Hi! I'm searching for a Drarry where H is sent to moniter D. Now D lives in the kitchen of the Manor & cooks delicious food. He also has a pet I don't remember. H is angry at D at first but then D feeds H and slowly starts to like him. Neville finds out & isn't happy about Drarry. D also constantly says that he is sorry for what he has done but he has stopped regretting his actions now. Later he reveals that he does feel some regret. He also invited Hagrid and made him Rock buns to say sorry.
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you mentioned executive dysfunction in your tortoise post. as a fellow sufferer, wondering if you have any tips for writing. or perhaps living.
Hi friend! I will do my best!
The first thing I will suggest may or may not be accessible, so apologies if it's really not: that would be going to therapy. I love therapy. It has been the spring from which all the wisdom I've gleaned from this has flowed. But it's been internalizing it myself (the work I do outside of therapy) that has made the difference.
So, just some small (but actually big) things that have helped me.
Write it down. The thing you want to do but are struggling to do? Get yourself a planner and write it down. For me, a paper planner that sits right next to my chair and is open at all times to the week that it actually is right now, is the thing. If I have goals for the week, I will write them in on certain days. I try not to overburden myself and go overboard. I try to make these manageable things that won't make me feel like I'm just using up all my free time that I'm not spending at work working at other things I don't like. But this is also where I write down the things I really do want to do but that may be hard because of That Thing. That executive dysfunction that pops up even when I want to be doing the thing.
Check off the things you get done. I can't explain the power of a checkmark, but it helps. It's a tiny celebration and acknowledgement that you did the thing. This is crucial.
Break up big things into smaller pieces. If your goal is to write a research paper, no it's not. It's to open the document. Boom! Checkmark! The next goal is maybe to put five of the quotes you want to use into the doc. Boom! Maybe a good goal is to write 500 words on something that will eventually be 5-10k. Make your goals smaller and then celebrate them as you check them off! There really is something to the saying 'slow and steady wins the race'. It's certainly getting there quicker than not doing anything at all.
Perfectionism sucks. Abandon it. Excellence is good. But so is 'good enough'. Sometimes doing something badly for the time being is actually good enough. Want to write a novel? Give yourself permission to write a bad one. That's how you get one written at all honestly.
I keep track of my word count in my planner first and foremost, and then I plug those numbers into the Get Your Words Out (@gywo) excel spreadsheet. It helps to SEE your progress and to track it. It shows you it can be done and YOU are the one who's doing it. Proof that you can do the thing is awesome!
If the thing is cleaning, for fuck's sake put some music on! And then just clean This Table Right Here. Don't set out to do the whole room. Do this corner. When you've done that corner, celebrate with a little dance or a fist pump and then pick a different corner. Take a break and do one of the other things on your list, like writing 200 words of fanfiction. Make a cup of tea.
Have grace with yourself. You are human. This is hard. Developing healthy habits takes time. You will make mistakes. You will backtrack into unhealthy behavior patters. But you will also get better at recognizing them, at seeing yourself do it, and then getting yourself back to where you want to be instead. Grace. Extend it to yourself like you would to someone you love very dearly and gently and sweetly. Become, slowly, the person you feel most like that about.
These are the ways I know. Others will have their own ways to share and I welcome anyone to do that here! I hope this helps. Give it a little practice and a little time. Take small steps. Celebrate each little thing. Be curious about this process rather than beating yourself up. This is not easy stuff. But working on it and through it is worth it.
Summary: Two queer Mexican kids talking, having sex, and feeling their feelings in Arizona.
Major CW: Discussion of complex racial/ethic identity, mild daddy kink.
Mod Theo thoughts: I cannot get enough of queer Latino love stories lately, fic and non-fic alike, and this is a classic. I came across this fic during the first couple weeks of my foray into HP fanfiction and realized that I CAN find myself in these stories, which was a pretty darn incredible realization. In this fic, newly-dating Remus and Sirius discuss the complexities of their identities, eat Mediterranean food, flirt, fuck, and let us explore a specific and beautiful world through their eyes. Check it out, and then tell us your favorite queer Latino love stories! And if you want to hear more from bigblackdog, check out the creator spotlight we did here!
Summary: It starts with Draco's buckwheat crepes with honeyed oranges. Or maybe it starts with his porridge with toasted walnuts and homemade apple butter. Or perhaps it starts with the cinnamon buns Draco made from scratch with mascarpone icing. Harry just knows he's hungry for more.
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Hello, colorful cuties, and welcome to our first creator spotlight!!
Each month, we will highlight a different creator in our lovely fandom who features diverse characterizations. We will invite you to get to know them better through questions and answers, Fandom Discourse(tm), and a featured prompt created by our guest!!!
For our first spotlight, we are more than pleased to highlight the incredible work of bigblackdog!!! See a little snippet of this wonderful interview below, along with bigblackdog’s prompt! Look below the cut for our complete interview. Don’t forget to share and interact with this post, and if you have anyone you’d like to recommend for a spotlight, shoot us an ask! You can find our first guest’s Tumblr here.
“I've experienced ups and downs in the wolfstar fandom. It often feels like the wolfstar fandom is willing to engage in discussion about every political issue but race. And the few people who are trying to talk about race consistently encounter this silence.”
bigblackdog’s prompt: I want to see more latino characters who are not impoverished or criminalized. Give me a joyful latino/e remus!
Hello, I'm bigblackdog! I'm almost 30, and I've been active in fandom on various platforms for about seven years now. I'm latina/e and live in the u.s. with a small white dog.
Q: How did you start creating in the fandom? What did you wish to bring into the fandom?
A: Like a lot of fans I started with self insert fic as a middle schooler. Sometimes the practice of self-insert gets ragged on in fandom, as if you're not doing real character work, but I think it's really cool. And if you're an under represented identity in the traditional western canon of literature, self insert is a radical practice. Making space for yourself in a story that refuses or ignores your identities is a radical act. And that's what i want to bring to fandom-- disruption and self care.
Q: What things about s/r as characters or in their relationship inspire you to create around them?
A: Wolfstar was the first queer ship I was introduced to. I wasn't someone who arrived in fandom with my own robust queer reading skills, I needed other queers to hold my hand and introduce me to queer ships and how to find them and build them. My interest in r/s was simply a clinging to queerness I wasn't finding in other places. I really think it could have been any characters, as long as they were queer.
Q: What things would you like to highlight about the Wolfstar fandom and your experience in it?
A: I've experienced ups and downs in the wolfstar fandom. It often feels like the wolfstar fandom is willing to engage in discussion about every political issue but race. And the few people who are trying to talk about race consistently encounter this silence. It's hard not to feel bitter. But i've also met some amazing people and overall feel that fans really are trying their best to be welcoming and inclusive.
Q: What type of content do you wish you saw more in the fandom?
A: I want to see more discourse that aims at amplifying underrepresented voices like wolfstar-in-color. I want to see more fans of color joyfully and irreverently writing themselves into the magical world!
Q: What is your favourite wolfstar fancontent (fic/fanart/gifset/etc) and how does it inspire you?
A: I love dontthinkonithermione's rp. Not only does she do an amazing nerdy know it all Hermione, she envisions Black characters in every corner of the hp world. Have you seen her Hogwarts p.e. professor rps? i love the space she creates for herself, and the joy she does it with.
Q: Which of your own identities inform your creative processes? How has that process been for you?
A: I started out in fandom really trying to feel out the nooks and crannies of being queer. As i've spent more time in fandom and become more confident in my queerness I've started looking closer at some of my other identities-- Latina, mixed, adhd-- and how i can squeeze them into the hp world. For a long time it was hard, especially with being Latine and mixed, to envision how that identity could belong in a 90s British boarding school in the Scottish wilderness. I also really struggled with the feeling that i would get "diversity" wrong. I’ve also struggled with feeling like I have to write diversity because i'm an underrepresented voice. Brown people are often pressured to do the work of educating white people about racism and in fandom spaces that often means pressure to write the reality of racism instead of the fantasy that white writers get to play with. And sometimes i just want to write a pwp without worrying about the revolution, you know? But i really love fandom for its refusal to play by the rules of capitalism and canon, eventually i started to feel like putting more of myself into my writing was another rule i could break.
Q: What advice do you have for other content creators with diverse backgrounds in the fandom? What would you say to people that might feel they don’t have the “right” history/experience/characteristics to participate in the creation of content related to Wolfstar?
First, there's a lot of content on tumblr that aims to silence your voice, learn how to recognize the difference between cancel culture and encouragement. Sometimes content that seems well meaning still presents writing diversity as a list of black and white rules (and virtue signaling) instead of encouragement for underrepresented voices to share their own messy experience. Set those rules gently aside. Second, fandom is built on the idea that the author isn't the only person who gets to play. we all get to play. It doesn't always feel like we were invited, but the great thing about fandom is there is no barrier to entry, no prior experience or publishing hoops to jump through. This is our playground too. If canon is dead then why can't our stories be brown and queer and neurodivergent? Third, find your people. i've found that having just one other person to talk about race with has made the whole space feel more welcoming.
Q: How could we build a more diverse fandom?
A: We have to stop prioritizing white and cis male voices. We recognize that policing irl is a problem inextricable from whiteness and maleness, but we don't see that fandom policing online is also a problem deeply embedded in whiteness and maleness. White and cis male people frequently use their discomfort with difficult topics to change the subject from a critical discussion to one that prioritizes their white and/or male feelings. The same thing happens online when personal discomfort is used to cancel or undermine content that's challenging to a white or male voice. White and cis male voices are used to having their needs met above others. And we still cater to that in fandom spaces when we privilege 'fetishization' discourse over racial discourse. When we lift up bipoc and women/trans/nb voices and the issues they're concerned with we'll make fandom a more welcoming place for underrepresented voices.
Q: What’s your favourite thing to modify in Sirius’s or Remus’s characterizations to bring new perspectives to them?
A: It really depends on the story i'm writing and what issue i'm trying to figure out. Sometimes i need Sirius to be Adhd to come to terms with my brain, sometimes i need two brown boys to fall in love and be happy against all odds.
Q: What does diversity mean to you? What does that encompass in fannish spaces?
A: This is a hard question! I tend to think of diversity as those voices that are disenfranchised or pushed to the margins. And fannish spaces have all the same hierarchies and blind spots as other spaces. In fannish spaces there's the idea that you can curate your experience to some extent, but for marginalized voices, at least in my experience, no matter how much you curate the marginalization is still there.
Q: What are your ideas about the notions of culture and ethnicity? How do you relate to those notions?
A: There was a time in my life where relating to my ethnicity was largely a process of recognizing larger systems of oppression and how they worked against my various identities. And for a while it was a really helpful way to frame my experiences. Now I feel a little less attached to ethnicity as like, a monolithic concept threaded through my whole life and more attached to the small things that I enjoy about my ethnicity and culture-- making a really good pot of beans, for example.
Q: Leave us with a quote or work of art that always inspires you.
A: "Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." Audre Lorde
