Unless he's using it to actively harm others, I don't give a shit - he could be a trans women who hasn't discovered herself yet, or nonbinary (or even intersex).

It's not my place to judge or gatekeep queer identities. Nor is it anyone else's business.

“There is hatred out there,” Ferrell told The Independent. “It’s very real and it’s very unsafe for trans people in certain situations. … But I don’t know why trans people are meant to be threatening to me as a cis male. I don’t know why Harper is threatening to me.” 

I saw a post earlier that took a study on self-identified sexual aggressors and turned it into a "cis men suck/cis men dni" generalization. Then another about a cis intersex man who was castrated at birth by a female surgeon who just hated men/boys that much. It got me thinking.

I've met and dated shitty cis men. I've also met wonderful ones. Same with cis women and queer people; some have been just as harmful (or more). Generalizing entire groups like this is harmful. In my experience, it doesn't reduce harm; it makes those groups more defensive and escalates everything into a vicious cycle that hurts people who don't deserve it.

Most boys/men grow up with rigid, damaging messaging: "man up," don't cry, don't show weakness, your worth is in what you provide or achieve, suppress needs for help, take risks, etc. Those scripts absolutely damage men's mental health, relationships, perception of women and other men, and even lifespans. The stats are clear: men die by suicide at much higher rates, die younger on average, make up the vast majority of workplace deaths and homelessness, and often face real barriers around emotional expression, custody, or asking for help without seeming "less masculine."

Rigid sex-role expectations and cultural norms hurt everyone; they just distribute the costs and benefits differently. Men get certain social permissions and advantages at the high end (leadership, risk tolerance paying off for some), but they pay with higher variance: more men at both the extreme top and the extreme bottom. The "privilege" narrative often ignores the parts where the system chews men up and discards them; especially working-class, POC, neurodivergent, or non-conforming men.

It's the same with women internalizing harmful stuff under the same pressures. We can acknowledge real patterns and average differences without sliding into "therefore all members of group X are bad/oppressors."

The "cis men suck" rhetoric slides very easily into "all men suck" because the underlying logic is often essentialist: treating maleness or masculinity itself as tainted or inherently dangerous, rather than specific behaviors or cultural patterns. Once that frame is normalized, transmasc and trans men get pulled under the umbrella whether they like it or not ("you're socialized as male," "male energy," etc.). Trans women catch it from the other side: suddenly their birth sex is the only thing that matters and they're framed as infiltrators or predators.

I've already experienced this flip-flopping with intersex stuff: people weaponizing whichever gender lens hurts most in the moment. It's especially frustrating when people in transmasc/trans male spaces echo "all men are trash" rhetoric for clout or solidarity, then act shocked when it gets reflected back at them. You can't spend years calling masculinity suspect and then expect everyone to magically exempt your masculinity when it's convenient. That inconsistency erodes trust inside communities and hands outsiders easy ammo.

I've seen firsthand how bodies and histories don't fit the neat oppressor/oppressed scripts a lot of online discourse demands. Generalizing "men" (cis, trans, or otherwise) as a monolith doesn't protect anyone; it just trains people to sort each other into threat categories instead of dealing with individuals.

It's okay to want better socialization for boys and men without hating men as a category. And it's okay to push back when your own community imports rhetoric that eventually bites them (and you) in the ass.

Credit @moonastrogirl

Venus is feminine energy, Venus represents the womb and Venus also represents the feminine energy around a man. But if a man was born on a Venus/Moon day (Friday and Monday) he will be more likely to exhibit feminine like traits. And these men are quite popular among women and women’s spaces. Into astrology, healing, intuitive. These are the type of men any woman would fall in love with and quickly because they are social, they know how to behave and they will even get in touch with you on a deeper level. Well that’s the good part of it.

Now let me tell you why if they don’t also have a healthy dose of masculine energy that will affect badly their personal and private relationship with women. They will abuse, use, drug women often younger because easily manipulated. Aka P.Daddy.

They want so badly to be a woman that they will often go after women who portray masculine traits so they can use them and no one will ever question them if those said women go nuts and they end up in a psychic ward or go crazy at them. They drive women crazy on purpose. They’ll torture them to extract that feminine energy for their own use. They are nothing less than energy vampires but especially made for women.

The term womb envy is directly linked to the Venus phenomenon I am talking about. I think weak Venusian men are those who created that phenomenon. This even can be moon ruled men like moon is their AK or AMK or cancer men too I have seen it so much it’s crazy. Even in my readings. But honestly now times are changing women are understanding that even if it’s a good guy on paper well he’s a bad guy energetically.

I am really hoping more women will also get rid of these men and not encourage them to get close to them.

A man should really be more masculine than feminine not in a toxic masculine way but aligned and proactive and not in women’s spaces to extract and use women. As a woman with a prominent Venus I really dislike men like that I get rid of them so quickly as soon as I see one of these signs.

Here are the signs :

- He’s feminine, will sit in a feminine way, talk in a feminine way and about some products women like in a feminine way (Aka perfumes)

- He’s an artist or has an artsy side but will have issues with a lot of women in art spaces, he probably creates rivalries between women just for the sake of collecting more energy all at once

(like yeah men can be artsy duh but not have issues all the time with women in those spaces, feminine energy is creative energy)

- He’s prone to gossip about another woman’s flaws in front of a woman he desires to use or get close to sexually because sex is the strongest form of energy harvesting

(I am for women’s rights and wrongs and it’s not a man’s business and he should be working to get money not talking about women)

- He makes fun of something a woman’s creating or when a woman is just having fun or talking about something that brings her joy

(Bringing her down so she doesn’t do better than him but giving her enough compliments she doesn’t compute with what is happening)

- He makes the women closest to him do a lot of the labor even if he’s an adult. For free. When he can pay someone to do it for him.

(like a 30 something year old dude living alone but his mama is doing his laundry each week she even irons his clothes)

- If a woman asks him for a service he will take his time pretend he can’t do it or do it half way so she keep on asking him again and he can keep on being around her talking to her longer. Like he want to keep the access to her longer. Again using a woman time and energy.

(Mind you a real healthy man won’t do that).

- He frequently says he don’t have money when a woman is next to him and try to get any new woman quickly in his bed to spend the least amount of money and time but still extract the most energy out of her.

Placements :

- A weak venus or debilitated or aspecting harsh planets like Sun/Mars/Saturn

- Venus ruled by a weak or debilitated placement.

For instance : Aries/Scorpio/Capricorn Venus as mars is exactly in Capricorn so having a cancer mars for any of this venus is bad news for a man.

- Mars in cancer : better placement for a woman and really bad for a man

- Moon is weak or debilitated or aspecting harsh planets like Sun/Mars/Saturn plus Ketu and Rahu

- Sun/Mars in water houses for a man (4th/8th/12th house) or in water signs (exception to Scorpio cause ruled by mars so naturally more direct and active)

Let me know what you think about this post and if you want to add something let me know in the comment section. Thank you for reading me 🌙

I got your backs guys ((Bisexual woman hereee))