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Hi Guys. I’m Cindy and I’m a Spiritual Medium.

And today I wanted to just talk to you guys a little bit about what meditation is. There’s a lot of questions about being unable to meditate. So what does meditation look like? What happens when you have all these thoughts in your heads? I just want to dive a little bit and talk about meditation.

So firstly, what exactly is meditation and for each person that answers, it’s really different and really unique. For some people meditation is just a way of calming the mind, getting, gaining better clarity, getting focused. For the others, meditation could be taking a stroll on the beach and just getting sort of a different perspective. It’s a way just to quiet everything, go into a deeper level of thought or deeper understanding of things. And I, you know, one thing I keep stressing is that there is no one size fits all type of meditation.

For some people, it is doing a very zen-like meditation where you could, calm on a pillow, you know, hands together, very focused on the breath. For others. It’s taking a hike and just getting into nature and just completely getting away from all the distractions. And that is actually also going into meditat… , meditative states. For others, it’s the sound of water – going to the beach. For some people, they need a guided meditation. So if you don’t, not sure what a guided meditation is, that is where you listen to somebody’s voice and they give you instructions, like stepping stones. For example: “breathe in, breathe calm. We are going to now follow certain steps or imagine yourself walking in the park” and that is what a guided meditation is. Guided Meditations are usually accompanied by some music as well, so that in order to get you in a sort of trance-like state, and I do like guided meditations because they’re really good at actually getting you to switch off any thoughts that you have.

So it’s a good way, if you’re a beginner, and you want to get into meditation a guided meditation is a very good start and it gets you going. So for the, for the big question of being unable to meditate and what should it look like? Meditation – as I said, there is no one size fits all. It looks different for every person. But I’m going to, you know, tackle three main topics. So firstly what happens with all the thoughts in your head? Two, your body moving during meditation. Is that, is that fine? Is it not? And thirdly, what does actual meditation look like? What should, what could you expect?

So firstly when it comes to thoughts, having thoughts in your head while you’re meditating is not a bad thing. It is actually your body’s way of clearing any lingering questions, any thoughts or any things you don’t have quite answers to? Because a lot of time I find when I meditate, things that I did think about a while ago will come through to me. Those questions will come through to me while I’m meditating. So those are the thoughts coming in and it’s just your mind’s way of answering any unanswered questions. And it’s also a way for you to start focusing on those questions. So if you think about those questions you can like, okay, is this relevant for now? Is there something that I need to look at, address or focus on? So it’s actually going in meditation. Having those thoughts is actually a good thing because it gives you a chance to actually just prioritize what’s important, where you’re going and what you’re doing. So don’t worry if you stop meditating and you’re like, I have all these thoughts in my head, what am I doing? That’s fine.

Go with it. Keep on breathing through it and you’ll find that thoughts will become less and less. But the, you know, most of the time they are still there and that’s not a bad thing at all. Um, secondly, moving during meditation, perfectly fine. Don’t even worry about it. Don’t even think about it, going, ‘I should be sitting dead still’. No, as I said, different forms of meditation for each person it’s different, and if walking in a beach is meditative to you, then obviously you’re going to be moving. But if you’re in a zen-like position and you start moving, that is just your body’s way of readjusting to the energy around and actually just getting comfortable in getting into it. Sometimes I might be swaying a little bit and that’s just getting my… getting comfortable in, in the meditation and getting the position right. So that’s fine. Moving during meditation, not a problem, not a worry. Not a stress. Don’t worry about it. Don’t even think that you’re doing something wrong. Perfectly normal, perfectly.

Thirdly. What does the meditation actually look like? Feel like? What can you expect? So this is sound a little bit crazy, but meditation is really personal to each person. Or envision a park. Your version of a stream or a park is different to mine. So what you’re going to see in the meditation is really, it depends on you and how you grew up, what, what your surrounding is and what you envisioned. Based on that, what I can say, meditation is meant to feel light calming and just relaxing. And when you come out of it, you come at it with a sense of more clarity and, and sense of more answers to questions that you may have had going into it.

So that, that’s the overriding thing that most people will experience in meditation. And that’s an overriding sense of calmness, sense of peace and a sense of just oneness with themselves. And it is the loveliest thing to actually go into meditation. And even if you don’t go into full set of meditation and you spend 10, 15 minutes listening to meditative music, it is so calming, so freeing and just so. It gives you a little, sort of, it’s like a checkout time, time that you can actually just be with yourself and just go, okay, this was today, this is, this is what it was like and just destress. So meditation for me, I find that it’s really good for just distressing at the end of the day and just putting, putting, putting at ease my mind that maybe thinking about everything that’s going on or the next client that I have or things that I needed to do.

Meditation is a good way to just go, bring it down a notch, bring your level down to calm so you can actually have, when you go to bed as well, a good night’s rest because you’ve actually calmed the mind down and actually got it to a state with can just go, ‘hmm, I’m at peace’. So that’s really good. So overriding thing, what I’d suggest is, if meditation is something that you want to get into, look at doing, exploring. Start with a guided meditation. There are many guided meditations on YouTube, online, you name it, you can find it. There’s many of them. Find one that you like the person’s voice. So that’s why I’m going to suggest shop around kind of a thing because again, one size fits all. Nope. Shop around, find one that you like and start small. So start with a small five minute one, a 10 minute one and then maybe work up to 15 minute one.

I know there are longer meditations like half an hour to 40 minutes. If this is your first time, don’t start with such long meditations because it’s going to be hard for you to get into it. Start Small and work your way up as you, it’s like a muscle that you need to practice and refine. And as you practice it more and more, you will get better at it. So start off with a small guided meditation and then slowly get into it or even just do meditative music and to see if that’s just something more your thing, if you’re not, the guided one doesn’t do it for you, then just try the music and see how you feel with that. But I encourage you to just try it out, see if this is something for you. If you get to enjoy it and just have fun with it, it’s not meant to be something so serious.

It’s just something to be something. Just, just another way of actually just relaxing the mind, getting better clari, clarity, getting better focus. So with that guys, as always, I, as always, if you liked this video, go down there, click the like button. If you want to know, if you want to have more notifications from me, click the subscribe button. I would love to get to know everybody and if you have any thoughts or questions about this, drop me a comment and I will try to comment, try to reply to everyone’s comments in there so I can’t wait to see you in the next video.

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Hi guys, it’s Cindy, Spiritual Medium.

And today I just want to talk about being silent and what actually being silent means and involves.

You know, I don’t know … everyone grew up pretty differently, but the way I grew up, Mom used, my mother always used to tell me that God gave you two ears and one month, one month, so be quiet and listen more than you talk. And that’s kind of what I want to talk to you about today because I’ve seen a growing trend of confusion and miscommunication happening and that happens purely because the other party is not listening. We’ve spent so much time just talking and, and focusing on getting our point across that we’ve lost that of actually listening to someone else’s point and the point that they are trying to make, and I know it’s kind of sucky to say you need to listen more, but that’s exactly what we need to do.

We actually need to take time to stop and actually be silent and actually listen to what the people around you are saying. What are they needing from you and what are they judging? And when you actually be silent and actually listen to the feedback that they are giving you, it is only then that you can actually learn how to accept that feedback, how to accept constructive feedback and not take it as an attack and actually learn and grow from it. Because it’s so easy to, when somebody says, oh, I don’t like what you’re doing to just automatically get on the back foot, but when you actually take the time to find out, “hey, what is it that you want from me? What is it that you need from me? What is, what is it that I can do to improve? What am I doing well and what am I improving on? “

And when you take the time to be silent, you can actually have those open and honest discussions without anybody feeling bad, feeling hurt. Because in order also to be an effective leader, you need to be able to take feedback effectively. And the first way to start in building a very good relationship with yourself and with everyone around you is to actually, in all honesty, be silent. And it’s sometimes so hard to just sit there and listen and not jump in and want to say something. And if you’ve got kids, you know how hard that is to just sit there and let them talk and not jump in and correct. Firstly what they’ve said because they’ve said it incorrectly. But to actually just sit there and listen because half the time it sounds like garbage that they’re saying and the other, but in that other half that you, that you miss, you actually hear the true essence of what they’re saying.

And I know a lot, a lot of times, and I’ve been guilty of this before, where we switch off too soon and when I say we switch off, we start listening and we think, okay, today I’m going to be listening. I’m going to be fully present. And you start listening and then you get to the point where you like, I don’t like what I’m hearing. So you switch off and in the moment that you switch off, you are not opening yourself up to the rest of what they’re saying. And in the rest of it, you may have missed a gem, a nugget, it may be that 90% of what they spoke about is crap, but that 10% is the 10% that you needed to hear. But if you were not open the whole time, all you got was the crap. So this is why actually listening and being fully present, fully opening yourself up to that person, fully letting love in, as I spoke about in a previous episode about letting love, when you let love in and just open and listen and you are silent, you are opening up so much more opportunities to grow, so much more opportunities to take back, to take on feedback, to take on information that you didn’t know was available to you.

This, you know, this is also the time where people you hear you, when you’re being silent, you start hearing what is needed. And that could be your next business idea for all you know, or the next, you know, bright thing that makes you millions, for example. But if you don’t take the time to listen, how will you ever know? How will you ever know what your market needs, what your family needs, what your staff needs, what your business needs, what your children needs, what your husband, your wife, what anybody needs, if you don’t listen.

So I ask you, just for today, just when somebody talks to you, and says “You know, I’ve got something serious to talk to you about”. I encourage you today to just listen and be silent. So I ask you, can you be silent today?

Thanks guys. And as always, you know what you, want to do. If you really like this, would like to know more, or hear more, click the subscribe button, click the link buttons. They’re all there. So just do whichever one is easiest and best for you and I shall speak, speak to you guys again soon.

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