Arya Leanne Cooper - The ESTJ
DEDICATED -Â Seeing things to completion borders on an ethical obligation for ESTJs. Tasks aren't simply abandoned because they've become difficult or boring - people with the ESTJ personality type take them up when they are the right thing to do, and they will be finished so long as they remain the right thing to do.
Arya's a very dedicated person, but not in the way one may thing. She's dedicated to the image of herself that she keeps up. Arya tries very hard to make sure the walls put up around her are very strong and unbreakable, and she continues to do so even if there are cracks and breaks in them. Arya's also dedicated in being there for the younger generations. She's more emotionally capable to care for them seeing as they're innocent. Arya doesn't want to 'preserve' innocence, seeing as that doesn't teach them anything, but keep them a kid as long as they can until its ripped away from them, yet to be fine when it does happen. They're essential to her. Such as when Fabian (she calls him Ian) and making sure he's okay with his education and sex life and whatever he's got going on.
STRONG-WILLEDÂ -Â A strong will makes this dedication possible, and ESTJs don't give up their beliefs because of simple opposition. ESTJs defend their ideas and principles relentlessly, and must be proven clearly and conclusively wrong for their stance to budge.
Arya's not easy to prove wrong. She'll always believe she's right with anything that her mindset is in. She's extremely defensive over herself and her points of views. If someone were to call her weak, she would defend herself immensely with a fiery anger to go with it, and the need to prover herself would only grow.
DIRECT AND HONESTÂ -Â ESTJs trust facts far more than abstract ideas or opinions. Straightforward statements and information are king, and ESTJ personalities return the honesty (whether it's wanted or not).
Arya's one to tell you something like it is. She doesn't beat around the bush and doesn't lie to make you feel better. For this, Arya's very blunt. The benefit to keep others in a simpler dark does nothing but make them way more softer than they have to be. Arya believes when people are old enough, that they need to face the truth with many things. She'll never contribute to pretending like things are lesser than they are. It helps no one.
LOYAL, PATIENT, & RELIABLEÂ -Â ESTJs work to exemplify truthfulness and reliability, considering stability and security very important. When ESTJs say they'll do something, they keep their word, making them very responsible members of their families, companies and communities.
When the rare moment comes that Arya finds someone she calls a friend, she's extremely loyal to them as long as they're loyal back. She isn't someone who gives something that she doesn't get back when it comes to friendship, or gets something she doesn't want that she wouldn't give. A true, true friend to Arya is someone that'll be protected and nurtured. Even if she may not be good at comforting and advice, Arya means well with them for the most part unless their sadness or weakness aggravates her to a whole other level. She tries with them the most, and that's however loyal she'll be. She puts them in front of her every time as well. Arya will also drop everything to be there for her friends. She's more patient with younger kids than adults like herself or older, but she can be patient. And, if anything, she's learning how to be patient.
ENJOY CREATING ORDERÂ -Â Chaos makes things unpredictable, and unpredictable things can't be trusted when they are needed most - with this in mind, ESTJs strive to create order and security in their environments by establishing rules, structures and clear roles.
Arya likes things going her way. She likes knowing what's going to happen. She likes feeling comfortable in situations that she can control. The second something goes wrong, it's a nightmare for her. The fact that demons are in the asylum, that they're not even human is the epitome of chaos to her--something she can't control. Arya's in a chaotic environment that can't be fixed. She has to live with it and she genuinely despises it. It could break her eventually in the worst of ways.
EXCELLENT ORGANIZERSÂ -Â This commitment to truth and clear standards makes ESTJs capable and confident leaders. People with this personality type have no problem distributing tasks and responsibilities to others fairly and objectively, making them excellent administrators.
Along with being direct and honest, and liking to be sure and in control of her environment or situations, Arya is very neat and clean with what she's able to control. Even in an academic manner, Arya's extremely organized, which carries into her half of her room, the things around her, and her mindset. She likes to keep things organized so she can see everything clearly, which can eventually lead to her finding out a way to take control of her life once again in some way.
INFLEXIBLE AND STUBBORN - The problem with being so fixated on what works is that ESTJs too often dismiss what might work better. Everything is opinion until proven, and ESTJ personalities are reluctant to trust an opinion long enough for it to have that chance.
This is Arya in a nutshell. Her stubbornness is one of her big weaknesses. She's extremely stubborn with the idea of trusting someone so much. "If it's not broke, don't fix it" is something she goes by when it comes to the relationships in her life. Arya's never had a genuine, romantic relationship with someone. A physical one, sure, but not one with a boyfriend and girlfriend thing. And that comes from her stubbornness and uncertainty just from observing her old friends with broken hearts. She was fine, so why would she put herself through the possibility of that pain? Arya's also not someone who likes to try things she's unfamiliar with. She also has a need to be right about everything, which isn't exactly a good thing.
UNCOMFORTABLE WITH UNCONVENTIONAL SITUATIONSÂ -Â ESTJs are strong adherents to tradition and when suddenly forced to try unvetted solutions, they become uncomfortable and stressed. New ideas suggest that their methods weren't good enough, and abandoning what has always worked before in favor of something that may yet fail risks their image of reliability.
Back to above with being stubborn and inflexible, Arya doesn't like trying new things in an emotional sense. It's very scary to her. It risks more of her losing control of the situation and her forcibly expressing how genuinely vulnerable she is. Even a hug in a very emotional moment she's trying to keep hidden makes her scream and flinch away.
JUDGMENTALÂ -Â ESTJs have strong convictions about what is right, wrong, and socially acceptable. ESTJs' compulsion to create order often extends to all things and everyone, ignoring the possibility that there are two right ways to get things done. ESTJs do not hesitate to let these "deviants" know what they think, considering it their duty to set things right.
Being judgmental is something Arya can only half control. She takes in appearance first and foremost with everything. In her head, she can call off flaws on people until she admits she can't find anything else. Arya's also extremely judgmental when people seem vulnerable or sad. It's something she genuinely can't stand--even worse if they want to 'give up' or want to end their lives. What someone doesn't normally see, though, is that Arya is extremely judgmental on herself. She hates herself and constantly reminds herself of that, while simultaneously loving herself enough to take care of herself as much as she can. She also believes she's at fault for the murder of some of her friends nearing the end of their graduation when no one told Jake to shoot them all. Arya also believes she doesn't deserve any good thing that she gets if she does. Her judgment is harsher on herself than on others, except the amount of judging on others she does is only because she tries not to concentrate on herself so much.
TOO FOCUSED ON SOCIAL STATUSÂ -Â ESTJs take pride in the respect of their friends, colleagues and community and while difficult to admit, are very concerned with public opinion. ESTJs (especially Turbulent ones) can get so caught up in meeting others' expectations that they fail to address their own needs.
This is more of Arya in high school, which wasn't all that far off from where she is now. Arya still has this mindset now, though it slowly is lessening... but slowly. The second she was seen as desirable as a friend or sex object or even 'girlfriend' in high school, Arya was a popular girl. She cheered and had friends and judged many others who were lower than her. But that didn't mean she was focused on it. What really defined that she let her social status get so into her head that Arya forgot who she was was when her new 'friends' had started to humiliate and hurt Jake--who was there for her from the start despite growing into a real creep--and she did nothing to stop it after the first failed attempt. Popularity was more important than the right thing and not giving up on people who were there for you from the start all of a sudden. And keeping up who she appears to be is still a very strong thing within Arya, but it's exhausting her day by day.
DIFFICULT TO RELAXÂ -Â This need for respect fosters a need to maintain their dignity, which can make it difficult to cut loose and relax for risk of looking the fool, even in good fun.
Arya's mind is never ending despite how exhausted it is, along with how exhausted her body is constantly. She does so much to seem fine. She does so much to think of what she has to say, and how fast she says it. She does so much to keep pretending to be the girl she wanted to be, even though an intruding subconscious tells her that it's all a lie. She does so much to keep everything as normal as possible in here that it's nearly impossible for her to really keep calm and relax. Even asleep--which she tries not to do--is a nightmare. Literally. It's all that comes to her now. Relaxing is something that isn't a part of her agenda, no matter how much she may want it to be.
DIFFICULTY IN EXPRESSING EMOTIONÂ -Â This is all evidence of ESTJs' greatest weakness: expressing emotions and feeling empathy. People with the ESTJ personality type get so caught up in the facts and most effective methods that they forget to think of what makes others happy, or of their sensitivity. A detour can be breathtakingly beautiful, a joy for the family, but ESTJs may only see the consequence of arriving at their destination an hour late, hurting their loved ones by rejecting the notion too harshly.
Arya has extreme difficulty with feeling empathetic towards others, let alone sympathy. If someone's having a problem, she's not exactly a great person to come to. If anything, she does the opposite of helping sometimes if trying to help is a complete failure within the first two seconds. Emotions are things she hates dealing with when it comes to others and especially herself. Especially herself. Arya tries in every way possible to mask deeper emotions. She's done so for so long that she's almost a professional at it, but the ways she does it can be drastic and wrong. Everything can be a distraction for her if she's feeling any negative emotion. And if someone tries forcing her into expressing what she's feeling, it's absolute chaos to her and she panics and screams. That's her weakness, her truest weakness despite believing she isn't weak. And this is why it hurts for her to not cry when she has to. It hurts to put in that much effort to control her own emotions, which won't be possible one day... and that day might come sooner than she thinks.
