#agtkansas

At least from a long time ago, one of the reasons for a woman changing her last name was to show ownership of her to a man because women were thought more of as property. They started out as their father's property then were the property of the husband they married. If I do get married I don't think I'll be willing to give up my last name.

That is true, although that isn't why women change their names now, obviously (and many traditions - including some aspects of weddings now - have their roots in sexism). 

I, personally, wouldn't give up my surname, because my mother didn't so I've never seen the point of it - my parents are happily married and discuss feminism together - so it's never really seemed very tempting to me and (in my mind) it's normal for women to keep their surnames, not change them. But most of my female friends intend to change their surname when they marry, and although I don't really understand why, it's up to them (although if the surname is particularly awful it can be hard not to say anything). It's their name, so if they decide that they don't mind the sexist roots (and, as I've said before, many parts of life have sexist roots, it's pretty hard to avoid, so you can't kick someone out of the feminism club for doing one of them), it's their decision, even though I wouldn't do it.

What really bothers me is men who expect women to change their surname and have gender-neutral reasons for doing so ("I want our family to all have one surname", "I think we should have the better surname"), but if you suggest that they change their surname they are SHOCKED and OUTRAGED because that's for their girlfriends to do, not them, you man-hating feminist, you. Putting pressure on your partner to change their surname to yours is sexist and mean.

// Shush you, I put on makeup and did my hair a bit. Anyone can look good with the right kind of makeup.

((kan kan if it exists for me than it exists eternally out of my reach cause I don't even know how makeup works and it shows

plus im out of shape and cant find my pills that would at least help