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Ah, good questions for the Daddy!

Her training has been very progressive. We've gradually gotten her used to every single stage of diapering and dependence over the last nine months.

Since it's been so progressive, I can't exactly remember a perfect timeline of what happened when! But here's the gist:

First, about this time last year, I bought her goodnights to wear. She wanted to try wearing them, but was super super embarrassed about the whole thing. So it took a little while to warm her up to that.

Then, I bought her her first ABDL diapers to try out. I remember her saying "these are SO BIG!"

At some point, she wanted a few more rules, so I made it a requirement that she wears her pull-ups to bed every night. At that point, we had talked about training her to be a bedwetter, but it wasn't until January that we really kicked it into gear.

I bought her more pull-ups, and started using a potty chart for her every day. She had to drink a big, 20oz bottle of water (a cute pink bottle that I got her), every night right before bed. Then, if she got up in the middle of the night, she was instructed to use her pull-up and go back to sleep.

We quickly figured out that this didn't works so well... she was flooding the pull-ups easily! So she was the one that asked me to get her something more substantial for nighttime. That's when we started down the road of diapering her every night.

I think we started by using the Abena M4's? We gradually moved her up in absorbency (she's a pretty heavy wetter and likes more secure and safe diapers at night), until her current diaper, the Incontrol BeDry nights. By some accounts, the most absorbent overnight diaper on the market!

Each night, the rule was the same. She has to put her diaper on before bed, drink her 20oz bottle of water, and go to sleep. And then, if she wakes up in the middle of the night, she's supposed to pee her diaper, and then go to sleep.

While this was happening, I was gradually introducing her to pull-ups in the daytime. She really liked how comfy they were, but the fact that they were so easy to leak made things a little tricky. I'd give her water-drinking challenges, she would pee in them, and then occasionally she might have a little leak.

I think what made her most susceptible to being diaper trained is how embarrassed Roo gets by leaking. Wearing diapers is, of course, super embarrassing at her age, but for Roo, leaking has always been on a whole other level. Whether it's a little spot on her jeans or a big accident in bed, she goes into a small, vulnerable, and very fragile state when she leaks... even if it wasn't her fault. She gets very, very little. So minimizing those moments was important to her!

Which is why I didn't meet much resistance from her when I started buying her daytime diapers (Betterdry Day diapers, and the purple Tena diapers), to wear occasionally in the daytime. At first, it was a fun thing to do around the house. Then, I would challenge her to wear during class (she was still in school at the time)... then, at other social events like parties. At some point– and I can't remember what precipitated this– I told her she had to wear her daytime diapers for a whole week, and (after putting up a little embarrassed fuss), she eventually agreed, and got slowly slowly used to wearing daytime diapers. That was a fun period... she got really good at changing, timing her changes so she could do most of them at home, and being sneaky. It became super fun for her!

At that point (about 2 months in) was her first bedwetting accident. I remember it being a really big shock for her... she had had a few "events" over the previous couple weeks where she could just barely, barely remember waking up in the middle of the night to go. But this time, she genuinely had no memory of it! From that point, it was just a few more weeks until she was having what we were calling "real bedwetting" incidents, 2-3 nights a week. These days, according to her star chart, it's between 5-7 nights a week, and never less than that.

She didn't really know if it was real for a while– maybe it was just a thing she did in diapers, and not outside them? But a couple of incidents over the last few months (bedwetting when she forgot to put one on for a nap, for example) have confirmed it... she's actually a bedwetter now. So cute!

Meanwhile, her daytime control was definitely taking a hit. I'd say her bedwetting at night definitely contributed to some loss of daytime control. She was having more and more frequent accidents, and more "unauthorized" wettings, where she couldn't quite remember whether she told her body to go or not. At some point, we started tracking times she thought she had a "genuine" wetting accident in the day, as opposed to just using her diaper. In the beginning, we had a much more complicated sticker chart for every single type of "incident" she had during the day (tracking whether she changed in public, for example, whether she had an accident during sex, etc.), but now we just keep it simple. She gets a blue star for bedwetting, and a gold star for a daytime accident.

At some point, I stopped buying her her daytime-branded diapers, and switched her to the regular BetterDry diapers. This was because she was getting some anxiety about leaking in them, especially during her longer classes or social outings, and I offered to get her heavier diapers to solve this problem. I remember she was mortified when she first tried them in the day ("they're huge!!!!") but over the weeks and months, she's gotten so used to them that I think she can't go back to the lighter-capacity ones in the day. I bought her some daytime diapers a couple weeks ago, and she ended up giving them to me to hold onto because she just wasn't using them. It was pretty cute when she realized that the same, lighter diapers she had started with– which she begged to keep using a few months back– were now way too insubstantial for her level of untraining. That said, I may get her a couple of packs of the Tena's at some point... she has a special love of the purple ones, and they are useful for times you want to be more discreet.

Other than that, it's been a pretty steady, one-way-trip to being a diaper trained little girl! She'll periodically want to try pull-ups in the daytime again for a couple of days, because she isn't really feeling it or wants to take a break (or is around family for an extended period of time). That'll last a few days, but when she inevitably realizes that diapers make her feel less anxious and more comfy at this point, she'll switch back unprompted. I've noticed that, in the first few days after she switches back, her control gets noticeably worse, and she starts telling me about more unauthorized accidents. It's like the switch back to diapers does something to her subconscious, and she gets more and more regressed and untrained than she was before...

Well, the end goal is for me to have to take her by the hand, everywhere we go in public, around friends or family, and whisper in her ear: "I think we need to change your diaper, sweetheart," and make her blush every single time :)

Hard to say how close she is! Untraining isn't exactly a continuous thing... from my experience, it's an ongoing, evolving thing, with plenty of steps forward and a few steps back. There are some long periods where you think you're at just about the same level of continence, and then bam: something happens, and now you feel you're at a "step" more untrained. I've read about it with people who have been doing it for years and years, and they still feel the urge to go from time to time or still catch themselves holding it occasionally.

I'm measuring her progress by how much I estimate she needs diapers on a day-to-day basis. That's a little more up to vibes, but here's where I think we're at.

Daytime: In my estimation, she's at "pretty much can't go anywhere without at least some protection on" stage. She's not strictly in diapers 100% of the time– for various reasons, she'll put a pull-up on occasionally– and she can get away with pull-ups from time to time, for a short while. But she knows at this point– and her accidents out of diapers are frequent enough– that there's a decent risk she'll have an unplanned accident and wet her pants, if she's not protected. She just had two decent-sized ones yesterday morning while making breakfast in her sweatpants with nothing on. She was just taking a break to air out during breakfast and... wet pants!

One thing I haven't seen her do yet is have a full-blown, genuine "big" accident. The kind where she wets her pants fully, and they're soaked, and she can't stop it. She's had quite a few small/medium-sized ones out of diapers or pull-ups, where she tries to stop it but can't. But nothing huge. Part of that is that she's going so often, her wettings are pretty tiny most of the time...

Nighttime: She definitely needs a diaper on every night. That's probably not going away anytime soon. Her nighttime accidents are just too big and too frequent. She could try, of course, but she knows she'd be running a significant risk. And probably no pull-ups, either. Last time we tried that, we had some soaked sheets.

That doesn't mean she's wetting the bed every night. But she's definitely a real bedwetter at this point: needs to be in diapers, because her nighttime accidents happen more often than not, these days.

Thumb sucking?

Pacifier dependence?

Only being able to cum in a diaper?

Etc.

Well, uh...

You might need to give me some more ideas...

...because she already has been trained to do all of those. (Yes, really)

Thumb sucking: she literally just texted me today about how she had her thumb in her mouth for like 20 minutes before realizing it

Pacifiers: she has one in her mouth every night for bedtime and nap-times, and has developed a real comfort thing around them. She'll even put one in in the car, if she's feeling little and needs a little comfort.

I didn't know that was a thing!

I'm participating for this week, at least, because I'm writing this from my daddy's place. And as long as we're together, he's decided I'm not allowed to use the potty at all — even for number two😳

He's got me padded now, in fact. I'm in a daytime diaper with a booster (because I "can't be trusted without extra absorbency anymore").

He made me a latte! Hoping that doesn't lead to the inevitable coffee consequences...

I'm afraid not. At the end of the day, I'm her Daddy, and I'll tell you that none of those are things you're gonna see any time soon– just too extreme for her. It's a fine line with little Roo, but I happen to know what she likes. She doesn't like sadistic or humiliating, just for humiliation's sake. I don't really, either, to be honest. We both like things that are deeply embarrassing for her, but all have a plausible basis in reality. Controlling, maybe, or a little heavy-handed, but all things you could imagine might happen to a real, bladder-challenged girl like her.

Keeping her in diapers every night? Well, if you're in charge of a bedwetting girl like her, that's just sensible. Telling her she's not allowed to change herself, when Daddy's around? I mean, have you seen the leaks she's had, the few times she's tried to do it herself? Water requirements per day? She's a growing girl, she needs her hydration, for goodness' sake!

It's all gotta have that "I'm the one who knows best" level of plausibility, from a Daddy's perspective. I think that makes for the best diaper content, anyway, so I'm just upholding the standard. And it makes for a much more easily trainable girl, when she really believes you know what's best for her...

Hi!! This is such a lovely message. Thank you for being so gracious and thoughtful.

It's hard to conceptualize (but very cool) that this is content other people not only read, but enjoy and look forward to reading. I love writing about my fun, tingly experiences with my daddy. He loves reading our adventures from my perspective and I love reading them from his. The fact that you all are along for the ride is icing for my exhibitionist cake🥰

The Training "Pianist"

UGH. I wish I could play this cool. But I can't, so I won't.

I love it so much. It's just like my daddy's, but I can have it in foreverrrrr like all night and all morning and agh. It fits perfectly. It has these faint swirly whirly ridges all over it. It's thick.

It's so thick.

It makes my buzzy brain go quiet.

The first time I facetimed my daddy with it in, he laughed for about ten minutes on and off about how relaxed my expression was and how bubbly and soft and happy I was, and unusually eager to follow directions.

I did not expect to like an insertable mute/power button so much.

Sign. Me. Up.

He had me stand up and walk around, and the feeling of it moving around inside me (inside my diaper, too, of course) was soooo nice. I could feel myself moving around a little more than usual, like rocking on my feet and putting my hands between my legs, but I didn't realize I was doing a little toddler potty dance until my daddy blushily pointed it out🫠🫠🫠

It felt so good I was mindlessly touching over my diaper, and shifting my weight from side to side with my legs pressed together.

we might have to ixnay on the icturespay, since we believe a few too many of those got her first roo account in trouble. So for now, text only! We're both text lovers and actually like diaper text as a format, so this has been a fun constraint for us both.

I'm sure there are some pictures floating around from the previous account. Some really good ones.