so i’m wondering how you’re processing the whole thing with dom. personally i’m a bit on the fence about whether or not to keep making jalec gifsets etc. that have his content. i’m a bisexual woman and hearing my brothers, gay and bi men, being shamed by dom makes me cringe. Yes, i know dom didn’t think matt was live. but what is he doing slinging those slurs around so casually? I love dom to death and have defended him until i was blue in the face but this is so frustrating. i really respect your opinion on these things and i know you’ll have a solution. i want to keep making jalec stuff but i don’t know how you guys are justifying this. i know dom was pretty upset and matt looked beside himself on the apology video. please just give me some direction?
well nannie I must say this hasn’t been easy to process in the slightest, the last few days had been rough and I understand being weary about it, I have some friends that are as well and that is precisely because they admire/like him so much. haters are all over this thing, but the most affected will always be those that care about Dom, those tho whom his opinions and behavior means something, I’m one of those people and that’s precisely why this isn’t an easy matter to speak upon or decide. personally, I’m not justifying this at all, I don'’ think that should be the case, what he said was wrong, nothing changes that, but I also believe that context does matter. I’m a bisexual woman as well, and I’ve been offended and harassed by words in my language similar to that one; at the same time I have used many of such words when talking and joking around with my friends. do I realize those are negative words that should ideally be phased out of our vocabulary as a whole? yes. has that stopped me from using them? not really. so while I do believe in a conscious effort to do and be better, I cannot condone crucifying someone by a mistake such as this, specially not someone like Dom. we may not know him personally, but we follow his career, his charity work, his effort into spreading positive messages, I believe from the bottom of my heart he will try to better now, police and educate himself, that he will work even harder to do better, and this is why I will continue to support him. how we deal with our mistakes is what defines us, at least in my opinion, and his apology alone was so sincere I had to pause it several times in order to get through it. that one slur might have affected me, but so did the way he handled it and all my beliefs regarding Dom as a person stand in light of all this that has happened. I know supporting him, Jace, and enjoying my ship won’t be easy for a while, but us jalec shippers have always stood and withheld our ground in the face of hate, I will continue to do the same and I hope you do so as well. if you don’t, however, that is your choice. no one can tell you how to feel, or how much to be affected by something, and while I mourn everyone that is losing hope or drive in face of this situation, I will understand and support your decision to do so.
this is probably way too ramble and I apologize for it, but the question I got was sincere and I wanted to try and put my thoughts down on this matter beyond hashtags and private conversations. another thing I have to say is that having the squad to help me rationalize my feelings and getting through this had been an immense help. having someone to talk to does make a difference, and my DMs are open to anyone that wants to talk about this. I hope this somewhat helps you.
