post/126453954973/ - I went into your trans men tag because I thought that'd help me a little but this post makes me really uncomfortable. It's really invalidating to actual problems inside the community, and it's legit saying "these problems are made up". I'm a trans man and most violence I've received is from nb people. Why is it bad for a site/article about trans men to focus on trans men? It's not a race. It's also uncharitable by picking at "contradictions" that don't matter that much
OK ... boy oh boy, my friend, you picked a big one. I’m actually not going to comment on this one too much though.
One, it is not my post. I didn’t do the research, and I write it. That said, I think it is excellent, and I encourage you to try reading it again. I’m not sure that you quite caught what she was saying was the problem. Trans men talking amongst themselves about things that trans men are experiencing is FINE. She even says that this shows they are building their own community. I don’t believe she has any problem with that, per se.
Where she has issues, as I understand it, is when trans men either interject their comments into trans women’s conversations amongst ourselves, and/or when they expect trans women to perform emotional labor and provide counseling and support for them - that is, in these conversations trans men are having with themselves, Mx. B has found herself and other trans women pulled into them to act as audience and nursemaid and she wants no part of it.
So she’s not saying that trans men’s problems don’t exist. She’s saying they’re not our problems and while we’re trying to deal with ours, stop trying to make us deal with yours too.
Two, it discusses things and comes from a perspective that is not mine. I’m white, middle-class, middle-American and suburban. My experiences do nothing to help me understand Mx. B’s experience and position such that I could try to challenge them, not that I would because I agree with her and she’s a hell of a lot smarter than I am. This is also why I didn’t add any commentary to it and shared it as is.
Three, it’s a product of the moment it in which it took place (August of last year). The Advocate was doing some kind of trans man awareness week or something, without having done anything similar for trans women. And it amounted to these guys taking the stage, talking into a microphone about how they never got time on the stage in front of a microphone.
I guess I went longer than I thought ... as usual.











