the solution to shipping non repulsed aspec characters is literally just keeping them aspec in a relationship. and i dont mean treating them the same as any other character in a relationship. yes, aces can have sex with other people, but they probably won’t enjoy it the same way an allo would. give them other reasons to like it. maybe they like the expression on their partner’s face. maybe they like making others feel good. maybe they have specific hangups about it- they can have sex with someone but only if their partner can’t see them. they can have sex with someone so long as it’s really romantic, or soft, or rough, or silly, or with no strings attached, or anything else. maybe they’d rather not be touched at all and just want to watch.
yes, aros can be in a romantic relationship with someone. but they won’t feel the same way as their partner does about it (or if they do, it’s gonna take a while. ex: greyros, demiros). give them more complex feelings about it: maybe they feel completely platonic love for their partner, but deep enough for them to want to be in a romantic relationship with their partner. maybe they feel queerplatonic about their partner. maybe they wish they could feel romantic feelings for their partner (cupiro). maybe they like kissing for sexual reasons but not romantic ones. maybe they like cuddling but not kissing because it feels gross. maybe all they like are kisses that arent on the lips. maybe they only like kisses that are. maybe they like having sex with their partner. maybe they don’t. maybe they want an open relationship. maybe they only want to fuck their partner.
and these are just the parts of the a-spectrum that i’m on (asexual, aromantic). i didn’t put anything down for aplatonics because i’m admittedly undereducated on the aplatonic parts of our spectrum :( any aplatonics or microlabels that would like to reblog with some ideas for other aspec identities in relationships are extremely encouraged!! i love hearing from our community!!
(Also, just to be clear, please don’t ship repulsed aspec characters. Don’t put repulsed aros into a romantic relationship, don’t make repulsed aces have sex, don’t force repulsed apls into having a friend. That’s erasure, just like how shipping a lesbian with a man or a gay with a woman is erasing their queerness. Please remember we are a part of the queer community to be respected, too, and taking our rep from us doesn’t help anyone. Yes, even if it’s yaoi or yuri. Leave them alone.)
