You're Not My Big!
I'm not a sweet, cute, submissive little girl. Occasionally I try, but yeah...it's usually an epic fail. So one thing that really irks me - and by irks, I mean I hate it with the fiery passion of 1000 suns - is when a Big (Daddy, Mommy, whatever) or a Dominant thinks that I should listen to them, just because I'm a Little and a submissive. Apparently they missed the "brat" part of my identity. But even if there was no brat side to me, I still wouldn't roll over and play good girl for someone who hasn't earned my submission or obedience. I mean, no one expects kids to listen to any random adult they meet. Courtesy, yes, we expect that - and I will give it. Politeness. I try to do that as well. But if you're not my Big? You don't get more than that. You don't get to demand my obedience, my respect, or my loyalty. That is earned, not demanded. And until a Big or Dominant understands that, they can't fully claim either title. ~Ella
