#cross-quadrant question

:< - THE PROBLEM IS, I HAVE A MOIRAIL WHO I D3V3LOPED BLACK F33LINGS FUR AND THEY'RE VERY EMOTIONALLY VULNERABLE, SO I DON'T WANT TO PUSH/PULL THEM INTO A RELATIONSHIP WHERE THEY JUST BREAK!!

:< - I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO IN THIS SITUATION, BECAUSE I DON'T F33L PALE FUR THEM ANYMORE AND WANT A KISMESISSITUDE, BUT THEY'RE FLUSHED FOR ME AND PROBABLY WON'T CONVERT. I DON'T THINK I COULD HANDLE HAVING THEM IN A RED QUADRANT FOR ANY LONGER, SO PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE.

Oh dear, that's quite the dilema furend!

I've had a good think about this one, and there's a few ways you could appurroach it!

I hate to tell you this furend, but due to the conflicting nature of both of your f33lings, and the disparity in the quadrants, no quadrant will be truly viable fur you two. As it currently stands, at least.

So, it's obvious from what you've described that being completely upfront from the start would likely only end in disaster. That doesn't mean, howefur, that you can't be upfront at all-- but you may n33d to "set the scene" a little befur you and they would be comfurtable with it! (As comfurtable as one can be with a quadrant-breakup, of course.)

As fur how to do that-- if they have a diffurent purrson they are furends with, I'd start hinting to Moirail that they should hang out with that purrson instead! St33r them towards a reliable source of furendliness, that isn't you. Basically, try to lighten your own pale load by dispersing it to others to start with.

This will ensure they won't be, as you've described, as ready to break.

If they don't have anybody you think you could st33r them to, though, you may have to brave it!

It s33ms to me that they haven't b33n very good at reciprocating their moirail duties, if your f33lings have had time to develop into pitch. If you have to tell them, start with that!

To be completely honest, furend, from what you've described at least, they aren't ready to be in any quadrant, and a kismesstitude would purrobably wind up being toxic fur you both!

I know it's always furry hard to end a quadratic relationship, especially if you still have some sort of quadrant-based f33lings fur them, but this may be a time where it's best fur you!

TLDR;

St33r your current-moirail toward a diffurent furend they could rely on fur moirail duties, and tell them they haven't reciprocated paleness, let alone flushedness. I would genuinely advise against acting on your pitch f33lings, unfurtunately, as I believe it would not lead anywhere good fur you with their current state!