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some context first. i work at a pet boarding facility. i also have limb girdle muscular dystrophy, i can only walk short distances and i cant do really any tasks requiring my arms to be at or above eye level.

anyway, so we have these baskets that hang on the front of the kennels, where each dog's food goes. i have a coworker who is significantly taller than me, and he awlays puts each basket up so that it is higher than my eye level, no matter how many times i ask him to put them lower so i can actually do anything with them. when i move them or hang new ones lower, he complains that it hurts his back to bend down to them. we are both young, early 20s, so if his reason for not bending down to them is medical, i dont wanna go against that, and now i feel bad for having to move them to reach them, even though i cannot measure out food for the dogs if the basket is high. idk, this feels complicated, since clearly we need things in opposite directions, and i cant have them high and he either cant or just doesnt want to have them low, and i dont know what that is.

so am i being selfish here?

um , advice welcome too i guess :3

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This might just be one of those unfortunate situations where disability accommodations conflict. It's no one's fault, and neither of you are assholes for needing opposing accommodations. I know how frustrating it is to be in these types of situations ): I recommend talking with this coworker, see if y'all can't figure out a reasonable compromise. And if y'all can't, for whatever reason(s), it might be a good idea to explore working different shifts.

I (19NB) have a friend I've known since high school. I trusted her with a lot of stuff including coming out to her rather soon in my queer journey. I got kicked out of my house at the begining of June and she was the first person I called. My father had been harassing me and had declared that he wanted everyone like me dead. I had to tell her parents but they were okay, not accepting but okay. She had given me the impression that she was liberal leaning. She said she was glad her school was liberal, and she was upset about the stuff my dad was saying. She was even dating the son of an immigrant family. I've shared a lot with her including my excitement about filing for a name change and what my name was going to be along with a lot of worries I had.

She turned 18 today and I texted her a joke that she could finally vote right after "the dictator" was voted into office. She replied with "well I would have voted for the dictator anyway." I exploded, asking her why she would think that and telling her I've been having panic attacks and fearing for my life since I got to news. I she tolf me she's always been a conservative republican and she just "never wanted to talk politics" with me. I feel sick, manipulated, and betrayed, but she's also my best friend. I feel like I'm losing a big thing by losing her and I will lose her family too, but I don't think I can trust her anymore. I don't know what to do.

I know the polerising politics is a big deal right now and that it's not great for people to not be able to be friends who have different political beliefs but these are my rights on the line-- and hers too though she doesn't seem to care. She told me she doesn't want to talk about it, but I just... I don't know. She says that there are more people to consider than just me, and I reminded her of all of the people who are being negatively effected by this and the fact that there are women DYING do to thing this man and the far right have done. She doesn't care.

Would I be the asshole if I stopped being her friend over this??? I already blocked her on discord and on one of my phones but not on the other and I haven't done anything about any of the other social media platforms. I just feel sick.