Hii, I'm working on applying to uni but I'm really starting to feel bad because I don't feel like my grades or my extracurriculars or my achievements portray how I really am and that's all universities will judge me on even though I know what I'm capable of.. it's kind of lowering my self esteem and crushing my hopes.. do you have any advice?
When I used to feel overwhelmed by everything in life, I used to find a way to vent it out to someone - whether this means talking to someone about all your worries and where they stem from, whether that means writing in a journal, making a song about it, etc. After getting out all of this frustration and anxiety, I made a plan. A thorough plan. At the top I’d write down my big overarching goals. Then I’d write down a list of ways that I’d achieve them. They have to be doable check-off-able measurable things. Sometimes making a plan is helpful for just seeing things.
But this also doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. Reach out to those who can help you. This isn’t something that you have to or even should go through alone. You are more than just grades, and a resume, and where you end up. none of these things fully define you. It’s easy to read these things and just glaze over them because you’re probably heard them before, but maybe it’s time to internalize it. Your self worth is not the accumulation of your visible accomplishments. There’s a lot you and a lot that you are that do not show up on paper. There’s a lot that you think about and do and are that no one else gets to see. Remind yourself of these things.
There a stormy days. They are hard. We will get through them. (: