#boy positivity

There's nothing wrong with being a man and doing ballet

It doesn't make you feminine. It doesn't change your sexuality. And it's not something you should be ashamed of

i love being man adjacent

i love being a man who is connected to girlhood

i love being seen as a man

i love the idea of having a full beard

i love the idea of having a flat chest

i love the idea of having a deep voice

i love the idea of being a father

i love the idea of being a husband

i love the idea of going on testosterone

i love the fact that one day i will get all those things

i love the fact that even though i am not where i want to be in my transition, i am still a man

i am a man

and i love being one

i love loving men and i love being a man who loves men

there is nothing wrong with loving being a man or loving loving men

im hopelessly full of joy and pride and love for men and for my own male identity everytime i go online and see myself addressed as such, or every time my sister calls me her brother, or everytime my mom mentions im going to be an uncle, or whenever my brother brings me into doing inherently men related tasks in my household

and nothing will stop me from spreading that joy

manhood and masculinity are experiences that can be, should be, and are full of joy and love and positivity

i love being a man, and i love loving men

I'm transfem, and I've finally gotten to doing something about it in the past couple years. I'm wearing the clothes that I like. I'm telling the barista a name that I actually feels good. And while the creature I see in the mirror is the weirdest looking girl I've ever seen, I adore her, and I'm so glad to see her throughout the day, every day.

It got me wondering if I had been missing something before. Like, there's no way the blackpill incels are right, that there is nothing in this world for a man, a boy, to do, to become, to celebrate. I've learned, without a doubt, that they're absolutely wrong and that I was missing something the whole time.

Living in this community, I've seen so many trans men my age go through masculine milestones as I'm going through the feminine ones, finding joy, living their dreams, and becoming who they are. They are showing me that there is style, beauty, and worth in being handsome, being cute in a boy way, even in doing a full horseshoe into being femboy that i could not see. There are, in fact, fascinating, attractive clothes and incredible, different types of boys I could become. Being a boy is awesome!

It's just not for me. I never noticed because I'm actually a girl.

Thank you, thank you all for showing me what I've been missing. Boys; cis, trans, and eveyone in between; keep it up. Become all that you can be. I hope you all get to see the boy in the mirror and love him like I love the girl-creature in mine.