#breakingtraditions

I have been extremely fortunate to find a man like my fiance. Unfortunately at the beginning of our relationship we had some clashes with the way that we lived our lives. I am a bisexual woman who is comfortable wearing a variety of clothing from both sections of the department stores. I am a college student and I have a job. He spent majority of his childhood in Mexico. The family he lived with is really religious and unfortunately doesn’t agree with a lot of things that affect who I am. 

For starters, I am bisexual. Homosexuality is frowned apon a lot. Not only within his family but a lot of the rural areas in Mexico. Mexico in general is very Homophobic. When I told my fiance, love interest at the time, that I was bisexual he seemed really uncomfortable by it. Mostly do to lack of understanding, but he told me how in mexico, where he lived, those types of things weren’t tolerated. Women were for men. He grew out of this believe. Secondly, me being in college with a job. He himself didn’t have a problem before, but his friend did. He would constantly be mocked of because he used to make as much as me. At some point he wanted me to quit my job. He said I wasn’t supposed to work. I explained to him how it didn’t matter. That the income of a man shouldn’t be more than a women. If it was supposed to be like that what was the point of me going to college. He grew out of this believe. The one thing that I really hated was the discomfort he felt when something emotionally hurt him. Around his family he was taught he wasn’t suppose to cry. “Los hombres no lloran”, men don’t cry. I explained to him how it wasn’t about him being a man, but about him being human. He grew out of this believe. 

One of the many problems with Machismo is the lack of space it gives a person to choose how a man should act. It’s like a mold that is premade for a child and with the lessons he learns and what he sees he is able to fit in that mold. In places like mexico, it is easier for ideas like this to become popular. Fortunately, as people learn more about ideas a concepts more, especially in places where this was less possible before, people push away from these ideas. Which is what the author from ‘Hombres y Machos’ was talking about.

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