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I won’t go into this any further though because beauty is something that is entirely subjective. But it’s not only the beauty of Katerina and Ian that first caught my attention. It was also the chemistry between the two actors. Deny it all you want Delena fans, but Ian Somerhalder has the best on-screen chemistry with Katerina Graham and Katerina Graham has the best on-screen chemistry with Ian Somerhalder. And if you think that they don’t have any chemistry, it is clearly the bias that is influencing you. Chemistry is another concept that is subjective, but when you already have a pairing that you are rooting for (such as Delena), naturally you would be less inclined to see chemistry between another pairing. You can only tell when two people have chemistry together if you can watch the show through an unbiased perspective. Meaning you are not a diehard shipper and/or you are just a casual viewer. And guess what? Nine out of ten of those people will tell you that Katerina Graham and Ian Somerhalder have an insane amount of chemistry in their scenes. I hear it all the time. Mom’s who just watch the show for one episode asking “Does he like the witch?” Friends who watch the show sporadically asking “Are Damon and Bonnie sleeping together?” And reviewers of the show saying “Who else thinks these two are gonna have sex?” It’s because with Damon and Bonnie, the chemistry they share is not something that can easily be ignored. It’s the type of explosive chemistry that has me wondering why these two don’t just rip each other’s clothes off. It’s the type of chemistry that has me questioning how it’s even possible that these two haven’t jumped each other’s bones yet. It is in-your-face, raw, sexual tension, or as some people like to call it- UST. Katerina and Ian are the masters of UST. They have perfected it. They have raised the standards of UST so high that any other pairing that even tries to have UST will fall flat in comparison. Look, all I’m saying is that Damon and Bonnie just have way too much unresolved sexual tension that they just need to.... resolve.... preferably, in Damon’s bedroom. ;)

8. The Vampire Diaries Book Series -This is a common misconception about Bamon shippers. Most people tend to think that we want Bamon because of the Bonnie and Damon connection that was established in the novels. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. As a person who is actively in the Bamon communities, I can tell you that the majority shipped Bamon because of the Television show. However, this is not to say that we haven’t ever read the books. I first started shipping Bamon after Season One ended. And at that time, I had no idea that a book series even existed. Later on, I began to become more involved in the fandom and the communities and that was when I found out that Bonnie and Damon had something going on in the novels. Naturally, I was curious, so I bought all the novels and read them. And boy, did my heart swoon. Bonnie and Damon, in the novels, are enough to make any cold and bitter heart melt and crumble into a million little pieces. Their interactions are precious and pure and it only increased my love for Bamon all the more. But I know I will get flack for this reason because the Television show is nothing like the novels and TV Bonnie and Damon are nothing like book Bonnie and Damon. I know that they are two different things. I actually do see many similarities between the book’s version of Bonnie and Damon and the show’s version, but that’s not the point I am trying to make. See, the thing is, the novels helped me to understand that Bonnie and Damon are essentially meant for each other, yet neither or them realize this and try to deny it in every way. In the books, Bonnie is Damon’s weakness and he is hers, yet they have no idea how powerful their own bond is. So it’s not about me wanting the Television Bamon to be like the book Bamon, it is about me seeing the POTENTIAL in the Bamon connection. The books helped me to see what it could be like for Bonnie and Damon to exist on the show and how truly amazing it could be for both characters. One of the reasons why I want TV Bamon so badly is because I don’t think LJ Smith would have created something so beautiful in the novels if it was not highly important for both of her characters. And I would think that the person who created both Bonnie and Damon would know what is best for them. I don’t believe that Julie Plec and Kevin Williamson will entirely dismiss the possibility of Bonnie and Damon considering the Bamon bond is so pivotal in the book series. So while the novels might not have been a reason why I shipped Bamon to begin with, it certainly did help me to see why people are so insistent that Julie and Kevin include it in the show. And it helped me to see how potentially amazing Bonnie and Damon could be in the show if the writers do choose to go down that avenue. I could elaborate on this more, but I am strictly focusing on TV Bamon in this article, so I’ll end this one here. 7. A Supernatural Love Story Of Epic Proportion -If you’re like me, The Vampire Diaries isn’t the first vampire show or story that you’ve ever encountered. Personally, I’m a huge fan of the Underworld Trilogy, Buffy: The Vampire Slayer, True Blood, and I’m also familiar with the Twilight Saga. So when I say, it’s all been done before, I really mean, it’s all been done before. For something to make an impact on me, it has to be original and something new, something that hasn’t been so overly done. In the vampire genre, it has become increasingly hard to do this. It’s one of the many reasons why I love the Underworld Trilogy. Because it explored themes that no one had ever thought of exploring before. It was vampires vs. lycans (werewolves). Yes, that’s been done. But what would happen if there was a mix of the breed? What would happen if a vampire and lycan created a union between the two enemy bloodlines. This is what Underworld is about. If there is anyone who has not seen it, I encourage you to do so immediately. It soars far and above with it’s storytelling and originality. So I was thinking, we’ve seen the human/vampire love story dynamic. We’ve seen the human/werewolf love story dynamic. We’ve seen the werewolf/vampire love story dynamic. We’ve seen the witch/werewolf love story dynamic. Do you know what we haven’t seen? A witch and a vampire! But not only does The Vampire Diaries have a huge opening to do something creative and original here, the writers have also constructed their show so well that Bonnie and Damon could be one of the most amazing love stories ever told. How, you ask? Let’s see. I’m sure I’m not the only one to notice the similarities that the show tries to make between witchcraft and slavery. In TVD, the witches and warlocks are the servants of the vampires. They are constantly used and abused for the vampires benefits, even though the witches are more powerful. Also, is it any coincidence that all of the witches and warlocks happen to be black (minus Maddox)? Clearly, the writers are trying to make some heavy comparisons. So how amazing would it be if a vampire and witch fell for each other and broke that trend? It could be a classic underdog, forbidden love tale and also a huge step for interracial couples. And if there is any vampire who could break this vampire/witch stereotypical dynamic, it is Damon Salvatore. One of the biggest running themes in TVD happens to be the events and circumstances that happened a long time ago in the past- in the year 1864. Now, I don’t know how many of you paid attention in history class, but this was one of the peak years in the Civil War. The Civil War was a war against slavery. One of the reasons why Damon’s father was so disappointed in him had to do with Damon’s refusal to fight in the war and support the South (the side that supported slavery). So, clearly, he was against racial stereotypes, at a time when the opposite was expected of him. Damon has also never shared the “witches are our slaves” mindset that Katherine and the other vampires have. He seems to have a great deal of respect for the Bennett women and he strives for a truce with Bonnie, rather than treating her like his own personal magic trick. And, similarly, if there is any witch who could break this vampire/witch stereotypical dynamic, it is Bonnie Bennett. Because Bonnie is not the type of witch that you can just walk all over. She doesn’t let people treat her as inferior. Bonnie is entirely badass and she treats the vampires as equals, not as if she owes them anything. Rather than working FOR the vampires, she works WITH them, earning their respect as she goes along.

This is why Damon and Bonnie could break the mold. But even that is not the biggest reason why Damon and Bonnie could have such an epic love story. There’s also another huge element missing- Damon Salvatore was the protector of the Bennett lineage! That’s right. Damon is the reason why Bonnie is even alive right now. He protected Emily’s children and made sure that her bloodline continued. I say it a lot, but I have to say it again, there is SO MUCH that the writers can do with this storyline, SOOOO MUCH. The possibilities are endless. Damon and the Bennetts go way back and if the writers really want to keep things interesting, they could definitely go more in-depth with this. I have a strong feeling they will, as there are many hints that there is more to the story that we don’t know yet. Damon and Bonnie could be the first vampire/witch alliance, breaking a whole CENTURIES worth of history between the two supernatural lineages. I’m a sucker for epic love stories like this and I want it so bad!!! Come on TVD writers, do you not see the potential you have on your hands right now?! 6. Equals In Every Sense Of The Word -This was one of the first reasons why I started to like the idea of Bamon. Bonnie and Damon are equals. Bonnie is the type of girl Damon NEEDS and Damon is the type of guy Bonnie NEEDS. I can’t stress it enough- Bonnie is the BEST POTENTIAL MATCH for Damon on the show. For one thing, Bonnie is a witch. This means that she is supernatural, she is powerful, she is headstrong, and she most certainly can hold her own against Damon. Damon needs someone like this. He has a huge ego and he needs a woman that can keep him in check, not through force or through manipulation, but just by having a strong woman by his side. The type of bullshit Damon pulls on a daily basis, he would never be able to do with Bonnie. When Damon had his hands around Jeremy’s throat in the second season premiere, all I was thinking the whole time was- “where the hell is Bonnie when you need her?” Because it’s the truth. If the situation had happened to Bonnie, Damon’s ass would have already been out the window by the time he even got near Jeremy. Actually, if Bonnie was there, Damon would never do something like that to begin with. He knows his limits when he is around her and I love that. Elena does not present this challenge to Damon. There is no incentive for him to change. And to the Delena shippers who somehow think Elena will change Damon through love, I’m sorry, but life does not work that way. It’s so romantic, wanting the good girl to change the bad boy, but it’s a delusional and unhealthy ideal. Damon Salvatore has severe issues! This isn’t just a normal bad boy who likes to gamble and drink. We’re talking about a guy who helped Katherine to kill people when he was HUMAN. Damon’s darkness is rooted very deeply within him and without someone like Bonnie, he can never move past it. He will constantly fuck up, apologize, then do it again. This is what Damon and Elena would be like. It’s already happened in the show so many times. Just look at the Jeremy neck-snap fiasco. He fucked up, he apologized, and then in the very next episode he tried to kill Caroline. Like I said, there is no one CHALLENGING Damon. Elena’s “be the better man” is not a challenge to Damon. How can Elena challenge Damon when she doesn’t even have his respect? Damon does not consider Elena to be his equal. He does not respect her! He never gives her a choice or allows her to make her own decisions. In “The Last Dance," Elena had to practically manipulate Damon into telling her he was going to follow her rules and he did so begrudgingly. And I really don’t think I need to elaborate on Damon’s lack of respect for Elena in the last episode when he refused to let her talk to Elijah. If it was not for Stefan's intervention, Damon would have held Elena hostage. Damon does not value Elena’s input or what she wants!

But he does for Bonnie. Throughout the entire dance episode, Damon and Bonnie were a unit. He gave her a choice. He asked Bonnie if she was still willing to do whatever it takes to kill Klaus. Bonnie ALREADY told Damon that she would do whatever it takes, even giving her own life, but Damon asked her AGAIN. He had to make sure it was what SHE wanted. Do you know how rare that is? Do you know how rare it is that Damon ever cares about what somebody else wants to do for a change? It was entirely Bonnie’s choice and he supported her decision. And rather than just throwing her in there to battle Klaus, he helped her to come up with a way to save herself. But I know a lot of people will say Damon only gave Bonnie a choice because it went along with what he wanted. That’s true, but Damon has ALWAYS been this way with Bonnie, even when her choices didn’t benefit him. He never forces her into anything. He talks to her and tries to convince her that she can trust him. He tries to convince her that he is her ally. Again, he strives for a truce and understanding between them, rather than ordering her to help him. But I also know the counter-argument to this. Damon doesn’t try to force Bonnie to help him because he can’t, as she is more powerful than he is. Well, my answer to that is- when has that ever stopped Damon before? Do you remember Lexi, Pearl, Anna, Bree, Elijah, and Mason? All people who were more powerful than Damon was, yet that never stopped him from trying to hurt them in some way or doing some dumb thing to piss them off and create an enemy. But Damon is never this way with Bonnie. Even when Bonnie tried to kill him, Damon still told a faux-Elena that she had EVERY REASON TO HATE HIM. Damon defended Bonnie’s decision!!! Even though it didn’t benefit him, he still respected her choice! Again, do you guys realize the rarity of this? ANY other person in the show who tries to destroy Damon is considered a dead man in his eyes, like the above people that I just mentioned. Mason and Elijah even offered Damon a truce, which he rejected. But with Bonnie, he practically begs her to give him another chance.

Why does Damon reject the help of other, equally as powerful people, all the while trying to gain Bonnie’s trust instead? It’s simple. Damon considers Bonnie to be an equal to him. Damon’s subconscious acceptance of Bonnie as his equal is best noticed when compared with how Damon treats the girl he “loves.” Damon treats Elena like a child, or at worst, like a pet. He may love Elena, but he does not treat her like an equal! So I ask again, how is Elena going to change Damon when Damon doesn’t even respect her enough to care about what she wants? Elena’s “talks” with Damon and befriending him will do no good. IT WILL NEVER WORK. You can not change someone like Damon without giving him boundaries. You have to be strong-willed and you have to be relentless. The ONLY person to EVER act this way concerning Damon is BONNIE. Bonnie doesn’t just forgive Damon for all the terrible things he does. He can’t charm his way into her good graces. He has to work for it. She does not tolerate his bullshit. If I said it before, I’m saying it again, Bonnie Bennett is the type of woman Damon NEEDS in his life. And if Bonnie Bennett is the best potential match for Damon, that only means Damon is the BEST POTENTIAL MATCH for Bonnie. Damon is strong, protective, and he has incredible resolve. Damon is prepared for the type of lifestyle that Bonnie’s life demands. Bonnie is the hero of Mystic Falls and she has a higher purpose in life. What she needs more than anything is someone to support her, rather than constantly worry about her. She needs someone who will consider her their equal, because Bonnie is not the type of girl who can just sit on the sidelines. As much as I think that Jeremy and Bonnie’s relationship is cute and sweet, I couldn’t help but notice how incompatible they are in the last two episodes. When Bonnie was in the witches house receiving the power from her ancestors, Jeremy was constantly questioning her and he was cowering on the floor. Now, I don’t fault Jeremy at all for this. That’s his girl. He cares about her. Of course he will worry about her. Plus, he’s only human so he couldn’t really help the cowering. But the whole time the scene was happening, I just kept thinking to myself, if it was Damon with her instead of Jeremy, the scene would have played out so differently. But nothing expressed more clearly to me how incompatible Bonnie and Jeremy are than the dance episode. When they were standing outside, Bonnie had to resort to lying to Jeremy. She knew she was going to die, but she told Jeremy that she had a 50/50 shot of survival. She couldn’t tell Jeremy the truth, because he would never let her do it and he would complain about it and he would tell Elena and Stefan. Jeremy doesn’t “get” Bonnie. He doesn’t understand why she feels as though she needs to do this. Contrast this with Damon. The moment that Damon and Bonnie started dancing, Damon asked Bonnie if she had a 50/50 shot of surviving and Bonnie told Damon the TRUTH. Why is that? Why was it that Bonnie lied to her own boyfriend, but she told Damon the truth? Because she knew that Damon could handle the truth. She knew Damon wouldn’t try to stop her. But she still trusted that Damon had her best interests at heart. Let me repeat, she TRUSTED Damon. She trusted him with her life! By Jeremy telling Stefan that Bonnie was going to die, he put both Stefan and Elena in harms way, which is exactly what Bonnie was trying to avoid. But Damon instead supported her, trying to help her find a way to save her life. It was a team effort and just showed me all the more that my assumptions are correct- Bonnie and Damon are at their best when they are working together. They are a dynamic duo. The dance episode was just confirmation that they both consider each other to be EQUALS. So just as much as I think Bonnie is good for Damon, I think that Damon is just as good for Bonnie. They NEED each other. 5. Mirror, Mirror, On The Wall... Who's The Greatest Ship Of All? -Bonnie and Damon are both flawed characters. Actually that is putting it lightly. Not only are Bonnie and Damon both flawed characters, but they are the two most flawed characters on the show and heavily misunderstood by those around them and also by viewers. They both share the same complexities and imperfections. They also have rather similar reactions to circumstances. Because of this, I believe that they are MIRRORS of one another and it’s one of the reasons why I think they understand each other so well. Both Bonnie and Damon react in the same way to grief. When Damon is upset, he tries to pretend like nothing bothers him. He tries to pretend like he doesn’t need anyone. When he found out that Katherine was never in the tomb and not looking for him, he got drunk with some college girls and acted as if he could care less, even though he was dying inside. And when Katherine returned, he tried to pretend as if he was unfazed by it and as if he could ignore her. But when he was in the Salvatore house making out with her, he stopped and told her, “I just need the truth.” He needed to know that someone needed him back. Because for the majority of Damon’s life, he’s spent it loving someone who didn’t give a damn about him. Not only does Damon pretend that he doesn’t need anyone when he is grief-stricken, but he tries to drive a wedge between the very few people who do actually love him. In the second season premiere, when Damon was at the Lockwood Estate, he tried to pick a fight with Stefan. He even stooped so low to remind Stefan that he kissed faux-Elena, trying to rile his brother up. Why? Because that is Damon’s reaction to grief. He tries to push everyone away when he is upset. This is the exact same reaction to grief that Bonnie has. When Bonnie is upset, she too tries to pretend like she doesn’t need anyone. She distances herself with the people who love her. When Bonnie’s grandmother died, she tried to distance herself with Elena and Stefan. When Caroline got turned into a vampire, she tried to distance herself with Caroline. Rather than admit how much she is hurting, she holds it inside her and pretends like she can live without these people. It is a defense mechanism. A way to keep herself guarded so that she won’t get hurt. Both Bonnie and Damon react off of impulse as well, especially when they are upset. When Damon got upset at his multiple rejections in the second season premiere, he killed Jeremy. In the very next episode, Bonnie gets upset over Caroline becoming a vampire and she tries to kill Damon. The parallels between Bonnie and Damon’s character astound me. Bonnie and Damon are also the two characters who are always second best. Damon lives in the shadow of his younger brother and Bonnie lives in the shadow of her best friend. Everyone always chooses Stefan, everyone always does everything for Stefan, everyone always tries to protect Stefan. Damon has never been anyone’s first choice. It is the same with Bonnie. Everyone always tries to protect Elena and everyone does everything for Elena. Bonnie’s life is just as much at risk as Elena’s is, yet she does not get the attention that Elena does. But neither Damon nor Bonnie ever vocalize their unhappiness with these positions. Because the fact of the matter is, Damon loves Stefan and Bonnie loves Elena. Let’s take this one step further though. Not only are there parallels in Damon’s relation to Stefan with Bonnie’s relation to Elena but there are also massive parallels in Damon’s relation to Elena with Bonnie’s relation to Stefan. Damon is willing to do anything for Elena (except apologize to Elijah apparently). He loves her. He will go to any length to protect her and save her life. Even if Damon doesn’t want to do something, he will budge when Elena is involved. For example, when Rose kidnapped Elena, Damon went with Stefan to rescue her because, simply, “it’s Elena.” This is exactly Bonnie’s response to Stefan. Although she doesn’t love him in the same way that Damon loves Elena, her platonic love for him runs very deeply.

Bonnie will do anything for Stefan and even if she doesn’t want to do something, she will budge when Stefan asks her to. When Stefan ran into the tomb to save Elena in season one, Bonnie did everything in her power to get him out even though it took a toll on her and her Grams. When Bonnie didn’t want to make the ring for Caroline, Stefan told her that if she couldn’t trust Caroline, to trust him instead. And that was it. Bonnie made the ring. When Stefan ran into the burning building to save Damon, Bonnie ran after him and told him not to go. When Stefan went in anyways, Bonnie lowered the fire and I am certain that is a decision Bonnie would have made whether or not Elena showed up at that instant. Because the moment that Stefan went in, that was when the situation changed for Bonnie. How about we take this parallel up another notch? Not only will Damon do anything for Elena, just as Bonnie will do anything for Stefan, but both Damon and Bonnie are aware of the other’s attachment to their respective characters. In the second season premiere at the hospital, Bonnie told Damon that she knows he will give Caroline the blood because he would be doing it “for Elena.” In Plan B, when Bonnie told Damon she wasn’t going to help him with Mason, Damon said- “that’s why I brought him” and turned to Stefan. Parallel mindfuck.

Alright, I think I drove that point home so let’s move on. Another way in which Bonnie and Damon have the same imperfections? They are both judgmental and have a tendency to think too much of themselves, especially when they are around each other. It’s because they have a power-play between them. They both are judgmental against people who are different from them- Damon with the werewolves and Bonnie with the vampires. I talked earlier about Damon having a big ego, but Bonnie has quite an ego herself and it flares up whenever she is around Damon, as he constantly challenges her abilities. A final massive similarity between Damon and Bonnie is that they are the two characters in the show who love harder than anyone else. It’s one of the reasons why they worked so well together in the dance episode. Because when they love the people that they love, they REALLY love them and they will go to any extent to protect that person. Damon doesn’t have many people who he is attached to. But those people who he decides he does care about, he loves them hard. It is the same with Bonnie. She doesn’t let too many people into her circle of trust, but those who she does, she loves them with all her heart. Out of all the characters on the show, the ones whose love I would value the most would be Bonnie and Damon’s. This is why I feel like they need each other. Because they are both two broken halves that could complete one another. Damon needs a girl who can love him as much as he can love her and Bonnie needs a guy who can love her as much as she can love him. Nothing showed this more to me than the closing montage of episode 14 in season one. Bonnie’s Grams dies in the same episode that Damon is heartbroken over Katherine never being in the tomb, another parallel. The two scenes were played back to back, Damon sitting in front of the fire with Stefan as silent support and Bonnie breaking down with Elena’s arms holding her. My heart broke for both of them. I think that was the moment when a Bamon flame was lit inside of me.

4. Ships Of A Feather, Flock Together -So if you have never watched an episode of Smallville in your life and/or if you are not a fan of the Clark and Lois pairing, I would advise you to skip this number. I’m sorry, it’s just that when I talk about how amazing Bamon could be, I find that I ALWAYS have to bring up Clois. Although Damon and Bonnie don’t share much similarities with Clark and Lois, it is not the characters that I am trying to compare. It is the actual pairing of the two characters put together that remind me so much of Damon and Bonnie. It is the dynamic within the pairing and more than anything, it is the BUILD-UP. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, Clark and Lois’s build-up and eventual relationship on Smallville was a Television masterpiece. I hear a lot of Delena fans saying things like “Damon will never love Bonnie as much as he loves Elena” or “How can they make Bonnie and Damon seem plausible if they are building up Damon and Elena.” The answer is simple. They did it on Smallville. If Damon and Bonnie are built anything like Clark and Lois, there is no doubt in my mind that it will be the ultimate pairing. And just for your information, for those who don’t know yet, two of the Smallville writers are now writers for TVD. So what do I mean when I say Bamon reminds me of Clois? Well, when Lois first showed up in Smallville, her and Clark didn’t get along much. It’s not that they hated one another, but there was a dislike there. They used to annoy each other constantly, bicker back and forth, and snark at each other. It was often very humorous. This reminds me so much of Bonnie and Damon’s interactions, especially in Plan B. Both of the pairings had sexy banter, intense smoldering stares, teasing, annoyance, protectiveness, and sincerity.

Another reason why I compare Bamon to Clois is because, like Damon, Clark was also in love with someone else- Lana Lang. I actually recall one time when Clark even told Lana that he couldn’t stand Lois. Very strong words for Clark to say about his destined soulmate. Lana’s response?- “The best ones always start that way.” YES! Thank you Lana for your many pearls of wisdom. But back to what I was saying. Clark was so madly and obsessively in love with Lana. He couldn’t see that there was any other person that he would ever be in love with. He even told Lois that he couldn’t imagine loving someone other than Lana, not knowing that the girl he would love more than anything was staring him right in the face. This is what I believe will happen with Bonnie and Damon. Damon is in love with Elena right now. He is obsessed with her, just like Clark was obsessed with Lana (which, by the way, Elena actually reminds me so much of Lana, it’s ridiculous). So right now, Damon can’t see himself loving anyone other than Elena, but that’s not to say that he is right. Clark certainly wasn’t right on Smallville. It’s why I don’t store too much faith in Damon’s “I will always choose you” line. You never know Damon, you might just surprise yourself in the future. Even though Clark and Lois didn’t get along at the beginning of their relationship, Clark and Lois UNDERSTOOD each other so well. This is another similarity they have with Bamon. Bonnie and Damon understand each other so well. It’s so strange actually because they have very little scenes together, but from those little scenes, it’s so apparent how much they just GET one another. Damon knows Bonnie so well. He knows what motivates her, he knows what scares her, he knows her weaknesses. I always find it ironic how the person who Bonnie is afraid to show weakness to is Damon, yet he is the one who can see her weakness better than anyone. Damon knew Bonnie from their very first scene together. When he was bothering her during the Halloween episode, he brought Caroline up just to piss her off. And when she reacted exactly like he expected, he said “oh Bonnie, so loyal” in a tone that made me think her loyalty was so typical to him. And in the parking lot he could sense her fear and he used it to try and convince her to give him the necklace.

Damon also knew he couldn’t trust Bonnie to disable the device and he only gave in because Elena told him to trust her instead. Not even Elena, someone who Bonnie knew her whole life, doubted that Bonnie would do the spell. Wouldn’t her best friend know her a little better? Wouldn’t she know that Bonnie would never do something like that? Actually, it was Stefan who had to piece together this bit of information for Elena during the finale. Damon knew that Bonnie felt guilty about what happened to Caroline. Damon also knew that Bonnie would do anything for Stefan and Elena. He knows that will motivate her and he uses it to convince her to help him. Damon knows that even though Bonnie acts so tough, she is terrified underneath it all. That’s why he grabbed Mason’s hand as soon as it went on her in Plan B. Isn’t it surprising how well Damon knows Bonnie considering how little time they actually spend together? But what’s even more surprising is that Damon is aware of how well he knows Bonnie. In “Know Thy Enemy” he told Bonnie- “I didn’t know you and father witch were so close.” My only reaction to that line was “um, Damon, what makes you think you know anything about Bonnie at all?” It made me wonder if they were spending time together off-screen or something, discussing Bonnie’s relationship with the Martins. That’s just not the type of thing you say to someone who you’re not close to. But that’s the thing. Bonnie and Damon are not close. They just KNOW each other somehow. And Bonnie knows Damon. Bonnie knows that Damon’s motivation is Elena. She knows that Damon has it within him to change, or else she wouldn’t have spared his life in the season finale. But nothing clued me in more to how tuned into each other Damon and Bonnie are than the dance episode. I can’t stress this enough. Damon KNEW Bonnie was lying to Jeremy. How? How did he know? How could he tell Bonnie was lying? He just knew. And Bonnie also KNEW that Damon knew. Just by him looking at her, she knew. This was also confirmed when they started dancing, because the moment that Damon got there she brought it up. Ah, the dance. From the moment that their eyes met, they were just completely and perfectly in sync with one another. I wasn’t the only one saying it either. I saw many tweets saying- “Why does it seem like Damon and Bonnie have been dancing together their entire lives?” It is the honest truth! Step for step, they flowed in unison, almost like they could anticipate what the other would do. And I said it before, Bonnie already knew that Damon was not going to tell anyone her secret, because she told him the truth right away when he asked her, even before she told him not to tell. The entire episode, they were just clicking all over the place. I don’t believe in soulmates (outside of Clois) but boy, if I did, I would certainly think Damon and Bonnie were it. Because they naturally just fall together in the same way that Clark and Lois do. They are just so in-tune with one another on a deeper level. There was always a mutual understanding with Clark and Lois, where it was so obvious that Lois was destined for Clark, even though they didn’t know it. They just seemed to know each other somehow straight from their very first meeting. And I feel this same type of unity with Bonnie and Damon. Only time will tell though if they are meant to be. If Bamon is handled like Clois was handled though, my hopes are very high.

Clark and Lois’s relationship was built WHILE Clark was in love with Lana. Clana was a seven year progression, Clois was six years... and Smallville is only a 10 year show. Meaning that the two relationships overlapped each other. It wasn’t that Clark stopped being in love with Lana to focus on Lois, it was that Clark and Lois made strides in their interactions with one another even throughout Clark’s relationship with Lana and Lois’s relationship with Oliver Queen. Clark and Lois went from disliking each other, to annoying each other, to tolerating each other, to enjoying each other’s presence, to befriending one another, to liking one another, and finally, to loving one another. It was a complete step progression for them, so that by the time Clark and Lana were no more, he already had the foundation built with Lois. Clark’s relationship with Lana was necessary for Clark’s growth, just as Lois’s relationship with Oliver was necessary for her growth. It was through these failed relationships that the two of them ultimately knew they were right for one another. It was through Clark’s relationship with Lana that Clark realized Lois was the one he needed all along. And I think it’s pretty safe to say who Clark will end up with. This could be Bamon. Right now, Bonnie and Damon are at the tolerating each other stage, although I do think Bonnie is beginning to enjoy Damon’s presence a little more. There is no doubt in my mind that Bonnie and Damon’s relationship will continue to grow, and if it does, it has the potential to be as legendary as Clark and Lois. Good stuff. 3. Bringing Out The Best -Bonnie and Damon change one another for the better and they don’t even realize it. Yes, it’s a strong statement, but I stand by it. Damon is his best self when he is around Bonnie and Bonnie is her best self around Damon. There is no force or manipulation involved in order to change one another. It is entirely INDIRECT and NATURAL. They don’t realize that they make each other better people, but they do. Just by being near each other. Let me explain. When Damon is around Bonnie, he is so respectful and sincere. Bonnie is the one person who I feel like Damon genuinely has respect for. He is always opening car doors for her and thanking her. That’s right- THANKING her. Who has Damon ever thanked before in his life? Damon did this, not once, but TWICE. And both times, it was extremely sincere on his part. No one can bring that out of Damon except for Bonnie Bennett!

Not only that, but when Bonnie talks to Damon, he LISTENS to her. When she told him not to be disrespectful to Luka, he listened to her. And it’s not about Bonnie guilting Damon into it either like Elena does. She just speaks and it has an impact on him for no apparent reason. Again, it’s probably because of the level of respect he has for her and the fact that Bonnie challenges him. And does anyone else notice that Damon never treats Bonnie the way that he treats everyone else? So I’ve heard the counter-argument to this: Damon is never mean to Bonnie because he loves Elena. Well, let me prove all the ways in which that argument is invalid. He killed Elena’s brother. Okay, fine. You can say he regrets doing that. But really? Did you see what Damon did to Jeremy in the very next episode? He didn’t seem very remorseful when he had Jeremy in a headlock and threatened to shove his ring up his ass. You would think that he would try to treat Jeremy a little better considering that Elena was pissed off at him, but nope. What about Caroline? I’m pretty sure Damon tried to kill Caroline in the second episode of this season. Actually, Elena directly told Damon not to kill Caroline and he didn’t give a damn what she wanted. He still tried to kill Caroline. He only didn’t go through with it because Elena used her body as a shield to protect her. And up to today, Damon still treats Caroline as though she is inferior to him. So if Damon is only nice to Bonnie because of Elena, what’s the excuse for Jeremy and Caroline? Heck, Bonnie has even tried to kill Damon multiple times and Damon ain’t even mad. Again, Bonnie indirectly brings out a different side of Damon. I keep hearing Delena fans say that Elena brings out the best in Damon and she brings out his humanity. But Damon appears most human to me when he is with Bonnie (and Stefan). That’s when I see his sincerity. That’s when I see him acting like a normal human being rather than a murderous raving lunatic. Damon is just more likable when he is around Bonnie. I also happen to think that Damon looks sexier when he is around Bonnie as well.... but let’s not go there. It’s not only Bonnie bringing out a better side of Damon, but I feel like Damon brings out a better side of Bonnie. Not that I mind any of her sides, but does anyone besides me notice how much Bonnie changes when she is around Damon? One of the best examples has to be the dance scene. Bonnie was dancing with Jeremy and it was nice and sweet and calm and tender. Then Damon appeared and the moment that their hands met, it was like BAM! Something awakened in Bonnie. This fierce, sexy, passionate, intense individual. Bonnie is the type of character who changes depending on the person she is around. Although I love Bonnie and Jeremy, I sometimes see Bonnie as a child when she is with him. But when she is near Damon, she is entirely- woman, and a badass one at that. He brings out such loyalty and determination in her. I love it. I love that side of Bonnie. I sometimes wonder if Damon was not there in the dance episode, would Bonnie have had the strength to go through with taking on Klaus. It seems like whenever Damon is present, Bonnie tries so much harder. Maybe it is the power-play dynamic but there is a constant need for Bonnie to prove herself in Damon’s presence. She is afraid to show weakness in front of him. And although some might see this as a bad thing, I actually think it is helping her. It’s because of this need to prove herself that Bonnie is so confident about her abilities. She needs to believe in herself. She needs someone to help her believe in herself. Because, like I said before, Bonnie is the hero of Mystic Falls. Every hero needs that little push to help them realize their full potential. I couldn’t help but notice in the dance episode that this was what Bonnie was lacking from Jeremy. When they were talking in the cafeteria, she told him- “have a little faith in me.” She didn’t have the support from Jeremy that she needed. It’s probably what led her to lie to him. Contrast this with Damon. When Bonnie told him Klaus was in Alaric’s body, he told her “No! Klaus does not get to win tonight. Are you still willing to do whatever it takes to kill him?” When Bonnie busted through the doors in the next scene, the look on her face was pure determination. It was the BAMF walk. She got the motivation she needed from Damon. But I know what people are going to say. It’s an unfair comparison because Jeremy wanted Bonnie to live, whereas Damon didn’t care about Bonnie’s life. Well, not exactly. If you’ll notice, Damon tried to save Bonnie’s life BEFORE he knew Klaus was in Alaric’s body. When he was dancing with her he said, “All that power, is there any way to increase those odds?” He KNEW Bonnie had the power to bring herself back to life. He went over there to help her even before he knew that she was going to die that night. A lot of Bamon shippers took Damon’s actions in a negative way during the dance episode. I didn’t, because once again, I don’t see it as Damon helping Bonnie to kill herself. No one can help Bonnie kill herself. It is Bonnie’s decision! And Damon made sure Bonnie knew it was HER decision. She will do it whether or not people try to stop her. She will do it because of her love for Elena. Damon knows this because he understands Bonnie. So he’s not going to try and stop her. Instead he will try to help her in whatever way he possibly can. And that was what he did in the dance episode. And he accepts the fact that realistically, Bonnie may have to die. She is the only one who can stop Klaus. But I’m sure Damon hopes that it won’t have to come to that and that they can find another way. Because when Elena told him that they would find another way, he said “I hope so.” He doesn’t have a death wish for Bonnie. He doesn’t WANT Bonnie to die, but right now his obsession with Elena is the only thing on his mind. Anyways, back to what I was saying about Damon bringing out the fiery side of Bonnie. I also notice that just as Damon listens to Bonnie, Bonnie listens to him. The things he says to her do actually have an impact on her. In the season finale, when Damon thanked Bonnie, you could tell that she felt guilty for not disabling the device. In Plan B, it was Damon who told Bonnie to get off her high-horse and she did. When they are around each other, it ignites qualities in both characters that I thoroughly enjoy and admire. 2. Damon’s Internal Conflict When It Comes To Bonnie -Alas, I must admit the truth- I’m a selfish bitch. I want it all. I want happiness for all of the characters on TVD. I want Stefan to be happy. I want Elena to be happy. I want Bonnie to be happy. But I’d be lying to you if I didn’t admit that my investment in Damon’s happiness moves me a bit more. Damon is my favorite. I love him and I always will. I often get asked a lot why I ship Bamon if Damon is my favorite character. Delena fans find it curious that I don’t want Damon to be with the person who he wants to be with considering he is my favorite. But there is a simple reason for this. I love Damon too much. I love him enough to want what is BEST for him, rather than what he WANTS. Because most of the time, the thing that we want is not what is best for us. I want Damon to be happy, and I don’t see how Damon will ever be happy if he is with Elena. It poses such a problem for all of the characters. Damon and Stefan are brothers. There is no way to get around this. People fall in and out of love all the time, going through women and men constantly, getting divorced and remarried multiple times, but your family, that is FOREVER, and you don’t get a choice. And I firmly believe that if Elena ever does fall in love with Damon, she will still be torn between the two brothers. It will only make things worse, and increase Damon’s pain, and saying this as a person whose favorite character is Damon, I don’t want to see him in pain. I would not ship Damon with Bonnie if I honestly did not think she is the BEST person for him. Damon being with Bonnie would not only guarantee happiness for both Damon and Bonnie, but it also ensures Stefan and Elena’s happiness. But I know some people will think that’s a stupid reason to want two people to be together. Ship Bamon just because it guarantees Stelena. Well, firstly, I don’t even ship Stelena. I ship Stefan with happiness and Elena with happiness and it just so happens that they are happy when they are with each other. A Stelena endgame because of Bamon is just an added bonus.

But I’m not just throwing Damon in a relationship with Bonnie for the hell of it. Damon likes Bonnie! Yeah... I just went there. He does. He loves Elena, I know this. But he likes Bonnie. I am sure of it. I always thought he did but the dance episode confirmed it for me. For the first time ever, I saw Damon in conflict. He wasn’t struggling with someone else, he was struggling with HIMSELF. It was internal conflict and it was because of Bonnie. Because he cares about her, despite his line about how he will “gladly let Bonnie die.” Once again, it was just words. But Damon’s actions are something entirely different. After the dance episode, there is NO ONE that can convince me that Damon does not care for Bonnie. Try all you want ex-Bamon shippers, but it’s not going to happen. Firstly, I don’t think Damon’s “controversial” line to Elena would have been spoken at all if viewers weren’t meant to question it. It was TOO noticeable and it was TOO definite. For one thing, the writers made sure to specifically say “Bonnie” as opposed to just “anyone.” Why? Why have Damon make such a bold statement that he would always choose Elena over specifically Bonnie? This is massive foreshadowing. Because one day, there will come a time when Damon has to choose between Bonnie and Elena, and I have a feeling, it won’t be as easy as he made it seem. Not only was his statement so bold because of mentioning Bonnie specifically, but it stood out like a sore thumb for one huge reason- for the entirety of the episode, it seemed like Damon did genuinely care for Bonnie. Let me explain. When Damon overheard Bonnie telling Jeremy she had a 50/50 chance of surviving, he made sure Bonnie knew that he heard what she said. You will notice the look on his face when he said “evening” to her. Why? Why would it matter to Damon if Bonnie knew that he heard. If he doesn’t care about her life at all, then it wouldn’t have mattered if he did overhear her and Jeremy. And then when Jeremy and Bonnie were dancing, he went right up to her and cut into their dance. He did this right after he danced with Elena. The same song was playing, so he didn’t waste any time in talking to her. When they started dancing, Bonnie already KNEW what Damon came over to talk to her about. He was asking her if she was really going to go through with giving her life for Elena and he said “good” because he has respect for her dedication to those she loves. He admires her resolve because Damon is the exact same way with his resolve to save Elena, he will do anything, just like Bonnie. And then he asked her if she could increase her odds. Again, this means that Damon knew Bonnie could save herself. He wanted to help her! To tell her she didn’t have to die. And I repeat again, he did this BEFORE he knew Klaus was in Alaric’s body, meaning he was concerned for her life even before he knew it was actually in jeopardy. Then when Bonnie did die, I saw the CONFLICT in Damon.

Damon knew she wasn’t actually dead, but STILL, he looked sad. There was no one there at that time. He didn’t have to pretend. That was entirely on Damon. He stroked her face, he closed her eyes, and he LOOKED remorseful. He looked like he did not enjoy seeing Bonnie that way and as if he never wanted to see it again. Then he gently put her in his car trunk. He wasn’t manhandling her like he does with every other dead body. And he STILL had the same conflicted look on his face. But that’s not all. Damon called Jeremy and told him to meet him there. He made sure that Jeremy was there for Bonnie when she woke up. That was something that was completely unnecessary on Damon’s part and I’m sorry, but that’s not the type of thing you do for someone that you don’t care about. I’m sorry Damon, but you’re never going to convince me that you don’t care about Bonnie! So I’m not just shipping Damon with someone who I think he doesn’t like or will never like. I genuinely believe that Damon has it fully within him to love Bonnie. Because if he is this conflicted over her fake death, who's to say how much more attached to her he will become in the future. As for Bonnie and her feelings for Damon, that still remains to be seen. I do think she is starting to see him in a better light though. We’ve seen Bonnie save Damon’s life multiple times, but it’s really the little things that clue you into how a person feels about someone else. Bonnie was certainly conflicted about Damon the first time he thanked her in the season finale. I also noticed her smile while she was watching Damon dance like a drunken idiot.

She is most definitely warming up to him. But the writers don’t give us Bamon scenes too often. I would love to see more of Bonnie being conflicted about Damon. 1. Bonnie is the Yin to Damon’s Yang -So in reason Number 5, I described many similarities that Damon and Bonnie share and how it makes them compatible. But the truth is, if two people are TOO similar, they are incompatible. There has to be a balance. You have to have similar traits and qualities so that you can relate to one another, but you also have to have differences to attract one another. It’s through the differences that two people are naturally drawn to one another, as if the universe is trying to balance itself out. Bonnie and Damon, although similar in certain aspects, are essentially OPPOSITES. Therefore they are compatible in every way possible. Whenever Bonnie and Damon are together, there is BALANCE. Everything that Damon is lacking is what Bonnie has. Everything that Bonnie is lacking is what Damon has. Together, they just fit. Let’s elaborate. Damon and Bonnie, as characters, are completely different on outward appearance. Damon is dark, sarcastic, menacing at times, and although the fangirls might disagree, he is not a nice person. I’m sorry, but that’s the truth. Whatever way you look at it, Damon has evil within him. Bonnie is the exact opposite of this. She is a light, happy, normal, and although the fangirls might disagree, she is a good-hearted person. I don’t care what anyone says, her intentions are always in the right place and she will always do what she believes is RIGHT. Damon is the bad-boy and Bonnie is the good-girl. But this is something that I need to stress. If it was that simple, then I probably would pair Damon with Elena, as that is another bad-boy/good-girl pairing. But it’s not. Because when it comes to Damon being a bad-boy and Bonnie being a good-girl, the two of them are extreme, polar opposites. They are on the very outer edges of the opposite spectrum. What I’m trying to say is, Damon Salvatore isn’t just ANY ordinary bad-boy. Damon’s bad streak makes other bad-boy characters come up short. There is true darkness inside of Damon. This is a person who has no regard for human life whatsoever. To Damon, anyone who is not Stefan and Elena are considered “collateral damage.” He just does not give a shit. He does not care about human life or value it at all, which is striking considering that he desires to be human so badly. But that’s just it. Damon wants to be human so badly, but he doesn’t realize that he is the cause of his own inhumanity. Normal human beings care about other human life. But Damon doesn’t and that is just one of the many reasons why I know that the darkness inside of him is rooted very deeply. Not to mention, his actions while he was human were also highly questionable. As much as I love Damon, I say it all the time, he has severe issues. When Damon was helping Stefan to take out the guys who were beating up Jeremy, he was about to kill one of them and Stefan had to stop him. Damon knew they were compelled and that they were innocent, but he did not care. Stefan understands that the loss of an innocent life should never happen when it can be helped, which is why Stefan places such heavy restrictions on himself. This is a concept that Damon does not understand. When Katherine killed Aimee (I think that was her name) at the masquerade ball, Stefan got worried and said that they should call it off, but Damon told him that it was just, once again, “collateral damage.” Damon has no respect for human life. But if Damon is the baddest of all bad-boys, that can only mean one thing. Yes, that Bonnie is the greatest of all good-girls. Bonnie Bennett isn’t your typical good-girl. She is THE good-girl. Bonnie is so good that she is willing to give her life, not only for the people she loves, but for her entire town, for EVERYONE. In my eyes, that is superhero status. Or Jesus! Damon needs this. For all the darkness Damon has inside of him, he needs someone more than the ordinary good-girl. He needs someone more than Elena. He needs Bonnie. Because Damon is TOO bad and he needs someone who is TOO good to balance him out. Bonnie values human life more than anything. It is number one on her priority list. She is the hero. It is her responsibility to make sure no one gets hurt. When Stefan wanted Bonnie to help them take out Katherine at the masquerade ball, Bonnie was unsure of going through with it because she didn’t want anyone to get hurt. And it’s interesting to me that the writers had Bonnie appear as the people’s protector in the very same episode that Damon showed just how far his disregard for human life goes. And how about the dance episode. That was another one where Bonnie displayed her goodness in every possible way in the same episode where Damon once again used the term- “collateral damage.” With all the parallels and all the [whatever is the opposite of parallels], you would think the TVD writers do it on purpose or something. In the show, Bonnie is the ONLY character who shows any remorse for the dead and she is the only person to display any guilt for when she is directly or indirectly responsible for someone’s death- i.e.- Mason, Luka and Dr. Martin. Damon’s complete disregard for human life is contrasted so perfectly with Bonnie’s protection of human life. It’s why I enjoyed Bonnie and Damon’s scene in “Know Thy Enemy” so much. Damon made a joke about Luka’s dead body right next to Bonnie. I knew before he even finished his sentence that it wouldn’t fly with her. Bonnie told him not to be disrespectful and Damon listened to her. Perfect balance. Not to mention, it is also Bonnie’s calling as a witch to keep the order and balance of nature. This was explained by Elijah in the last episode when he said that witches are “nature’s servants.” So if you’re wondering how does Bonnie benefit from Damon’s darkness, I have an answer for that. The truth is, being too good isn’t always a good thing. Crazy, I know, but hear me out. People who have hero complexes often have a tendency to think too much of themselves to the point where they are unwilling to budge when someone or something is different from their ideals, moral beliefs and high standards. They usually always think they are right and if something does not go along with their beliefs, it is wrong. But life is never that black and white. There are times when you have to make a choice. This was something that Bonnie struggled with so much at the end of season one and the beginning of season two. She had to make some tough choices between her friends vs. her beliefs. Although she always came through in the end, her actions did have some devastating repercussions. But just like no one in the show ever acknowledges Damon’s flaws except for Bonnie, no one in the show ever acknowledges Bonnie’s flaws except for... you guessed it! Damon!

Damon completely called Bonnie on her high and mighty attitude in the second season premiere when they were eye-sexing inside the Lockwood Estate. And he also told Bonnie to “get over” herself in Plan B. I really don’t know how many times I can possibly say it- Bonnie and Damon completely balance each other out. Bonnie and Damon’s yin and yang aspects also stretch beyond this in other ways. For example, Damon is the most immoral character in the show and Bonnie is the most moral character in the show. Damon even called Bonnie the “morality police” in Plan B. I believe that this sharp contrast in Bonnie and Damon’s characters is why Bonnie is the only person in the show to express any disapproval towards Damon’s actions. And it’s why I say once again, Bonnie is the only person on the show who is compatible with Damon. But I know the Delena fans will be getting riled up right now. I’ve heard many Delena fans make claims about how Elena does call Damon out on his shit. Really? REALLY?! The extent of Elena’s disapproval towards Damon is getting a smack every once and a while... and then she apologizes for it. Elena could try to remain firm with Damon for, let’s say, more than an episode or so. But she doesn’t. She always forgives him and it is one of her biggest flaws.

Forgiving and accepting someone like Damon as easily as Elena does is extremely dangerous. Believe me when I say, I LOVE Elena. But wasn’t she the same person who laughed when Damon made an inappropriate joke about raping Caroline? Elena is too lenient. Again, she is not challenging Damon to be a better person, no matter how many times she rubs his arm and gives him the doe eyes. All she is doing is getting him to concede to act differently for HER. But when you take Elena out of the equation, Damon is still the same person he always was. Damon needs to be a better person because he realizes for HIMSELF that the things he does are wrong and have consequences. And Elena's inability to hold Damon accountable for any of his actions are a hindrance to his growth. This is because she is not the extreme opposite of Damon. If she was, she wouldn’t be so lenient with him. A relationship between them would be imbalanced and a mismatch. She is just different from him. I say again, Damon and Elena are NOT compatible. Another way in which Bonnie and Damon are opposites- Bonnie is the most selfless character on the show, while Damon is the most selfish. I know a lot of Damon’s more diehard fans disagree with me on this, but it’s the truth. Damon is selfish. Even his love for Elena is entirely selfish. He wants Elena alive because HE can’t bear the thought of losing her, yet he is not willing to let her have a life of her own, think for herself, or make any important decisions regarding her OWN life. Sorry, but I don’t really see how anyone can NOT consider this selfish love. Bonnie is the hero of the show (my own personal belief and also because of her role as a witch, it is her duty to protect life) and Damon is the anti-hero (which is why we sympathize with him so much). Two completely extreme and opposite roles. So how can Damon and Bonnie be so compatible if they are polar opposites. Well it’s simple. There’s a reason why people say “opposites attract.” It’s because people who are opposites need to come together in order to complete one another, to make each other whole. What Damon is lacking is what Bonnie has enough of to spare and what Bonnie is lacking is what Damon has enough of to spare. But at the same time, Bonnie and Damon are not entirely different, especially when one analyzes them from the INSIDE (their motivations, their pain, their flaws). They have that perfect harmony. They are different on the outside, but similar on the inside. I repeat, perfect balance. Conclusion- So let’s put all this together. I believe that Bonnie and Damon would make for one heck of an epic love story. I believe that Bonnie and Damon are equals in every way possible. I believe that Bonnie and Damon are two completely different people on the outside, while mirroring each other on the inside. And I also believe that Bonnie and Damon have the potential to be the next Clois. Is it any wonder why I ship Bamon after reading all this? I have NEVER, in my entire 20 years of living, EVER, thought two characters were more perfectly fitted for one another. THIS is why I want Bamon so badly. THIS is why they make my shipper heart race whenever I see them together. THIS is why Bamon is my OTP.