⋆.ೃ࿔*:・ CANCER — DAENA VELARYON
⋆. how does daena react to emotional manipulation?
daena, at all stages of her life, is incredibly guarded, so even when she is younger, and more naive, she has little trust in anyone, even if they are older, and offering comfort, or parental affection. she keeps anyone who isn't her family at arms-length, and even then, she still distances herself from her mother, and her twin brother. not to say she is entirely unsusceptible- as a teenager, she is full of self-loathing, so she laps up attention of any kind. as an adult, however, she'll spot that from a mile away, and be insulted you thought her stupid enough to try.
if it were to come from her nieces and nephews, however...they know how to manipulate her ass! she loves children, and it doesn't take much persuading for her to buy them new dresses, or toys, or books, especially if they shed a few tears to convince her.
⋆. what is daena's most treasured family tradition?
the way daena's family looks changes so much throughout her life, so her family traditions change with each version of it.
when she was a young child, her father, laenor, was deeply attentive when he was not making merry with his...extremely close male friends. he was endeavour to read her and her twin brother stories each night, and jacaerys always let her choose. she'd pester him for tales about his time in the stepstones, and the heroics of prince daemon- as well as details of maegor's reign, and jaehaerys’ after him.
when daemon married her mother, and they lived on dragonstone, for rhaenyra's nameday, daena and her brood of siblings would clamber into their bed in the morning (daemon was not a happy camper), and shower her with the presents they'd made and organised for. they would break their fast in her chambers, as a family, and would clamber down onto the beach, and play in the water.
in her brother's court, daena played a large part in raising her nieces and nephews, and essentially became a beloved matriarch of the dynasty, even if she had no children of her own. when she was eventually ushered away from court, and given blackpearl as compensation, she lives alone- but received many visits from her favoured pseudo-children. elaena and her children, naerys (until her death), and daeron ii and his wife, all endeavoured to keep their beloved aunt company. she can never escape these damn kids, even as they've grown up-- and she doesn't want to! these are her babies, and she shares meals with them as often as she can, gifting all of the little ones necklaces, or swords she has made for them.
⋆. what is a cherished memory daena holds close?
i think holding her sister's children for the first time is a big one, especially daena the younger. they are proof that the terrible times are behind them, and even after so much death, there is still such light that can be made and brought forth. they are her hope, a motivation for daena to continue to work towards a better future. she's a big fat sap, basically.
i also think daena really does cherish her childhood friendship with her aunt, helaena. it was simpler times, digging around in the dirt for whatever bug helaena desired for her collection, since helaena had been forbidden by her mother to dirty herself in the gardens. she was essentially daena's first love, and she will always be remembered fondly, even if their friendship ended abruptly.
⋆. how does daena express love & care?
if we're speaking in terms of love languages, daena shows her love through acts of service. she takes deep enjoyment in looking after her younger siblings, and eventually, her nieces and nephews. she will take the time to brush and braid hair, dress them, attend to their lessons and education, all to ensure that they understand they are very much cared for. she is also a big gift-giver! she runs name-days like the damn navy, and everyone in her life gets a mountain of personalised gifts from her every year.