Shiela Walsh: It's Okay Not To Be Okay
At 17 years of age, I started my radio career. Back then - the early 1980's - my first radio gig was the Sunday Morning Gospel Show on CJBQ in Belleville, Ontario, Canada. In those days the show consisted initially of George Beverly Shea, Kate Smith and others in the similar genre. Little did I know then, just how influential Christian music would be in my life as a friend slowly started introducing me to other artists I could play during the show. One of those artists included Shiela Walsh. I suddenly found myself discovering the world of Contemporary Christian Music. It's interesting how God works as I've moved from promoting her music on radio, to having an opportunity to promote her new book here. It's Okay Not To Be Okay: Moving Forward One Day at a Time by Shiela Walsh is due for release in October 2018. It is my honor and privilege to welcome Shiela Walsh as a guest post author on this website. The material found here is reposted from her website, with permission from Shiela Walsh. Enjoy! Dr. Rus Guest Post Shiela Walsh is a powerful communicator, Bible teacher, and bestselling author with more than 5 million books sold. She is the author of the award-winning Gigi, God's Little Princess and In the Middle of the Mess. She is cohost of LIFE Today with James and Betty Robison and her Wednesdays in the Word program, with more than 100 million viewers. Walsh is a popular speaker and Bible teacher around the world. She lives in Dallas, Texas, with her husband, Barry, their son, Christian, and their three pups, Belle, Tink, and Maggie.
Itās Okay Not to be Okay: Excerpt the Introduction I wish I could take my twenty-one-year-old (recovering-from teenage-acne) face in my hands and tell her, āItās okay not to be okay, I promise.ā Would she have believed me? I donāt think so. She was determined to get everything right. It started with a photograph. I was cleaning out drawers the other day and found an old photograph under a roll of Christmas paper. I sat down on the sofa and studied the picture. Iām in a white dress and a graduation gown, twenty-one years old, graduating from seminary. My hair is short and dark. It had taken about three years to recover from my experiment with a perm that left me looking like a pack of dogs had assumed my hair was lunch. In the photograph Iām smiling, confident, ready to take on the world for Jesus. My heart aches. Thereās so much Iād like to tell her. āMoisturize your neck! Youāll thank me later!ā If I had only ten minutes, Iād cut to the chase. Iād tell her this will not be the life she imagined. Iād tell her that she will disappoint people and they will disappoint her, but sheāll learn from it. Iād let her know that sheāll fall down over and over again, but rather thanĀ understanding the love of God less sheāll get it more. Iād let her know her heart is going to break, but sheāll survive and it will change how she sees people, not as causes to be saved but as people to be loved. Iād let her know that sometimes the night will get very dark, but she will never be alone even when sheās absolutely convinced she is. Iād let her know that sheās loved. Iād tell her to get rid of her punishing list of things she thinks she needs to get right. I lived so much of my life with a list of things to change, to do betterāif not on paper then in my mind. I think most of us do, and the message is always the same: we can do better. Weāll not only join the gym, weāll go! This new diet plan will work and by summer weāll be bikini ready. (Note to self: donāt you dare buy a bikini. Even if youāre thinner, things are not where they used to be and no one but your loving husband needs to know that.) Weāll start that read-through-the-Bible-in-a-year plan again. (Last year I got to May 7 and got distracted, and by the time I realized it, I was a whole Leviticus, fifty-three Psalms, and Romans behind.) Weāll recover from the overspending and be financially responsible. Weāll cook wholesome, nutritious meals for our family and sit down at least five nights a week together at the table. Weāll reduce our television watching and read more books. But sometimes the messages carry much more weight. This marriage will work. We will get out of debt. Our children will come back to Christ. Weāll eat better to save our lives not our waistlines. I donāt know what your internal list looks like, but if itās anything like mine it usually serves to let us know where weāve failed. Lists are written when the kids are asleep or youāve had a good nightās sleep and a cup of coffee. The trouble is, the kids wake up and that impossible woman you work with gets louder and more obnoxious by the minute and no amount of coffee is going to help. And what about our spiritual lives? That can be the most judgmental list of all. When we assume that Godās love is based on our behavior weāve set ourselves up for a devastating fall. Iāll pray more. Iāll share my faith at work. Iāll read my Bible from Genesis to the maps in the back of the book. Iāll trust God without questioning. So, why did I title this book Itās Okay Not to Be Okay? These words might sound a bit like a bumper sticker to you, but they donāt to me. I want you to know that these words were fought for. They could sound like the waving of a white flag, six words of surrender, but theyāre not. For me they are words of victory! Iāve let go of beating myself up trying to live a life that Jesus never asked me to live. The life my āfresh out of seminary, determined to save the world, to love the unlovely, get nine hours of sleep every night and never let God downā self tried to live for so long. I donāt know where youāre at in life as you read this, but if I could sit down with you for a while, Iād say, āTake a deep breath in and hold it for five seconds, and then let it out. Again. Again.ā Then Iād tell you that it really is okay not to be okay. Thatās why Jesus came. I gave my life to Him when I was eleven years old. As I write, Iām sixty-one. Thatās fifty years of falling down and getting back up. Fifty years of trying to be worth loving. Fifty years of doing the same things over and over, hoping theyād turn out differently this time. (Yes, I do know thatās the definition of insanity.) Hereās the great news: Itās also fifty years of the faithfulness of God and this beautiful invitation from Christ: Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and youāll recover your life. Iāll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with meāwatch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I wonāt lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and youāll learn to live freely and lightly. (Matt. 11:28ā30 Message) What a lovely place to start again, side by side with Jesus, learning to live freely and lightly. I read an old Chinese proverb that said, āThe best time to plant a tree was twenty years ago. The second-best time is now.ā I like that. Those are hope-filled words. They say that we get to start again and again and again. No matter whatās true in your life at this moment, I want to remind you that God loves you, right now, no matter whatās going on around or inside you. These words may fall flat for you right now if you find yourself in an unfamiliar place, a difficult season. Perhaps youāre facing the end of a marriage and you either feel like a failure or that youāve been betrayed and abandoned. You may be facing an empty nest and have no idea what your life should revolve around now. Perhaps you have lost a loved one and the very idea of moving forward not only seems impossible, it feels wrong. You may think, Iāve done this before. Iāve tried to start again and it didnāt work... Or perhaps, if youāre honest, you are just too tired to try. I understand that. Iāve been there. Iād like to simply say, gently, you were made for more. You are worth fighting for. Christ thought you were worth dying for. Would you be willing to open your heart to the possibility of moving forward, one day at a time? Life rarely offers quick fixes; itās a process, and God is in it with us, all the way. He doesnāt look for perfection in us; He sees that in Christ. You donāt need to be okay because Jesus has made you all right. Heās paid the bill in full. Heās covered our ānot okay-ness.ā Okay doesnāt live here, but Jesus does. All He looks for in us is a willingness to take the next step. Read more here: Take the First Step Part One Take the First Step Part Two It's Okay Not to Be Okay - Available from Baker Books - Click Here Much love, Shiela Walsh Special thanks to Graf-Martin Communications for connecting me with Shiela Walsh.
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