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Masculinity Isn’t the Enemy

True masculinity isn’t about oppression or control. It’s about:

• Leadership: Taking responsibility for your family and community.

• Protection: Being a shield for those you love—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

• Stability: Providing strength and consistency in a world that often feels chaotic.

When did these values become something to hate?

The Real Problem is Division

Let’s be real: Black men and women are not each other’s enemies. The system we live in wants us divided because unity between us is a threat to white supremacy.

• The breakdown of the Black family wasn’t an accident—it was engineered through systemic racism, mass incarceration, and economic sabotage.

• The constant portrayal of Black men as violent, irresponsible, or unemotional? That’s propaganda designed to weaken us as a collective.

And now? We’re arguing over whether masculinity itself is harmful when the truth is: the lack of positive masculinity is what’s hurting us most.

What Masculinity Really Looks Like

It’s time to reclaim what masculinity means—because it’s not what society tells you it is. Real masculinity looks like:

• Raising your kids with love and discipline.

• Standing up for your community when no one else will.

• Treating your partner with respect while leading with strength and compassion.

• Being emotionally intelligent and in control—not suppressing emotions but mastering them.

This isn’t “toxic.” This is what builds families, stabilizes communities, and creates legacies.

Stop Letting Them Divide Us

Black men are not oppressing Black women—and we never have been on any systemic level. Both Black men and women have been oppressed by the same system designed to keep us at odds with each other.

The truth? We need each other more than ever. Masculinity isn’t something to be feared or torn down—it’s something to be celebrated when it’s rooted in love, respect, and accountability.

A Call to Action

To my brothers: Be the example of what real masculinity looks like. Lead with integrity, protect with strength, and build with purpose. Don’t let anyone tell you that being a man is inherently harmful—it’s not.

To my sisters: Understand that masculinity isn’t your enemy—toxic systems are. When we work together instead of tearing each other down, we’re unstoppable.