#boy advice

hi love, theres already a very VERY cute fic by @euphorkive with the same premise! its this post <3

He was ready to give this kid boy advice!!

Boy advice.

Boy. Advice.

BOY! ADVICE!

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I want to hear his boy advice!!

Hi love! Ugh, this can be frustrating. It is not a nice feeling to not feel desired by those you're attracted to. Sometimes, the chemistry and attraction just aren't a match, and it's better to just be friends. However, for the times you sense a spark or feel sexual tension with someone, here are some tips to make your desirability more obvious to your object of affection:

Be more open and playful: Smile, laugh, and lightly touch their shoulder or arm in a playful, consensual manner. Make it clear you're open to a connection.

Show interest in their life: Hobbies, daily activities, career, values, etc.

Respond to messages/plans to hang out directly and promptly: Nothing makes you look more disinterested than ambivalent around hanging out

Send fun or thoughtful photos: I don't mean sexual, but about inside jokes, interesting things that happen throughout your day, meals or places they also enjoy, etc. Build the emotional connection

Compliment them: Their outfits, accomplishments, smile, intelligence, athletic capabilities, etc.

Ask engaging questions: About their friends, family, hobbies, career, life goals, etc.

Find ways to talk about their turn-ons: What they look for in other girls, such as the qualities, hobbies, values, lifestyle habits, etc. they've found really attractive or endearing, etc. This can help them picture you in this role if you're compatible and have mutual interests or allow you to know you're both better off as friends without having to go through the saga or looming insecurities that comes with an incompatible relationship.

okay guys✴️

so WHAT IF you were friends w a guy who had previously dated your friend

and then said guy confessed to you but later got back w your friend

but it’s been 2 months and he still hints and acts sus around you

it’s like we can never just be friends after he confessed

like when it’s just us two he acts so different and ugh i can’t explain

it’s not like i still like him but something is off

hi baby! first dates are so exciting, don’t be nervous!

so i have a few tips for you! this isn’t like some end-all-be-all advice, but i know it’s helped others so i thought i’d share it with you!

first things first, if you have long hair, you automatically think you want to get all dolled up for a date, right? That’s great, you wanna feel your best & confident! But what I would say is that if you normally wear your hair in a pony tail, don’t change it up! Wear your hair like you would normally. I find that it’s better to go with your daily look for the first few dates, so the person you’re seeing has a feel for your daily style right off the bat!

secondly, wear what you feel comfortable & confident in. if that means you wear heals & a dress, do it! or if it means a hoodie and a pair of leggings, do it. yes, first impressions are important but you don’t want to give a false impression. meaning you don’t want to be someone that you’re not!

thirdly, don’t try to tone down or hide who you truly are. if you wear a mask (physically, you better be bc there’s a global pandemic, but i’m talking figuratively) right off the bat, it’ll be exhausting trying to keep up that front. just let go & be authentically you, because at the end of the day, you’re the person who they will hopefully be dating! you want someone to fall for the real you, not a persona you put up.

finally, be observant & know your worth. watch for red flags. how are their manners? how do they treat the people around you? if you’re at a restaurant, how do they treat your waiter/waitress? are they asking you questions, or more so talking about themselves? do they seem interested when you’re speaking? you want to pay attention to the little things, because that’s when you’ll find out who they truly are the first few dates, because they’re trying to put their best foot forward for you (hopefully).

one very important thing to mention is never do something you’re not comfortable with. always have your location on with a friend or loved one when meeting someone for the first time. always meet in a public place for the first time, i would not meet in a movie theater. it’s easier for someone to be taken advantage of in a movie theater. maybe have someone call you as a bail out an hour into the date, & if it’s going good you can answer & have a “code” convo, for example, if things are going good you can pretend it’s your mom asking if you fed the dog. & if it’s going bad you can say your friend needs a ride because they have a flat. also, know where your exits are.