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Essay is the most common form of prerequisite for proposing something. So, to conquer these requirements, we need to become academic essay masters. There are 3 reasons why we should write a short academic essay: short and concise, contains important information and is easy to digest.

According to UNESCO data, Indonesian people's interest in reading is only 0.001%. Based on these data, extra effort is needed to attract the reader's attention, so the essay must be short and concise.

On the other hand, too much information creates new problems. To minimize it, we must be good at sorting the news. Therefore, academic essays must contain important information. Not only important, its guarantee the correctness of the information because it is the academic essence of a variety of valid data. This can be proven by including a bibliography.

Books and journals are usually in the form of long essays, which explain in every detail the issues discussed. Often the language used in discussions in books and journals uses scientific language that is less familiar to ordinary readers (or even too segmented). Therefore, academic essays have a character that is easier to read because the choice of words is easier to digest.

Kebiasaan yang paling ingin dihentikan: OVERTHINKING. Setelah sekian lama menganggap being stubborn is my worst habit, ternyata kebiasaan yang paling urgent untuk dihentikan adalah overthinking. Being overthinker leads me depression. Karena terlalu sering memendam, makanya jadi overthinking. Solusinya, ya jangan terlalu dipikirikan dan menyadari bahwa saya adalah manusia yang memang ga pernah lepas dari salah, error, ngeblank, dll. Ya saya harus bisa terima itu. Abis menerima perasaan tersebut, ya go ahead saja. Saya ga segitu pentingnya untuk menjadi center of the universe, tapi ya ga segitu ga pentingnya sampe harus jadi people pleaser. Jadi ya, belajar untuk berpikir secukupnya aja.

Traumatic events can happen to everyone.. When you experience a traumatic event, your body creates stress responses, which can make you feel a variety of physical symptoms, behave differently, and experience more intense emotions. For example, nice and polite men or women suddenly turn to be active or passive aggressive when they see, hear, smell, or think of something that reminds them of a past traumatic event in some way (Raypole, 2019). That kind of reaction is one example of unhealed trauma. The consequence of an unhealed trauma is behavioral changes such as avoidance, possessiveness, and uncontrollable anger -- all of which are understood to be a self-defense when we are facing past traumatic events.

First of all, one of the symptoms is avoidance. Avoidance behaviour is any act or series of actions that enables an individual to avoid or anticipate unpleasant or painful situations or events (American Psychological Association, 2021). In short, people that have unhealed trauma will tend not to try new things, especially activities that have risks. Some of these symptoms of this behavior can manifest in difficulties of trusting others, being hypersensitive, avoiding activities that involve other people, reducing interactions with others, and so on. By reducing their encounters and interactions with other people, unhealed trauma's people think they will feel more secure because there are fewer factors that might hurt them or remind them of past traumas. Having this symptom makes it difficult for people to get along with others, so most of them have a few friends, which may lead to possessiveness.

As mentioned , the second symptom is possessiveness. Possessiveness is an abnormal tendency to control or dominate others, generally involving the restriction of their social relationships (American Psychological Association, 2021). This abnormal behavior occurs because of insecurity and jealousy, which can also lead to acts of crossing boundaries and disrespecting each other's independence. Because of possessiveness, someone can take disrespectful actions such as checking their partner's cell phone, following their partner wherever they go, interrogating their partner, and so on. At a more severe level, possessiveness can hurt both themselves and their partners for no good reason. This action is a form of coping so that they can calm their own emotions (Firestone, 2020). The pain of being betrayed in a previous relationship will make a person traumatized and more careful with the relationship he/she is in now which sometimes turns into a possessive behaviour as a shield so as not to be hurt again or recall his/her traumas.

Last but not the least, another symptom of an unhealed trauma can be uncontrollable anger. Anger, which is emotional release characterized by tension arising from frustration, real or imagined injury by others, or perceived injustice, can manifest itself in behaviors designed to remove the object of the anger or to express the emotion (American Psychological Association, 2021). On the other hand, anger can be categorized as uncontrollable if it has had a damaging effect on others, resulting in physical damage to property and other people. An example of this would be destructive actions such as fighting, hitting, throwing, breaking things, etc. As an outcome of unhealed trauma, uncontrollable anger is our subconscious defense against pain and hurt feelings. It might be a momentary defense against hurt feelings, but it cannot solve neither the problem nor heal the trauma.

In doing activities, we have to interact with other people from different generations; each generation has its own characteristics that may differ from one another. These interactions create their own conflict, especially the conflict that escalates because of the interaction between Baby Boomers Generation and Generation Z. The characteristics’ differences of the baby boomers generation and generation Z are influenced by the circumstances when they were born, the characteristics that are influenced by their socioeconomic background and their way of thinking to solve problems are influenced by their characteristics.

First of all, the difference between Baby Boomers and Generation Z is the socioeconomic circumstances at birth affect the way a person survives. Baby boomers born after World War II were raised in difficult socioeconomic conditions, which forced them to work harder to survive. They must try to survive with minimal facilities and infrastructure, this makes them grow into strong, independent, tenacious and resourceful individuals. On the other hand, Generation Z's were born in the mid-to-late 1990s until the early 2010s, facing their own difficulty to survive in life. Competition in various fields that is getting tougher makes Generation Z, also known as "the generation that has never been offline," have to think smartly to get a chance to survive. Socioeconomic conditions that are starting to improve also make Generation Z's have to try to be as creative as possible to get what they need. These socioeconomic differences affect the characteristics of each generation, which turns out to form distinctive and different characteristics between generations.

With different socioeconomic backgrounds, Baby Boomers Generation and Generation Z have distinctive characteristics. Growing up in difficult socioeconomic conditions makes the characteristics of Baby Boomers Generation to be someone who is confident, independent, and self-reliant. Along with it, they are not afraid of confrontation and will not hesitate to challenge established practices. In the case of work ethic, Baby Boomers are not afraid to work hard all day and dedicate a lot of time and effort to their careers. Unlike the former generation, Generation Z, who are living in better socioeconomic backgrounds, make them flexible, competitive, goal centric and individualist. Their living situation undoubtedly required them to be free-thinking and open-minded. As they think they feel they have a lot of information and resources, they want to be heard, especially in the workplace. Generation Z isn't afraid to say what's on their mind, which can lead to disagreements in some interactions with others or across generations. These characteristics of them contribute to the way they solve problems.

As previously mentioned, last but not least, the third difference between Baby Boomers and Generation Z is their way of thinking to solve their problems which is influenced by their characteristics that determine them to make decisions. The conventional characteristics of Baby Boomers Generation, which is the nation’s largest living generation, has many years of experience in life. They have learned there is no unfixable problem. Difficulty in their life experiences makes them come back stronger to live life. They also have alternate viewpoints to discussions, which can be helpful for brainstorming or problem solving; another advantage, they can see the long term view. Otherwise, Generation Z seek creative solutions mostly on the internet and improve their abilities with desire and talent; furthermore, they will instinctively look it up rather than ask for assistance. They may not have much life experience, but they speak their minds and have strong opinions. In the same way, they value and open up opportunities for new ideas, which can be good insights for making decisions.

Did you know that the lack of a mother's love for her child can have an impact into their adulthood? Due to economic demands, many young mothers have to work to help their husbands to provide the needs of family life. The working moms have to leave their children at home while carrying out her profession. So, they cannot give full love and affection to their children, which can lead to serious consequences like a mother’s wounds. However, to reduce that effect, there are three ways that are worth trying, namely evaluating work hours, work days, and workplaces for working moms, so that can be done to minimize the effect of mother’s wounds.

The first way is by reducing work hours and having one extra work day per week. On a normal basis, working hours start from 8am to 4pm or 9am to 5pm, which is around 8 hours per day. In my opinion, it would be better if the company cut about one hour per day for female workers who have a baby or a toddler. For the consequences, they can add one extra workday. For example, workers work from Monday to Saturday at 8am until 3pm or 9am until 4pm. So, even though they have to work until Saturday, they would have one extra hour per day to spend quality time with their children.

Next, mother’s wounds can be minimized by reducing work days and having extra one work hours per day. Most companies have five work days per week, which is Monday to Friday with 8 work hours per day. In this method, working hours can be added an hour per day, but the working day consists of four days per week, which is Monday to Thursday. So, workers work about 9 hours per day, for example from 8am to 5pm or 9am to 6pm. So, even though the working days are reduced, the accumulated hours worked per week are not reduced. In addition, the workers, especially working moms, can have an extra day off for taking care, loving, and providing for their children’s physical and emotional needs.

Last but not the least, the third way to reduce mother’s wounds is to make a policy for working mothers to be able to work from home. If the working mothers work from home, they can work while spending time with their children. So, the children can still be monitored and they could support their children’s needs. Technically, the company might be able to make an online attendance list with a shared location, so that they don't misinterpreted work from home for an unproductive workday and can still work efficiently even though they are working from home.

Living from a job that requires me to write most of the time, writing itself doesn't frighten me. But, when it comes to academic writing, well, it is still on another level. Just like Joshua Rothman said in his "Why Is Academic Writing So Academic?" essay: "And yet a successful piece of academic prose is rarely judged so by “ordinary” standards" (2014), to write an academic writing essay, we have to prepare to get specific deep non-ordinary questions asked from the master in their discipline. For me personally, academic writing becomes so academic because it has a very small audience of hyper-knowledgeable, requires a strong basic knowledge of the topic, has a very specific point of view and has to be reliable resources.

I was resistant to writing academic essays because there is so much preparation needed to write it. Just like Rothman said academic writing designed for a narrowed audience of hyper-knowledgeable specialists in their discipline. Having "that kind" of audience leads to having a lot of space for criticizing and questioning our essay. Yet, their feedback is just like another guidance for improving our essay because their responses are "swift, severe, accurate and thoughtful." It helps us survive in "a tightly-packed, super-competitive jungle" called academia. My next reason that leads me to agree with Rothman is I don't think I could write an essay that is fractious, humorless, self-serious, and defensively nerdy. It would be easier for me to write "ordinary writing that you read for fun or seeks to delight." Academic writing may be “knotty and strange, remote and insular, technical and specialized, forbidding and clannish,” but I believe it does not rule out making it more modern and easy to read. As stated in Rothman's essay, "If academic writing is to become expansive again, academia will probably have to expand." If we can become academics ourselves, we can create new rules that help us write academic writings that are "not so academic" so that we can have more audiences.

terkadang, bukan karena Tuhan ataupun semesta yang tidak adil, tapi perilaku kitalah yang menutup aliran rahmat dan rejeki kita sendiri.

bukan karena orang lain jahat, mungkin saja karena lisan kita yang menyakitkan mereka.

kita juga harus berkaca, berinstropeksi dengan kacamata orang ketiga;

bagaimana reaksi kita bila kita menerima apa yang telah kita ucapkan kepada orang lain.

dengan begitu, mungkin kita akan belajar menghargai orang lain.

menyadari bahwa orang lain sama berharganya dengan kita.

mereka juga ingin dihargai sebagaimana kita ingin dihargai.

jaga perilaku kita;

tidak ada orang yang mau hidup susah.

tapi hidup memang suatu perjalanan,

yang akan sangat membosankan bila terlalu lurus; dan bisa membuat gila bila terlalu terjal.

hidup harus dinikmati, karena dengan begitu, kita akan melihat hidup lebih indah.

tantangan dan rintangan akan selalu silih berganti;

begitu pula dengan rahmat dan berkat, yang tidak pernah habis setiap harinya.

mengapa harus marah bila kita memang salah?

mengapa harus malu bila kita memang tidak mampu?

berdirilah di kaki sendiri, sehingga tidak akan ada seorangpun yang bisa mendorongmu dengan mudah;

hiduplah dengan damai; dengan santai.

Park Jisung NCT Dream