Hello. I donāt know if itās the quarantine, or the fact that work is a lot heavier for me in it, but Iāve been feeing down a lot more than usual lately. Iād heard youāre a really positive person, spreading good vibes wherever you go. So, any advice for this walking sad here? - Cavum
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HALLO CAVUM NICE TO MEET YOU, I FEEL HONORED THAT YOU DROP BY IN HERE HELLO!
Advice! OF COURSE I HAVE ADVICE, NOW LISTEN HERE TO THIS RACCOONIE MACCAROONIE
Thatās what you gonna do!Ā
Iām really happy that you wrote to me when youāre feeling bad. Thatās a very wonderful thing to do. It doesnāt matter who you go to, so long you feel comfortable, safe, and trusty, itās always such a wonderful thing to do to go look for someone. I am in no ways an expert, but going to a friend, or to a virtual moon raccoon, is a good thing to do and Iām so proud of you and so happy for you for doing so. Reaching out to speak of what youāre feeling sounds like something so little and yet it isnāt, it can indeed be one of the toughest steps for some!
and you know what? You already did it, which means youāve given the worst step, so from now on there is nothing any worse! Once youāve decided to jump into the water, the fear is gone so you fear no more, okay? Youāre in a safe nice spot with raccoonie, buddyĀ (oĀ“ā½`o)
Now back to the advice, Iām real when I tell you to keep feeling sad. Because you know what feelings are? They are like little animals that live in the wild and your heart is a little hut in the middle of it. So sometimes, the animals invite themselves in. Like, youāre there just chilling and SUDDENLY THEREāS A PUMA THERE LIKE BRO I DIDNāT CALL YOU. Because thatās how they work! Weāre not likeĀ āImma feel sadā THEN we feel sad, or happy, or anything. Weāre like vessels and feelings come and go on their own, and all we can do is deal with them!
So the bad and the sad are little wild animals too. You donāt invite them, they welcome themselves in and make themselves comfortable. The problem is that they make YOU uncomfortable, and whatās worse, sometimes they decide to stay for longer than expected. But you know what youāre going to do? You let them stay. Because letting them stay is the only way you can convince them to go away.
Imagine if you try to lock that puma in a cage. Itās only going to get angry. Itās only going to start clawing at the bars, and no matter how strong the cage is, the animal is immortal and will keep clawing at it for as long as it needs, and, immortal as it is, it will sooner or later break free. And the longer it spends in the cage, the angrier! And you know what an angry beast does?Ā
HAVOC. CHAOS. D I S A S T E R.
Itās going to wreck your hut, buddy! You donāt want your hut to be ruined, itās YOUR little hut!!!Ā
So in some way itās like that. Puma dangerous, huge, and invited itself in, and you donāt want it there, true. You donāt want it there and you want it to leave...but if you cage it, or if you try to force it to leave, itās only going to turn against you, and itās going to make it worse :c
So what do we do when a Puma of Sad is nested in our hut?Ā
We let it stay there. But, of course, we canāt also let the little tiny shit make itself TOO comfortable that it will decide to stay FOREVER!! WE CANāT ALLOW THAT, WHO TOLD THAT LITTLE SHIT THATāS OK? >:|
So what do we do if, even after letting it stay, it doesnāt leave?
Well, we learn how it wants to be treated. If it wants to be petted, or if it just wants you to acknowledge it. If it wants a snack, if it needs a littleĀ āShooā. All of this metaphorical, of course. What matters is learning how this little puma needs to be treated, and then, in the correct way, shoo it away. Not picking it up and trying to force it out, nor caging it; we get close, we analyze it, we pet it, and we ask it to leave. We ask and insist until the puma ON ITS OWN gets up on its paws and goesĀ āOkay, sorry for disturbing youā and leaves.
I know it can come off as abstract. As in, ok, the metaphor is there, so what does it MEAN in real life?Ā
Well, it means that you need to acknowledge your Sad, and learn a little from it. You master your hut. Donāt let it know more of your hut than YOU know of the puma. Itās your house, and you wonāt keep unwanted guests in there, and will definitely not allow said guest to take over YOUR house!Ā
So this is what weāre going to do, buddy. First of all, donāt feel bad for feeling bad. Feel bad freely. Feel bad. ITās human, itās real, and it means that you have a heart. Feel bad and remember, remember ALWAYS, that itās ok to not be ok. You canāt always be at your best. You sometimes canāt even be at your 1%.Ā
Thatās wonderful, if you remember, while youāre feeling bad, that youāre still you and youāre doing your best, even if your best means doing nothing, because sometimes thatās what you need.Ā
Itās ok to not be ok, and itās ok if you donāt know what the puma wants to be motivated to leave. Itās not your fault if you try a thousand ways and it still stays; it is IT who is stubborn and wanting to stay, you didnāt do anything. Try a little at knowing it better to know what it wants, and never deny its existence or it will make itself too comfortable.
And reaching out for a friend is always wonderful, too. Itās ok if you canāt do some things alone. Weāre not born alone, as much as thatās said. Weāre literally a social species, not in the sense ofĀ āIf youāre not extrovert youāll dieā but as in we literally have people around us. And some of us are willing to help someone that needs it, even if itās just help at re-learning how to blink. No matter howĀ āsillyā orĀ āunimportantā it may feel, asking for help when you need it is always a step forwards, okay buddy?
So whatever the source of your Sad is, thatās not your fault, and itās ok to feel bad. The world nowadays is really tough, dark, and sometimes cruel, and we canāt do much about it.
But you know what is a blessing and absolutely a punk weapon in a dark world?
In a world this dark and cruel, someone that dares to be a light and soft is the most punk and rebel thing that there can be.Ā
So you continue being this light and soft punk you are, aye? I donāt know you but goddammit do I get some soft and goodhearted vibes from across the screen. It feels like youāre a good hearted person that is trying their best, who means no harm, and who always wants others to be happy. And you know? That makes YOU one of those punks with light and softness in a world that asks you to be dark and tough.
Ā So you keep that up, aye! It doesnāt need to be a huge flame, just a tiny little pipsy squeaky little ember will do. And your light has nothing to do with your productivity or your joy. You can be a Walking Sad, and still be that light. And I think you will know what really makes of you that little light.Ā
You keep being you, with this rebelious soft sparkle, and keep feeling sad! Because sad is ok, and so it is not being ok. Itās the only way we can later on be ok, just like there is only day after the night, rainbow after rain, or smile after Sad.
And you come for any of your friends or acquaintances you trust and feel comfy with if the puma doesnāt leave. Maybe we canāt get it to leave, but weāll always bring some of your favorite snacks and sit with you so you donāt feel so threatened or uncomfortable with it around, and weāll sit there with you until it leaves, and even after that, until you want us to, aye?
Youāre not alone, buddy, and youāre not ok and thatās ok, and you WILL be okay, and that is a promise! So keep looking forwards to that, my friend, donāt you feel hopeless or like giving up because I aināt giving up on you, aye!!!
