#alexdilem

that post is grossly misconstrued. i was never trying to impeded progress or say that fighting laws was a fruitless endeavor. the point of the post was to trash people who say shit like "stop whining about racism, theres no more slavery" or "sexism isn't real, women can vote" to excuse their bigoted attitude.

that post has been going around for a long time with a lot of replies that completely missed what i was trying to say.

comes into someone's inbox

asks them personal questions

can't take answers

or any criticism

or any suggestions

asks the person what's wrong with them

okay

all you had to say was that's not your endgame. i really don't care about mistresses or any of this stuff you're spewing. you're doing a lot of compensating. idk what for.

physically/virtually, yes, it is a human to human perspective. but psychologically you are placing yourself in a power dynamic in which i have to answer to you and i am not allowed to see any of your faults. that's not mutual respect or equality. i already told you how this conversation would have gone smoothly. i literally cannot see how what you saw came off as an irrational approach, like honestly. 

now you're being outright disrespectful. you know nothing of the "Black girl's struggle." if anything you contribute to the "struggle" with the behaviour you have been displaying. next time you want to know something personal about someone try a greeting first and then, here's a radical idea, inquire if it's okay to ask. 

you'll never be able to "get in [my] shoes and understand" until you stop assuming i owe you my time and my words. all you had to do was ask if you could delve into my sexual orientation and all that before you demanded answers. i wasn't going to be rude and ignore you but you've left me no choice but to put a wall up. 

given your current show of respect for me, you would have spent more time thinking of how to be cordial, instead of asserting your need for answers, if you really wanted to. you could have sent me fanmail if you need more space, or a submission. you could have sent me multiple messages. you also could have started off with a simple, "[private] hey, how's it going? do you mind if i ask you a few questions about omnisexuality, polyamory, and/or gender fluidity?" that is succinct enough. i'm not going to excuse your need to be laconic. 

your need to specify what race your wife will supposedly be is more than creepy and fetishizing. even if you "only like black girls" for whatever reason, there's no need to tell me what race she has to be. you'd do well to remember that. 

fuck this guy tbh

no, no, they're asking seriously personal question and asking it in a really entitled way, like they think they're entitled to that information. I also slightly feel like they are trying to invalidate your identity. I just get bad vibes...