#blog2016

DBK IS OFFICIALLY 1 YRS OLD!! Thank you for everyone that helped me throughout the years get to where I am now! DBK will keep on growing and will be a success!

長くなりましたが，今回はこれで終わらせていただきます。

To be a parent is the greatest thing to have happened to me by far. The way I get to see my son, declan, light up everytime I come into the room brings a joy, that only another fellow parent would know. The way he is enjoying life the only way a child knows how. When I see the curiosity on his face, it melts my heart. as I write however, he will never know what a great distraction he is to my life right now. He will never know the emotions that I am feeling. In all honesty, I hope he will never know. What I do want him to understand is that, I am, with each day that passes by, trying to be a better man that I was the previous day. Words that I do write are not just words, for me personally. It is simply a reminder I want to be the father that he looks up to, and the one he goes to for advice. For every new father let me give you a little advice. No matter how much you do to get ready, you are never ready. You are thrown into a whirl wind of ups and downs. It's the way you handle them as parents that will ultimately make or break you as a couple. To all fathers to be, take it from someone who is a little too late. Communication is key. When I say communication, I mean really checking up on your partner. Reassure her that everything is okay. LISTEN and Listen attentively. Make sure that they are okay, even when they seem fine. There might be that underlying issue that she is having within herself. Although you might feel you are doing as much as you can, and You are doing what is asked. Put yourself in her shoes. Imagine that you are the one that has to be the food for the baby. Waking up in all hours of the night. Just remember, your best is not good enough. So be better. Be better for yourself, your child and your partner. One last piece of advice for the new father is, do fun, spontaneous, adventurous things with your partner. take the time to grow your relationship. You both have to be parents first, but also don't forget that you were a couple first. As I stare and wite this out, I do regret not taking the advice I've just dished out. As much as I understand now, now that I am looking from the outside in. It takes two. Both parents have to commit to raise your little one to the best of your abilities. So often, the new normal is two parents seperated. Which I strongly believe that shouldn't be the case. If you get the chance, try and put all the bullshit aside. Forgive and forget. If you hold on to things, and you don't talk about what is bothering the both of you, you will end up in a bad place. I did not understand before why I was in this position. But as I cleared my head and step back from this situation. You come to understand and see the whole picture. The best way to put it is the relationship/family you started is kind of like a painting. when I paint and I focus on a certain area of the painting for long periods of time, you sometimes need to just to step back and see your progress and what needs to be touched up and what looks good. You get it? I wish I understood before that its not just your life now, its the family you helped create. So, Be present, be selfless, and just be.