#alwaysjules

"I hate the saying “Nobody can love you until you love yourself first.” Why? Because whenever I hear the saying, it causes my stomach to churn. A lot of young ladies and gents, even adult woman and men, have self-esteem problems; sadly, it seems to be almost natural when growing up nowadays. I know the saying is suppose to motivate us to learn how to love ourselves, but the thing is, all we can hear is nobody will love us. As a 19 year old girl, loving myself is a challenge and a learning process as is. It feels like an eternity until I will love myself fully. (Obviously, that won’t be the case) And hearing that someone could not love me until I love myself first makes it harder. Now, I do promote a lot of things dealing with loving yourself. I believe that we all should love ourselves in our own time. Personally, I think it makes us happier. Whenever I retweet, reblog, heart, or share anything along the lines of loving yourself, I see “don’t forget to love yourself.” That is what I want to get out into the world. Social media does enough damage. We do not need anymore. I feel that as long as we end up loving ourselves in the end, that is enough. And maybe the people that end up loving us- friends, boys, girls, parents, family members, etc.- can show us what we are worth a whole lot better then we can show ourselves alone. Support and love back is key. They do say that we have no idea how other people perceive us through their eyes. I believe that. Everyone has their own opinion and everyone has their own perspective. Maybe we need that in our lives if we choice to have it. Because the last thing I want to hear, is that no one will love me before I love myself completely. Who knows when that will be? I know one day I will love myself. And the person beside me that day, I hope they had something to do with that.