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“There are no bad emotions, only bad expression of the emotion.”

“Emotions are teachers. They’re the windows of your soul. Emotions help you understand what’s happening inside you.”

“When we suffer loss, we need that grieving process to heal us. How can grief heal us/ By feeling our grief, we acknowledge our pain. When we acknowledge our pain, we acknowledge ourselves. And love always heals.”

“Don’t tie your happiness to your destination but to your development.”

“Focus is the master switch of your entire life.”

“Every time you’re focused on the bad things happening in your life, you’re drinking your own poison. And you’re killing yourself slowly day by day.”

“Focus on the good in your life.”

“When you’re overwhelmed with negative emotion, give yourself the wonderful Gift of the Gap.”

“Pause. Ponder. Pray. Because wisdom doesn’t shout. Wisdom speaks in whispers. It’s only when you’re quiet inside that you’ll hear the faint voice of wisdom speak to you.”

“There are two pains in this life: The pain of restraint and the pain of regret. Which pain do you want?”

“When you give yourself the Gift of the Gap, you’re choosing the pain of restraint. It’s painful because it’s so much easier to shout when you’re angry, or to give up when you’re frustrated, or to be a coward when you’re afraid.”

“The pain of restraint is uncomfortable. But the pain of regret is unbearable.”

“Let God put His arms around you in your grief, in your panic, in your rage, in your loneliness...When you do that, something beautiful happens: You experience healing. Because what you feel, you can heal.”

“It was St. Ignatius who said that we should never make major decisions during moments of desolation (extreme sadness) or consolation (extreme happiness) but during times of inner peace.”

“But love - if you give it away every day - has a way of washing the poison away from your life.”

“Most of the things that bother us today mean absolutely nothing in the future.”

“Even when you don’t feel like doing the right thing, just do the right thing anyway.”

“You’re too big to be bothered by small things.”

“I believe that most of our anger, deep down, comes from fear. An angry person is usually afraid. Insecure. Threatened.”

“Hurt people hurt people.”

“Imagine that you have a 100-liter love tank. But broken people in your life have a one-liter love tank. Compared to your love, their love is puny. Their puny love can’t satisfy your humongous love tank. But realize that their puny love is all they’ve got. It may not be much to you, but they’re giving you their all.”

“Wisdom is the art of knowing what to overlook” - William James

“Don’t ask the person who hurt you to repay you - he’s not capable of repaying you. He doesn’t have the resources to do that. You’ll just be shortchanged. Whatever repayment he gives you won’t be enough anyway.”

“If someone hurts you, you don’t have to hurt him back. Because of the way God’s universe is designed, any injustice done by a person will find its way back to that same person.”

“Don’t ever make the massive mistake of forgiving people with conditions. Don’t ever say, ‘I’ll forgive him if he asks for forgiveness,’ or ‘I’ll forgive if he admits his mistake,” or ‘I’ll forgive if he repents’. If you do that, you’re making your happiness dependent on other people’s decision. That’s insanity. Why? Because you deserve to be happy. You deserve to be free. Forgive without conditions! Forgive whether that person accepts it or not, admits it or not, or apologizes for it or not. It doesn’t matter. Forgive anyway. Love anyway. Give anyway. Because it all bounces back to you, multiplied in hundredfold!”

“Despair is when you feel helpless; Insecurity is when you feel worthless. Despair is being hopeless about what you see outside you; insecurity is being hopeless about what you see inside you.”

“Feel your feelings but follow your faith.”

“What you focus on flourishes.”

“When you start changing your life, there will be people who will not change with you. And people who don’t change with you have the tendency to become haters.”

“No matter how good you are, you’ll never be able to please everyone. That’s reality. Some people are haters. Some people are just in a bad mood. And some people just have other tastes. Never try to please everyone. Just be the best you can be.”

“At the end of the day, only two pictures mater: God’s opinion about me and my opinion about myself.”

“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.” - Virginia Satir

“God never compares you with other people. Don’t ever be envious of others - what they have, what they did, what they own. Forget that. God looks at you as you.”

“If you have someone in your life who believes in your dreams, you are are one blessed person. If you don’ t have these people in your life, pray for them. Search for them. Seek them out. Believe that they’re seeking you out, too.”

“Because I believe that God’s will is the best you can ever receive.”

“There is no success in your comfort zone.”

“Discernment isn’t just knowing what is good or bad, because there are a lot of good stuff in this world. Discernment is knowing which is good for you.”

“God is never in a hurry. Look at your own life and see how God works in your soul.”

“Believe that you’ll receive the best version of what you’re praying for.”

“God knows your future. Ten million light years down he road, He sees every detail, every nuance, every point, every facet and every angle. And what you think is obviously the best for you today may actually be the worst thing that can ever happen to you tomorrow.”

“You have a choice. You can press in, lean in, push in and crawl in - no matter what - until you reach your dream. Or you can shrug your shoulders and walk home dejected.”

“Faith without work is dead.”

“Don’t ever let anyone steal your dream. Always follow your heart.”

“Beware of dream stealers. Don’t be afraid to ask big things from God.”

“Once you accepted that we’re all imperfect, it’s the most liberating thing in the world. Then you can go around making mistakes and saying the wrong thing and tripping over on the street and all hat and not feel worried.” - Paloma Faith

“If you don’t know how to accomplish your dream, then learn. ( That’s why successful people are eternal students. They don’t stop learning.)

“Sometimes, what separates rich people and poor people is how much wisdom they’ve applied in their lives. The more wisdom you apply in your life, the more money you’ll harvest.”

“If your dreams are really God’s dreams, then resources will come from His supply room, not yours.”

“You can’t right a wrong with another wrong. You can only right a wrong with a massive right.”

“The best solution are not rushed. The best solutions require a lot of patience, humility and trust in God.”

“Any solution born out of pride - though it seems fast - is really delaying your real solution.”

“Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values.” - Joshua L. Liebman

“Because there is something even higher, bigger, deeper and better than success, and that’s significance.”

“There’s a deep need in you for significance. To feel that your life mattered to someone. That you were able to contribute to another  person’s destiny. That you were able to serve another human being without asking for anything in return. That you were selfless at one point in your life.”

“Never make decisions when you’re discouraged. Make decisions only when you feel about yourself.”

“It takes time to discover your happiness. What may give you so much happiness later may, in the short-term, give you misery. So discern well.”

“We think that God’s will is found out there, somewhere in the stars. That’s not true. God’s will is found within.”

“Never choose in the presence of useless fears. First banish fear, and then choose out of love.”

“The success and the failure of your life is really up to you.”

“Marriage requires a lot of hard work, humility, patience, sacrificial love and the other stuff that we call character. And frankly, I feel that many singles don’t spend enough time growing their character.”

“You need to take a brutal inventory of your life, so you know what inner areas of your life you need to grow. And commit yourself to relentless spiritual and character growth.”

“Where there is no clarity of purpose, no great thing will be achieved.”

“I’ve long learned that God’s universe simple responds to what we want - clearly, repeatedly and passionately.”

“You don’t get the partner you deserve. You get the partner you think you deserve.”

“We teach people how to treat us - good or bad.”

“Unless he stands up against this manipulation, he’ll always feel trapped.”

“Unless they heal the wounds of the past, they will have a difficult time looking for and accepting a man in their lives.”

“Religious people can also be distancing themselves from potential spouses by insisting on rigid standards of religiosity that have nothing to do with real spirituality maturity.” 

“We looked and stumbled upon different people, and though they made us happy, they didn’t make us complete. For in the end, only you can make me whole, and only I can make you whole. And because we were meant to be for each other, no matter what we did or where we went, fate would bring us together. And on that historic day, I saw you. And my life has never been the same.”

“The more guys you meet, the better the possibilities - not only for marriage, but also for getting to know yourself, getting out of your shell, getting to know how to relate to the opposite sex and getting to serve others.”

“The more choices you have, the better for you.”

“I repeat: Praying is important. Trusting God is essential.””“Single life is a fantastic time to really live! To grow. To become the best person you can ever become. To experience all that life has to offer. Learn new skill, develop your interests, serve the poor, build new business, sell stuff, organize groups, meet new friends and do stuff together.”

“Because you don’t want to fall in love with someone you can’t be friends with.”

“Don’t get stuck with your type, because “your type” usually comes from your weakness - not from your strengths.”

“Sometimes, your “type” is your homing instinct kicking in. That means you’re trying to recreate your childhood home, even if “home” was problematic or painful.”

“When you can’t confront, you’ll be attracted to someone who doesn’t want to be confronted. It works like magic. You’ll be attracted to selfish guys who may be hiding big problems in their lives.”

“My point is to be careful whom your heart is attracted to. Don’t immediately follow your heart, but open yourself to people who are not your type even if, at first, you’re not attracted to them.”

“Never play with the heart of a woman. Never, never, never. I’ve seen some guys who like treating women extra special, saying stuff like “I really like you”, and “I feel very happy when I’m with you.” But they have no intention of pursuing her. These guys are sick.”

“And even if you had a lousy first meeting (as many first meetings usually are), try to give him a second chance - because people are multi-faceted, and he may show another side of himself that you’ll like.”

“You accept that there are still risks of getting hurt when you like someone (even just on a friendship level) and he doesn’t invite you again, it will still hurt. But that’s life. Unless you open yourself to the possibility of rejection, you won’t also open your possibility of rich friendships. Through these experiences, you’re forced to mature to the point where your self-worth does not depend on whether someone likes you, but whether you like yourself and believe that God loves you unconditionally.”

“But sometimes, it’s not so much the number of men, but their own psychological readiness. Going to a new place and having a new experience creates psychological changes in the person - making her ready to accept marriage.”

“It takes a moment to experience infatuation but true love takes a lifetime.”

“Listen. You don’t need a magical first moment to meet your potential husband. The important things are mature character, financial responsibility, the ability to commit, compatible mission and values.”

“Because ladies, you don’t pursue men. You become attractive - and they pursue you.”

“The best sex appeal isn’t in your clothes but in your personality, your playfulness, your love for life.”

“When a woman has a positive outlook in life, she’s a magnet.”

“Fill your life with joy. Learn how to live life to the full. Besides, guys will have a hard time approaching you if they see you angry, depressed, moody, critical and negative. But happiness attracts.”

“It isn’t success that intimidates these good guys. It’s arrogance. When your success makes your head swell and you look down at everyone, you’re a major turnoff. It’s not your money or position. It’s the way you allowed money or position feed your ego. Be approachable. Listen to others. Acknowledge your ignorance outside your expertise. Ask help! Be soft and vulnerable. Be teachable. And most importantly, serve the small people. Be humble.”

“The key to being interesting is to be interested.”

“Have passions. Have beliefs/ Have preferences. From the very start, be your best self, but be yourself nonetheless.”

“A man will always hunger after what seems to be out of his reach. And he will value that which he sacrificed a lot to gain. And he will hold of little value to things he gained easily. In other words, a man is attracted to a woman who’s not looking for a man (in a desperate way). So allow him to pursue you.”

“Men get flattered that they’re being chased. But their eyes wander, looking for other prey hiding in the bushes far away.”

“You get what you settle for.”

“Run away from the guy who needs you to straighten out his life.”

“Emotional health means owning up to these weakness and working on them every day of our lives.”

“Mr. Right doesn’t have to be emotionally whole. (No one is.) Mr. Right just has to be on the journey - taking concrete steps to emotional health. If he’s not even in the journey, pass him up.”

“It’s not how much you earn, but how you multiply the savings of what you earn.”

“There are no guarantees in life, but if you marry someone who is morally upright today, the probability is high that he’ll morally upright tomorrow.”

“I’d choose a man whose faith is expressed in his morality rather than in his religiosity.” 

“Because true love sets the beloved free. This is the one weakness that destroys friendships faster than others: The desire to control others.”

“Because who you are  still speak more loudly than what you say.”