#being fired

July 2, 2003. Wednesday 7:55pm

Following are my thoughts about 4 years after being fired from my job as a Deputy Public Defender in Modesto, California in 1997:

“Come with me.

Sun yourself in a quiet, private, walled garden.

Meditate.

Quit. Get away.

Be thankful there  is someone else out there to do  your job once you are gone.

It gives you “you” time.

Wear shorts.

A Hawaiian shirt.

Dine by the window at noon at Clayton’s.

Start a journal.

Read Thoreau’s “Walden Pond”.

Unplug your phone.

Study a flower’s detail.

Close your eyes.

What do you hear?

Take a hot shower.

Study an old family photo album.

In-joy. Life outside of the pale.

In other words, live outside of the pale.

End of this part of the entry.

Notes:

Clayton's was a restaurant in Modesto

The past few years in April: 2018 and before: also some bullshit happened, a lot of me feeling stuck, not coming out of the closet until late 2017, not feeling like I am living /my/ life…

2019: working a job I hate, being yelled at by customers all day long, having to end a relationship that was absolutely sweet and lovely but our schedules and lives didn‘t fit (like at all ;w;)

2020: the fucking panini happening, lockdowns… while firsthand witnessing the death of my stepdad, who we worked hard to give him some nice last weeks

2021: being overworked and the first time mentioning that I can‘t live like this anymore, to soon having to give up the little job I truly loved having on the side, which made me feel appreciated in that time

2022: getting unlawfully fired after a huge burn out flare up in January due to my adhd and asd being ~ignored~ for 28 years.

2023 me: „oh. It‘s trauma-birthday month!“

This year feels like everything is changing for the better, tho? Met a friend I admire a lot. Saw Hayley Kiyoko live, got to hug her and we threw compliments at each other. I got to be an admin of her discord server…?!?! Planning for pride events, one year on adhd medication-milestone, I get to have some of the deepest connections with someone I feel really close to (without feeling unworthy of it), finally starting project work back up after uni burnt the hell out of me, hopping into my first „after uni“-job next to freelancing (I am working with so many wonderful people ;W; 🧡)

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Feeling better, may be forever? Big wide open space to try. I don‘t have to be on the top to see!

Yo

Three important Supreme Court cases are going to be decided on next week (10/7-11/19) that will affect future legal decisions about the LGBT+ community. These cases are:

R.G & G.R HARRIS FUNERAL HOMES V EEOC and AIMEE STEPHENS

Case deciding on GENDER EXPRESSION and GENDER IDENTITY

Amiee Stephens was fired from her job after coming out as transgender. She was fired for being a part of the LGBT+ community, not because of work performance or ethic. 

The Supreme Court’s decision will be whether or not it is legal to do so.

ALTITUDE EXPRESS INC V ZARDA

Case deciding on SEXUAL ORIENTATION

Donald Zarda was fired from his job after telling a client he was gay. He was fired for being a part of the LGBT+ community, not because of work performance or ethic.

The Supreme Court’s decision will be whether or not it is legal to do so.

BOSTOCK V CLAYTON COUNTY

Case deciding on SEXUAL ORIENTATION

Gerald Lynn Bostock was fired from his job after his employers learned he was gay. He was fired for being a part of the LBGT+ community, not because of work performance or ethic.

The Supreme Court’s decision will be whether or not it is legal to do so.

This isn’t a call-to-action post.

Guys, there’s nothing we can do.

The court will make their decision, whatever that may be, but each time a case like this goes against the LGBT+ community, the more ammunition there is to make our right to work and earn income nonexistent. I mean, you can text SCOTUS to 472472 to get updates via HRC, or just google them yourself. But still.

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