#ask-sara

Hi anon, please read everything to the end.

I am so deeply sorry about the mech demo. The story line was based on the anime Grendizer original version that was released in 1975, the Japanese version. Hikaru was done by an artist modeling Kissra’s face and body using computer modeling Sigma (see discord link, I made the AI public for anyone to use). It is not my story line. The whole mechs project is just for fun and I own all the code because I wrote it and can change the story line. I already took it offline. Please, would you consider helping me change it? And I’m really sorry about it. I never meant it to be that way. 

Thank you for thinking I’m pretty but I’m not by a long shot, by society standards. I have a big nose, acne scars on my cheeks and I’m not young. If I look good in pictures, come see me in real life and you’ll run away. Don’t let people's pictures fool you. This is all credit to Kissra’s makeup skills and camera angles and lighting. Notice I underlined “society standards”. 

Now let's talk about beauty. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I could see someone so beautiful and others think they are ugly. You see, we all have our definitions on what’s beautiful. If you see yourself beautiful and you like your outfit, that’s all that matters and you will be pushing this vibe and you will attract people who are tuned to you and they will see what you see. Myself and Kissra look for personality before looks. It is the personality that is indicative to inner beauty which is a true representation of a beautiful person. I’m not just saying that to make you feel good but I say that on my main website in the about me section (not saramays, the isydia one) since you mentioned mechs, I am sure you are able to lookup the google cache and see for yourself the date when I wrote the about me on my main site.

You mention club200. I take it you are in Winnipeg? If so, I would love for you to join us in person. If your personality is good, I’m sure we both will like you. I will be there this Saturday with Kissra if you are interested. This will be my 3rd time going there. And don’t worry about being embarrassed. I will do all the embarrassment for everyone. I’ll be the person with bad makeup, can’t walk in heels for shit yet I will rock my outfit and you know why? Because I want to. People’s opinions are irrelevant. So stop wishing and if you want to come to the club and meet us we both welcome you.

Lastly, I just want to leave you with something: “Live for yourself! Life is actually very simple. The simpler you think, the simpler things will become”.

Thank you for being a fan of Kissra, she’s a truly awesome person in every aspect. 

To answer your question is very easy and simple; I am not embarrassed.

How do I deal with family and people? Also a simple answer, I don’t deal with anyone.

I go about doing and being “me” and I stay mindful of others and that’s it. People’s (family included) approval or “opinion” is “irrelevant”. It’s really as simple as that.

Whoever respects my ways is my friend and the ones that do not (family included) are not my friend and they are entitled to their own and I’m neutral towards them.

It is really that simple. If you don’t see it that way (i.e. a problem), then you can examine and re-evaluate your definitions about everything, problem solved.

Let me know if you have a follow up question. I love answering questions like yours.

Have you had any sexual experience as Sara? 

During or before being Sara, have you had intimate experience of a male part in your mouth or behind?  Or any experience with a another-persons male part?

I hope you answer this question and not delete it. You do say on your website you don’t get offended and you can be asked anything.

I'm a virgin in this regard. I never had any experience with a man "male part".

The only sexual intercourse I have ever had since I met Kissra when I was in high school was with her only and no one else, and that holds true to-date!

Will I ever have sex with someone else depends totally on circumstance. And before you ask what circumstances, I will tell you that chemistry, knowing the person to be good to me "over time" and the mood, all play a big factor, in who I will be intimate with.

I don't do one-night-stands or get silly drunk or do group sex, because this is just not me.

I also don't believe in dedicating your entire existence to one person and that your love goes where your heart flows. These were our rules between myself and Kissra and to-date, no one influenced our heart in any significant way and that's why my only intimate encounter was and still is with kissra.

Now, if someone comes along and changes that, then the skies the limit, for both of us.

Also, my sex drive is literally at zero. HRT does that to you.

Since I became Sara, everyone who I talk to or meet just wants to fuck me; or be sexual with me in one way or another. Finding, as you put it, "genuine" people today is next to impossible.

Now don't get me wrong, if someone is nice to me, and the beginning of the friendship/relationship starts-of non sexual in nature, and you connect with that person in a way that is not so casual because that person's vibe is similar to yours, also, you and them are involved with each other in some manner that is different than your casual work-colleague, as an example, and the right circumstances all align to create the mood, then yes, I will be intimate with them.

My sex drive at the moment is zero. Therefore, I'm not seeking it, but if the right circumstances I mention above align correctly then skies the limit ;)

The word trans is to describe a type of women or person (i.e. trans men), it doesn't mean they are not women. And, in my case, I'm Feminine-HYBRID.

If you want to think of Trans and pronouns...at least for me, think of it like personalities. If you meet someone virtually online or in real life, you don’t know anything about them. But with time, your interactions with them and observations of them will paint a picture for you of who they are, from your perspective.

Today, we have freedoms that did not exist in the past. People expressing themselves in many ways that are outside of society’s accepted-box of outdated ideals.

When I identify that I am a pan-sexual trans-woman and my pronouns are she/her; immediately you will know I was born cismale and I physically transitioned to female and living my life as a woman who’s attracted to all kinds of people including but not limited to ciswomen, cismen, bi-sexual people, trans-people..etc.

That’s all what these terms mean, at least for me that is, a way to simplify.

Now, before you ask me how you can keep up with the billion pronouns…etc. Keep in mind that the world is not the way it was and everything is changing. On that note, just ask someone what their pronouns are or do like me and don’t use pronouns like this:

Hey, I like your hair.

Excuse me, do you have a pencil I can borrow?

Hi there, would you mind helping me out in carrying these bags to my car, please?

Hello there, I’m new to this town, do you know where Portage-Street is?

…etc.

I personally love to know who people are, especially if I have a crush on someone. If I ask about your pronouns, it is most likely because I like you and I want to know what type of person you are. In my personal views, I find it way easier to get to know someone who’s LGBTQ+ friendly than a conservative person who accepts only binary-people. 

Hope this sheds light on things from my perspective ;)

To answer your question perhaps I will clarify (in my opinion) the difference between real transgender people, crossdressers and mentally ill cisgender people; these are 3 distinct types of people.

there is a type of person who exhibits behavioral traits that are similar to those of transgender people, but have nothing to do with them.

these people are called crossdressers (formerly called transvestites).

crossdressers are cisgender

crossdressers are not transgender

crossdressers have no desire to change the sex of their bodies, and crossdressers use clothing of the opposite sex and/or copy the behavior of the opposite sex for sexual arousal as part of sexual play and sex activities transgender people are not crossdressers.

About the mental illness part of your question, regular people living in today's crazy society are subject to stresses that trigger various mental abnormalities in them.

Some mental abnormalities of cisgender people may manifest themselves in cartoonish unnatural imitation of the appearance of the opposite sex.

Cisgender people with mental abnormalities have nothing in common with transgender people

don't confuse real transgender people with crossdressers or the mentally ill cisgender people who caricaturedly imitate people of the opposite sex, some engage in perverted activities for sexual arousal; these are 3 distinct types of people.

Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one and nobody cares about yours.

Self control is strength, and calmness is mastery. You have to get to the point where your mood doesn't shift, based on the actions of someone else. Don't allow others to control the direction of your life. And don't allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.

Honey, my DM is open for you anytime you want.

People of religion are intolerant of other points of views and ways of life.

Live for yourself! Life is actually very simple. The simpler you think, the simpler things will become.