#biyuti

OK ... boy oh boy, my friend, you picked a big one. I’m actually not going to comment on this one too much though. 

One, it is not my post. I didn’t do the research, and I write it. That said, I think it is excellent, and I encourage you to try reading it again. I’m not sure that you quite caught what she was saying was the problem. Trans men talking amongst themselves about things that trans men are experiencing is FINE. She even says that this shows they are building their own community. I don’t believe she has any problem with that, per se. 

Where she has issues, as I understand it, is when trans men either interject their comments into trans women’s conversations amongst ourselves, and/or when they expect trans women to perform emotional labor and provide counseling and support for them - that is, in these conversations trans men are having with themselves, Mx. B has found herself and other trans women pulled into them to act as audience and nursemaid and she wants no part of it. 

So she’s not saying that trans men’s problems don’t exist. She’s saying they’re not our problems and while we’re trying to deal with ours, stop trying to make us deal with yours too.

Two, it discusses things and comes from a perspective that is not mine. I’m white, middle-class, middle-American and suburban. My experiences do nothing to help me understand Mx. B’s experience and position such that I could try to challenge them, not that I would because I agree with her and she’s a hell of a lot smarter than I am. This is also why I didn’t add any commentary to it and shared it as is.

Three, it’s a product of the moment it in which it took place (August of last year). The Advocate was doing some kind of trans man awareness week or something, without having done anything similar for trans women. And it amounted to these guys taking the stage, talking into a microphone about how they never got time on the stage in front of a microphone.

Youre using that shit of pre-existing biases meaning that person aint shit from the get go “All non black poc are anti black, its their natural state”

Um but like thats my assumption going in, if theyre actions and words constantly show theyre about combating that, and theyre constantly receptive to us and apologizing for mistakes, and engaging with us... you have no ammo

What do you mean it was Riley? Biyuti and Riley/Soflyniggaswannastalkme/Nikkia Hanson are not the same person. I’m a little confused on that part. When it comes to the last comment, no I do not think Riley will ever leave the Internet because it’s the only place where they can find gullible people to believe anything they say. It’s the only place where they are relevant. What is Riley/Nikkia Hanson without the Internet? No one. I think the best thing we all can do is report them and spread the word about them.

I can also dig it up again. It could def. be that you remember better. But I can remember at least two of the stories.

At least half the stories or so had dfab examples, from my memory.

didn't i send you some of the stories/resources i have? i know there are a set of stories of 'dfab' ppl becoming men and stuff.