#avery blogs

on tumblr i see so much preach of, oh, straight people are the devil because gays don't have rights, even though there are a LOT of straight people who are as violently adamant about rights for, well, EVERYONE. it's starting to seep into the facebook timelines and instagram quotes and song lyrics and young society in general. we are living in a very harmful time to be a young person. everything is met with anger, and hate, and even the fixes are suggested in such a way that someone is being treated wrongly just for being the majority, and that's not going to fix things. as a romantically straight, white, american girl, i know there's a lot of fucked up sit we have done to other people. we have stolen rights from people and we have denied giving them to rising communities, but bitching about everything the white man does is not going to fix this. hating yourself is not going to fix this. hating your oppressor is understandable, but it still is not going to fix things.  everyone is so angry in this generation and we are so desperately waiting for change and we aren't doing things the right way, so it isn't working and we're getting more angry. my question, is why do we have to be so angry? why can't we face our obstacles responsibly and behave in a respectable way instead of throwing around slurs in every direction when we don't get what we want? why can't we see the kind of work we need to do? when did the art of tolerance die? i know racism and homophobia and sexism and everything else going on in the world right now, i know they're bad things. and on some level, so do the people committing them. i know white supremacy and the patriarchy and governments internationally are BAD. bad things are happening and it's scary and it seems like the only way to fix these things is to fight, but what you are fighting for is not peace. what you are fighting for is a plot of land amongst those people you so hate. what you are fighting for is to become a supremacy. these are the things you fight for when you fight with hatred, and violence, and run screaming into the masses that you matter just as much as any one of them, it's like a suicide bombing. the bomb is going to go off and people will get hurt and the outcome may be nothing.  if you are going to insist on fighting, why can you not find peace within yourself before you seek it without? empathy, sympathy, general understanding of people. these are things you will need to win your war. tolerance is something you will need to when your war. your fight rages every day in all the little offhand comments you hear that absolutely make your blood boil, and it would be blasphemy for you to forgive people of their ignorance. but you have to choose your battles wisely.  a war is not made up of millions of small fights, won or lost. especially not your war. your war is in the final battle. that is what you need to concentrate on: your final battle and how to get there. and how to win once you do. if you run in, guns blazing, no tactics, just violence and hatred and anger, you will not win a war. you have to think about what you are doing. you have to have an effective plan. hell, more than one effective plan. because sometimes as effective as a plan is things can still go wrong. and what all of you have right now, especially the young of you, is not an effective plan. i know peace is hard to find when it is not being offered up on a silver platter, but it never is. it's within. and it's bigger than you. and it can absolutely be achieved outwardly once it exists within. your pounding heart, your boiling blood, your resentment, turn them into something more than a weapon. because as a weapon they will fail. your enemies will have hate and anger and aggression, and they will use them as a weapon, and their numbers are greater. against them, your anger will lose.  but if you can somehow find clarity, and purpose, and acceptance that things are not how they should be, and the acceptance that some people will never think you are right, they will be defeated.  your war is not about who is right. it's about what is right. and if you know what is right, then you don't have to prove it to anyone, or make anyone else believe you. your cause is freedom, you must feel like a person who is already free. you must have peace within yourself. you must soothe the voices that come in the night speaking in phrases you wanted to kill a man for in the day.  now is not the time for violence and it is not the time for insult.  we cannot all love each other and live peacefully together if we kill each other first. the insult will not be forgotten if you do not hold your tongue and act as a respectable human. that gives you leverage against the enemy: accepting the insult with a smile, because you have your effective plans, and you are going to win.