” moment. essentially, it isn’t about us and our theories. it’s about him being comfortable.

there’s been SO much drama in this community about his sexuality; people being downright homophobic all the way to downright obsessed. but he’s never actually told anyone to stop reading his subtext or his hints. and in fact if we hadn’t done that then he wouldn’t have been able to attract such an accepting and primarily queer fanbase, something he said helped him feel comfortable enough to be safely out. so attacking people over this situation for having theories or feeling validated wouldn’t be fostering the love and acceptance he wants for all of us and himself.

hopefully we can continue to be a positive community. hopefully him coming out has drastically brightened your life and validated your own sexuality in the same way it has done to mine. i can’t wait to go to Pride this year knowing i’m marching for everyone i love, and knowing i can include myself in that category.

we’ll try to be more active, especially now the sassy cat is out of the bag about Dan and now that we can feel confident that they aren’t lying to us. i feel less ready to be hurt or let down by people i respect. the “lol it was all for money” reveal will officially never happen so we can stop trying to prove them real to assuage that fear.

let’s make the rest of 2019 and all of 2020 a year of true queer acceptance, growth, and community wide respect!

love,