On a happier note here is proof that borderlines CAN get married and find a partner for life (even if therapists tell that person to break up with you due to your diagnosis- yes this did happen). Borderlines CAN find someone who won’t hate you because of your horrible mental illness. You can absolutely have a successful relationship. Granted, I have had to work my ass off to make sure I am keeping my abusive tendencies in check and I have struggled and still do… and sometimes I fuck up, but I try so hard. Our 1st anniversary is in 3 weeks. So much of what I see online indicates that borderlines ruin other peoples lives and that it’s in their best interest to get the fuck away from us. Nothing hurts me more than knowing that’s legitimately the advice people get. I almost ended my life because boyfriends wouldn’t stop leaving me… I could not take the pain or loss anymore. I truly felt I would be alone forever and that no one could ever love me. Now I’m married and have someone to share my life with, and even when we have horrible fights he never walks out on me and always reassures me he will never leave me. I gave him my rings back last weekend during a fight (wrong I know). Instead of taking them or leaving he put them back on my finger and reminded me that he would never leave. I want every borderline suffering right now to know this is an actual possibility. It’s not easy and you have to work really hard not to treat them poorly. But you won’t be alone forever. If I can find this, so can you. 💖
