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A miracle.. thank you so much.

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“We’ll go on...”

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions on this matter and I am very entitled to ignore and discard any that I don’t agree with, that being said:

For the longest time the group members have been passing around jokes about Changbin’s appearance and weight and comparing him to either a pig or walrus. I for one never found the jokes funny and lots of stays pointed out how “unfunny” these were, the jokes continued and eventually fans started making similar jokes directed at Changbin and judging from his reactions when the said jokes were mentioned, it was clear that he wasn’t a big fan, eventually he stated that he does not like the nickname walrus…and would appreciate it if fans do not put that on banners at concerts and if they did, he would just ignore. People still didn’t take this seriously and continued and every so often, a weight joke is passed, directed at the same man who shifts and smiles awkwardly each time. I have always had a very clear line between idols and myself and I do not ever try to guess what they are feeling/thinking. In this case it is somewhat different because his dislike is evident and the members themselves stated how he doesn’t like the joke, so I guess that says everything. A lot of stays claim that we cannot understand the relationship and bond they share and therefore it’s wrong of us to want them to stop with these insensitive jokes, whilst this comment is harmless and seemingly aimed at keeping peace, I think it lacks the understanding of the situation as a whole. Stays who find this problematic are not asking them to apologise for laughing at their friend.

We would appreciate it if they understood just how harmful and mean the “jokes can be”

When I first started high school, I was very slim and tall and when I joined hockey my friends would come to my games and scream the most ridiculous and rude comments about my appearance, comparing me to various things, objects and even animals and even though I would smile and laugh it off, it played a huge role in how I felt about myself because I always felt like maybe I should eat more, maybe I should cover up, maybe I should stop playing hockey altogether, and I never realised until later.

The idea behind humour aimed at your appearance is that you look unappealing, displeasing/ridiculous etc, and because you’re so ‘unacceptable’ it’s within our rights to make every joke under the sun about you, which is wild if you ask me…I cannot understand why you guys think this is normal, they don’t call him a walrus or pig because they think he’s pink and likes to swim! You all know that, and these jokes go way beyond just Changbin, they have such a large fan base growing every single day and you know what?!? There’s people who hear those jokes and think “damn I look a little like that…do I also look like a walrus/pig?! Is that what other people think of me?!” And so many other thoughts. I don’t think I have to explain how these things can really mess with you and in-still very harmful and unhealthy behaviours.

You people bashed Kim for talking about how she lost weight, talking about how harmful it is but you refuse to see how harmful it is to be the butt of a joke based on your appearance in front of thousands of people cheering and screaming at your expense?!?

I promise you, these jokes have looong term effects, just because you’ve never experienced it doesn’t mean we are all in the same boat, if anything I am happy for you but keep in mind there’s millions of people absorbing the content each day.

Accepting that this is wrong doesn’t mean you’re interfering in their relationship, it simply means that you’re looking out for yourself and everyone around you. So please spread and let other people know what’s up.