#activelove

Active Love builds self-control. Nothing is more destructive for you and those around you than a temper you can’t control. The only way to rein this in is to have a tool that works right in the moment, defusing the bomb before it explodes.

Active Love lets you be more assertive. Nothing is more frustrating than being angry at someone and feeling unable to express it. The more the anger builds up, the more dangerous the confrontation seems. A tool that defuses your anger makes it safe for you to assert yourself.

Active Love trains you to accept others as they are. Everyone in your life is imperfect, either because of something they’ve done in the past or something they can’t change in the present. Fixating on these things destroys relationships. You need a tool that allows you to accept people despite their flaws.

What You’re Fighting Against The childish belief that people will treat you “fairly.” You refuse to move forward with life until the wrong you experienced is rectified. Since that rarely happens, you’re trapped. Summary of Active Love What the Tool Is For When someone enrages you and you can’t get the person out of your head. You may replay what he or she did or fantasize about getting revenge. This is the Maze. It puts your life on hold while the world moves forward without you.

What You’re Fighting Against The childish belief that people will treat you “fairly.” You refuse to move forward with life until the wrong you experienced is rectified. Since that rarely happens, you’re trapped. Cues to Use the Tool 1. Use Active Love the moment someone does something that angers you. 2. Use it when you find yourself reliving a personal injustice whether it was in the recent or distant past. 3. Use it to prepare yourself to confront a difficult person. The Tool in Brief 1. Concentration: Feel your heart expand to encompass the world of infinite love surrounding you. When your heart contracts back to normal size, it concentrates all this love inside your chest. 2. Transmission: Send all the love from your chest to the other person, holding nothing back. 3. Penetration: When the love enters the other person, don’t just watch, feel it enter; sense a oneness with him or her. Then relax, and you’ll feel all the energy you gave away returned to you.

The Higher Force You’re Using Active Love creates Outflow. Outflow is the force that accepts everything as it is. This dissolves your sense of unfairness so you can give without reservation. Once you’re in that state, nothing can make you withdraw. You are the chief beneficiary; you become unstoppable.