#asks (plural)

showed this to our good friend @dirtbag-dyke-hypnotist

Call that your plural awakening

And thanks in part to y’all, we were able to find eachother and explore this part of ourselves — and we couldn’t be happier or more comfortable or feel more “finally right”!

Thank you for helping give us the push we so dearly needed~

Thank you all so much as well! Seeing our silly little blog make positive change in the world continues to both baffle and inspire us. We aim to tell people exactly this - there is a name for these feelings, there are others like you, you can find yourselves and be happy. We are so glad you all are having a good time, and proud of you in equal measure.

But like a lot of people, including a lot of my plural friends, have told me my experiences sound plural? and what I do have is like what feels like different sliders? Like there is default me and in specific circumstances my like self perception? self image? shifts away on like one axis and that results in like different ways of behaviour and different internal self image? and like sometimes I imagine stuff like one version of me giving another headpats or stuff for comfort?

And I don't know, I guess I'm just a little confused, this is like the first I get to think about this? like a lot of these feelings are new and I used to get panic attacks when people told me my stuff sounded plural and I saw you did asks so I just wanted to reach out and see if you had any advice?

Sorry if this is a bit rambly

Anon, this sounds Very Plural to us however we look at it. Memory gaps, inner voices, none of these things are a requisite part of plurality - simply common traits between many systems. They are also, conveniently, possible to exercise. Knowing that you *are* plural leads to beginning to make out the different folks inhabiting your head, which leads to communication between you all, which leads to them forming more well defined personalities, which leads to an inner dialogue, and so on.

The "Me but an entirely different set of ideas, beliefs, self image, goals, and actions" is how many have described the feeling of what ends up being a member of their system. It also doesn't have to be a brand new person, just a kind of you. Visualizing interaction between yourselves is something i see systems struggle with often, too. Having that is nice to hear - we were elated when we first interacted between ourselves using more than words.

what i figured out so far seems to be on a case by case basis instead of assuming anything? but like with some gender stuff i thought it might be annoying and tiring to get asked the same questions all the time or walk around eggshells so perhaps theres a better way to handle it i dont know of

mb english isnt my first language so some things dont get across very well orz

There is no Step By Step Guide To Interacting With A System, and that is because, well - it's the same as interacting with people, except you're in their house and some of them are in the room with you, some aren't, and you gotta get acquainted. A couple might not like having people over, which isn't anything against you in particular - they'll either hole up in their room when guests are over or only talk with a handful of people. Most times we've met someone's headmate we simply asked their name, how they would like to be referred to, how they want to be perceived, and any other preferences that come up.