#alilselflove

I think one huge lesson that I have learned this past year is that sometimes patterns of people and situations keep showing up in your life to teach you a lesson. And if you don’t learn that lesson, I truly believe that life will keep throwing that lesson at you, i truly believe that you end up attracting the lesson you need to learn in life through friendships, relationships, and ultimately life circumstances. 

I think for me the lesson that has been a pattern throughout my whole life is: boundaries and therefore self-respect. When you don’t have the self-respect to maintain boundaries with everyone and anyone you come across, if you allow them to be stepped on, moved aside, pushed a little bit farther back. you are indirectly telling them that it is okay to not respect you. because YOU don’t respect YOU enough to stand by them. 

I have had numerous failed friendships throughout my whole life. Ones where I would do anything for these people and treat them like family, that any fight, disagreement, or rift could be worked out because I cared/loved enough about them. When these friendships are not reciprocated it is an unbelievable warning sign for me. Because when you finally do set your boundaries after being clear about what you are not willing to accept anymore, they throw you in the trash like you never mattered, they run away because it is easier. 

Those are not real friends. Those are not worth any more of your time or loyalty. Let those people keep walking by because their intentions were never pure. Everyone has their own perception, everyone’s in their own their little world, I think people do try their best and learn their lessons when their time is right but all you can do is be responsible for you. Be honest, love and respect yourself enough to trust who you are, your intuition, and your own heart.