Seriously? The fat shaming argument part 1
Unless a person goes specifically to you and insults you intentionally and on the continuous bases for being fat......please please PLEASE stop calling it fat shaming. That's like me walking into your home and you wipe your feet as oppose to me doing it, then telling me why you do it or not or maybe even telling me the benefits of doing it.
Am I to assume you are calling me a heathen and unclean? No
Will I assume that? No
Why? Because I am not going to waste my life internalizing what I see as a direct shot to me. A person who does that turns the entire WORLD into their enemy when the enemy is ultimately themselves by way of insecurity and a rampaging brain in need of tranquilizer darts.
Secretly we all know that there are benefits and cost to things we do and don't do. The way we live and don't live. Yet as long as you're happy, then be happy. Until those benefits are something you truly want for yourself and those cost you don't want for yourself, then enjoy your life and body but don't act like everyone is out to get you even if they disagree with you on things. The true fat shamer is the mind if that is the case. Your personal assessment tool in particular. It can be kind and ruthless more than anybody you face in life.
IF YOU DON'T GET MUCH OUT OF THIS AT LEAST GET THE FOLLOWING:
Health and fitness is not about a scale--it's about whether you can go and do the activities you engage and, possibly, even love comfortably. Overall it is the quality of life both mental and physical. That is practically the definition. Where doing routine activities and important physical actions (like saving your life or playing with your kids or something) don't feel like torture and have you thinking that throughout it.
Screw a scale...they messed up the mind years ago with a lie of numbers. Screw clothing standards because they themselves can't produce a standard size small to XXL to save their lives so that messed everyone's mind up in insecurities when things don't fit right. GO BY WHAT MATTERS! Things like how you feel when you do the things you do or wear the things your wear. If it involves outward appearances...be honest with yourself rather than be trendy. Don't take small jabs seriously from other body types because you all have your high notes and lows and that is just the competitive nature of life in general. Contend or not contend--it is your choice.
FOR PETE'S SAKE-- STOP CALLING EVERYTHING FAT SHAMING WHEN NO ONE IS TALKING TO YOU DIRECTLY EXCEPT YOU!!! To the ones who do directly fat shame...forget them and live your life. The fact that they wasted efforts to come at you the wrong way should not burden your precious time and brain space. If they have a real concern, then mind them when they come to you the correct wayÂ
I really wish parents, mentors, friends, and communities spent more time teaching each other the importance of where they stand in their lives rather than spending ALL the time trying to change everything around a person and relative to them. When do you actually empower the person when you are addressing everything else but them?
Fat, skinny, "average", abnormal--you're all beautiful dammit! It's the word and title that drives your brain nuts isn't it?
