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Dani B’s Daily Journal

Sharing love, life, and happiness

March 26 2021

I went into the gym today and did my weekly weigh in. I lost 4 pounds this week. I felt super proud. I then laughed realizing I had two rows of 22 inch extensions removed and all the weight could have been the missing hair. However, I will take it. Ha ha. No matter, being 4 pounds lighter made me feel good. I feel so much more motivated to accomplish the busy day ahead of me. Shopping to do before the trip, laundry, cleaning, getting my spring decor out, a couple of clients this afternoon. With all of these items I did not want to write this journal today. I thought “I don’t have time” but I decided I am prioritizing what really matters today. Sometimes we have to do things that we don’t want to do like going to work or waking up in the middle of the night with your child.

You may feel tired and worn down like you do not have the will power however, you have more strength than you give yourself credit. You have the will power to do whatever it is you set your mind to. For those of you today that are in a funk or having a day, where your husband is grumpy, your child woke you up in the middle of the night, you have a million other things to do and the time you need to spend on yourself gets put on the back burner….Stop what you doing! Take a 10 min stretch and do some deep breathing, and stop putting yourself last. When you put others before you and you repeat that pattern daily, before you know it, you feel like a failure. You may even tell yourself “I never have time to get the things done I say I will.” “Why am I so Tired?” “I feel ugly and fat”, “why can’t I just do this?” “I don’t recognize myself anymore.”

The reality is you create your future with each thing you do. When you put the work in for yourself, when you say nice comments about yourself, and when you do the right thing, it always comes back to you. You create your future. Your create your daily success, you create the person you are. You create the person you desire to be. I desire to be a lovely, accountable, relatable, successful joyful person and so it is. I am shaping my life one workout, one laundry load, one journal entry at a time. The simplest things in life can sometimes be the most difficult. Today, I encourage you to do that item that keeps getting put on the back burner.

The thoughts that are continually replaying through our brains, shape us! Accomplish the tasks that keep circling in your mind and you will feel so much better.  In closing, You’re stronger and have more energy than you give yourself credit for. Go and make the day great. 😘

Dani B’s ❤️ Daily Journal

Sharing Love, Life, and Happiness

I once had a mug that said “Do more of what makes you happy.” I loved that mug. Every time I used it brought a little hope to me. There was a time in my life where happiness and joy did not come easy. In fact, It was like a rollercoaster. One day I would be super high up and the next I would be down.

One day I had gone to a spin bike exercise class. The instructor teaching the class spoke about being a support system to people in need and offered community and support to those of us in the class. I thought to myself “How nice! I wish that I had this kind of support when I was going through my hardtimes.” Unfortunately, the people who need the support most are sometimes the ones too scared to ask for help. For me, I lived in denial. I never wanted to talk about the bad stuff for fear of making it a reality. I never wanted to make anyone feel sad like I felt. For those of you that can’t ask for help, it is my hope that you read this and find a little peace in the world knowing that you are not alone and that good is waiting around the corner. Just hold on! Do what you need to make it through the day.

I have found that in helping others I have found inspiration and motivation for myself. I started Dani B ❤️to help women feel empowered by showing a real person (me) dealing with similar struggles and discussing the ups and downs with weight loss. I use to eat and drink my troubles away and it’s sad to say however, some days I still do. None of us are perfect! There will be times when a family or work issue arises and you find yourself slipping back into old eating and drinking habits. The key is being aware! If you mess up… start again. Sometimes the weight of life gets to heavy and you may find yourself running away. Just make sure that the place you are running to is not the same place or people you are running from.

Sharing Life, Love, and Happiness

In my past, I looked for happiness in all the wrong places. I went to bars, restaurants, and clubs in hopes to escape my sadness and loneliness. It never worked. I went home feeling even more sad. I use to think that I could buy happiness. I believed that a friend or an event could change my mood. I spent a lifetime searching for someone to see me and understand me. I wished to be helped. I begged for someone to save me.

Our perspective on how we choose to feel and see the world is in our control. Leave the past in the past and make a new future for yourself.

In the cartoon Trolls, the main character Queen Poppy (who is a beautiful, joyful and colorful troll) makes a bad decision, one that jeopardized all of her people. She was so sad and her beautiful colors dimmed to an ugly grey. It had such an impact, all the other trolls around began to fade to grey as well. Her friend Branch cheered her up by singing to her and her beautiful colors came back and so did all the other trolls around.

In life, we are all just trolls. We all have different colors but shine just as beautifully. Life is hard and sometimes we make mistakes that try to dim our light. We beat ourselves up and no longer feel the same beauty or happiness. It only takes one person to change an entire group of people. Be that person! Let your light shine so that others may find theirs.

Choose to be yourself and let go of past mistakes. Choose to make better decisions moving forward. Choose to love yourself so that you may be a light to others. Create a world that makes you happy.

Sharing Life, Love, and Happiness

It’s crazy how we like to control our lives, however sometimes no matter how much effort we put into making sure that everything is in perfect place, from time to time, things can fall apart. It’s easy to feel discouraged when events don’t work out as you had planned. Being adaptable and open-minded about change is such a beautiful quality. No matter how many lessons I am given, change is still very difficult for me.

You can put time and preparation into something, however that doesn’t mean that it will go the way you planned it. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. You don’t need to know the reason right now. In time, you will see that through your misfortune life evolves beautifully, producing an experience that wouldn’t have been possible without the altered event.

When you feel pissy or grumpy cause life isn’t going your way, take a second to think about how you can make the best of the situation you are in. Don’t think about all the ways you could have done it differently to alter the place you are at right now. You can’t change the past, but you can change the future.

Wherever you find yourself today, make the best of the situation you are in.

Dani B’s ♥️ Journal

Sharing life, love, and Happiness

It feels so nice to have a morning off from workouts. The beginning of the week was a leg day, and I was doing elevated dead lifts. I did it improperly and there was too much weight, and my back has been sore. Having had a previous back injury, it upsets me because I didn’t want to lose days working out. Luckily this morning it is feeling much better, and I am icing it every few hours. Should be good to go by tomorrow. I also scheduled a cupping massage so I should be all fixed up soon. Having my back hurt and just feeling sore and tired made me kind of sad yesterday. I thought “Oh no! What if I can’t work out?What if it gets any worse and I don’t make my goal.”

This event reminds me of how often in life we go into the worst-case scenarios. Instead of just chilling out and saying “my back is a little sore I am going to ice it and it will feel better soon,” our mind directly goes to the worse things possible. I am more aware of my thoughts now. I notice that I am constantly playing out scenarios in my head and I think we do this to protect ourselves. We feel as though if we think of all the bad stuff ahead of time that when it happens it can’t hurt us. The funny thing about this is that in thinking all these scenarios you’re almost telling your mind that it is going to happen. It also poses the question – “How often do we not start goals for fear of failure?” The idea that it is better not to start so we don’t let ourselves down.

My life has been very routine lately. It is something that is very difficult for me. I am the kind of “fly by the seat of my pants person”, spontaneous, however with my goals I have to be more routine. I am enjoying the success it is bringing but at times it can be exhausting. Because everything is so scheduled I have decided to make the best of my scheduled time. To have fun while I am cleaning the kitchen, at the workouts, with the meal prepping. To me life is all about love and all about fun. If you’re not enjoying it then what’s the point in doing it. I am finding my balance. I am finding happiness in the little things.

Starting any kind of journey is hard. For those of you that are starting a new job, starting a new diet, starting a workout program, starting a seminar, starting a degree, you have to change your old patterns in order to have success in what you are striving to achieve. It’s not easy and in fact, somedays it just freakin sucks. If you can look at as a new adventure and put a new label on it. It makes it so much nicer. When I was a little girl, we were given a lot of household chores. I always wanted to play and have fun and when i had to do chores I would pretend that it was my fun, play time like riding a bike or jumping on the trampoline. When I washed dishes, I would mimic Joy dishwashing liquid commercials “look at these dirty dishes, Joy its tough on grease and dirty pots and pans look how clean these dishes are now.” While folding laundry and mopping floors I would put on a princess outfit and makeup and pretend like I was Cinderella and sing “someday my prince will come.” I always completed my chores and it never felt like I was even doing them. I guess I grew up and forgot my childlike Imagination.

You have everything that you need bundled up in a light inside you!! Shine!!!! Be silly, be childlike, and make your passions a reality and enjoy every second of it!