This is probably such a dumb question but I recently got out of a very hardcore law of attraction /law of assumption community and though I now finally realize its all bullshit ive been in it since i was young and they really drilled this stuff in my head. Recently my pet passed all of the sudden without warning and i did think about her death a lot and it shoved me right back into the mindset and all i feel is that im responsible because i thought/imagined her dying a lot in my life bcs of anxiety and just intrusive thoughts. Now for the question: do you have any articles, sites whatever with evidence that the whole manifesting inst real? My algorithm is completely fucked and all i get is "evidence" in the way of stories, ted talks and youtubers that it is real💀 its so annoying how people can just spread this as a fact
Sorry to hear that. Here's a few links:
https://skepdic.com/lawofattraction.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-blame-game/201609/the-truth-about-the-law-attraction
https://alexandriathibodeaux.medium.com/debunking-the-the-law-of-attraction-championing-the-principle-of-attraction-instead-dfeb8cc4c4f
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/the-law-of-attraction-is-a-dangerous-delusion.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/embracing-the-dark-side/200911/the-law-attraction-science-faith-and-the-cult-positive-thought
https://skepticalinquirer.org/exclusive/secrets-and-lies/
You might find Derren Brown's "The System" and QualiaSoup's "Superstition" useful too.
It's not really any different than prayer, and has many of the same problems, such as how contradictory desires are resolved (the farmer wants rain, the bride wants sunshine), and why believers aren't unquestionably more successful than non-believers.
In short, the Law of Attraction is magical thinking that hinges on cognitive flaws such as Confirmation Bias - the tendency to spot "hits" with your expectations, but not the "misses" - Unfalsifiability - particularly the claim that if it didn't work, then that's your fault for not having enough "faith," because it always works to the True Believers - and Apophenia - the tendency to see meaningful connections between unrelated phenomena.
It may be wise to see someone to talk through some of this. You've been indoctrinated into a cult, and undoing that cult mentality isn't going to happen overnight. Your school or work might offer access to a therapist for a few sessions as part of your enrolment/employment benefits.
As with any former believer, give yourself a break. Acknowledge what you've come out of, be proud of what you've already done, and recognize that it's going to take some time to unwind your former ways of thinking. You're going to slip back, but what's important is recognizing it, interrupting it, and making new, better, healthier mental habits.
This is particularly true when you've been encouraged to adopt comforting lies that give you the illusion of control, when the alternative is accepting that much of the world is random and arbitrary. Although I actually find that comforting - the universe isn't out to help you, but it isn't out to get you either.
"The universe isn’t fair. But it isn’t unfair either. It’s indifferent. To you and everyone else. Which seems fair." -- Ricky Gervais
The universe is indifferent, which is why good things happen to good people, good things happen to bad people, bad things happen to good people, and bad things happen to bad people. And it means that the most important things of all are what you do, not what you can talk the universe into doing for you or on your behalf.
