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Balancing work-life: There is no such thing as a perfect work-life balance. It’s about what you want to focus on and prioritising. When I’m at work, I’m a hundred per cent invested in it, and when I’m at home, I don’t think about work. Happiness & energy high: My kids. Watching them grow gives me utmost happiness. Walking into office and seeing smiling employees motivates me to keep doing good work. Dare Quotient: Never say never and take up all challenges. Winning trick up her sleeve: Keep a keen eye on small victories as in the long run they lead to bigger gains. One thing she says no to always: Giving up and not striving enough to achieve your goals under any circumstances. Life lessons learnt: As long as you do something to improve today and make it a little better than yesterday, you’re going to be successful every day. Just show up and do something you’re passionate about. Spiritual diet: Being positive, as it leads to a healthy mind and body. Success vs failure: There is no way to define and measure success or failure. Success for one is failure for another. Being successful or failing are subjective and not always black and white, at least in my opinion. I don’t see failure as an inability to succeed, but a different experience from the ideal. Every experience is a learning one, what is important is to try and not make the same mistake twice. On life challenges: Being an entrepreneur is itself a journey of challenges and there can never be a rule book to tackling them. Everyone faces some challenges in their lives and they have to handle it to the best of their abilities. It’s like the saying that goes, “Life is the most difficult exam, which many fail because they try to copy others, not realizing that everyone has a different question paper.” #abwenelson. (at Dubai Marina) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp9IkmFLCSe/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#How_To_Keep_The_Mind_In_Peace_Under_Any_Circumstances? • Adoption. Take everything as it is; it will give you ease. Learn to accept people and circumstances as they are, without the desire to adjust to their standards and wishes. Also, learn to accept and love yourself as you are, with all the mistakes and shortcomings! • Attention. Remove the focus of attention from the stimulus and focus it on yourself, on your inner world, on the sensations in the body. Abstracted from external factors and irritants. • Deep relaxation. Remove anxiety, haste, anger, resentment, etc. If there is tension in the body, remove it. Be inner relaxed! • Breath. Watch your breath; breath evenly and calmly, with a full chest. Exhalation should not be shorter in the duration of inhalation. Take a deep breath and exhale. Keep breathing evenly and measured. • Awareness. Be as conscious and collected as possible. • Think positive. Stop creating negative thoughts, and if such people have still made their way into the consciousness, then watch them, watch how they leave you and dissolve, like waves from a stone thrown into the lake. Try to think well of others, about yourself, about life. • Respect. Respect yourself and others. • Confidence. Be confident in yourself. Encourage yourself; tell yourself, “I will succeed.” • Naturalness. Try to be natural, relaxed, and liberated. • Smile. Smile often. Smile always looking in the mirror, communicating with other people. Smile from the heart and be in a joyful mood. Treat everything with humor! Be, without unnecessary thoughts. Be present in the current moment. Be a bystander. Watch the events taking place removed; track the causes of events, without feelings. Just be. If you want to protect yourself from all adversity, you have chosen the wrong planet. Here we are always faced with situations pushing us out of the comfort zone and unbalancing. We must always be prepared for this challenge. There is always lesson to extract, a positive experience, and an opportunity to move on! #abwenelson. https://www.instagram.com/p/Cpk0yJkpkfw/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#PEACE_OF_MIND, Is a state of harmony with oneself and with the whole world. But above all, the order is a balance. If we compare the soul with a musical instrument, then the inner calm state is when the strings of the soul sound harmoniously and naturally. The sound is beautiful and pleasant for everyone! But when we are tense and fussy, the music will be strained, unnatural, and unpleasant. Stayx in the peace of mind, we are full of energy and in a good mood! We efficiently manage to resist the illnesses and bad attitude of others, and we are better at dox any work. We become more creative; we analyze better and solve problems faster. When peace of mind leaves us, and we get out of balance, the energy drops, we attract depression and illness. Durx the internal stress, we do not get much as we would like, and we make more mistakes. Every time as soon as we get angry, fussx in vain, or fall into depression, etc., we seem to spill precious energy from our vessel of the soul. This energy is challengx to replenish! Think twice before the next time, indiscreetly, get out of yourself, start to get nervous, angry, think negatively, think, speak, and fuss about it in vain. Peace of mind is a natural state for a person; that is why it is so necessary and desirable for us! When it disappears, we begin to experience discomfort and uncertainty. On the subconscious mind, we want to return to this state. There is a desire to “be urself” or take a walk in the park to restore spiritual harmony. The inner peace of mind is confused by many with lethargy, laziness, or apathy. But it is not so! You can make an active external activity while maintainx inner peace. An event even, as a rule, turns out to be an order of magnitude better when you are in a state of inner calm. This is the state in which you are collected, aware, and attentive. Only within yourself can one find peace and confidence. There is no peace and stability in the world around us, and everything around is in a state of constant changeability. How can we cope with the unpredictability of life? Only by acceptx it! Tell yourself: “I am ready for all surprises and meet them with calm clarity.” #abwenelson . https://www.instagram.com/p/CpkzkZhJwjl/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#WAYS_TO_CONQUER_FEAR At the beginning of each new year many people consider making resolutions to change for the better. Of those who succeed in making resolutions many fail. But many fail before they give success a chance because of fear. Some are afraid of failure, others are afraid of success. Regardless of the source of the fear, it immobilizes too many and prevents them from achieving what they desire and are capable of. There is no more sure way to fail than to never try. This year, don’t let fear kill your hustle before you even get moving. This may help you! 1. Understand fear and embrace it. Fear exists to keep us safe. It is not inherently bad or good but a tool we can use to make better decisions. Fear isn’t designed to keep us inactive, but to help us act in ways that generate the results we need and want. Embrace fear as instruction and let it inform your actions, but not control them. 2. Don’t just do something, stand there! We tend to admire people who are quick to action, but being deliberate, creating a plan, and pacing yourself are also actions. Many a successful undertaking has been threatened or ruined by haste alone. When fear strikes consider whether the correct action might be to analyze the options and make a wise, well thought out choice rather than jumping to what seems right in the heat of the moment. 3. Name the fear. Sometimes merely stating what your fear is gives you the strength to deal with it. Say your fear out loud, write it down, or focus your mind on it. When you try to ignore your fear, it grows. When you face it, it shrinks. 4. Think long term. 5. Educate yourself. 6. Prepare, practice, role play. 7. Utilize peer pressure. 8. Visualize success. 9. Gain a sense of proportion. 10. Get help. 11. Follow others, find a recipe. 12. Have a positive attitude. 13. Be willing to pivot. 14. Focus on others as your motivation. Life has a long way in Fear! #abwenelson (at Jumeirah Grand Mosque) https://www.instagram.com/p/Co8wvi8BBuC/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#Taking_Away_The_Power_Of_Fear. What keeps us awake at night? What fears haunt us? What nightmares visit us over and over? Worrying about things that are important to us is a normal experience. But when do we know when it has gone too far? We worry because we desire things to go our way. We want the best result in all our endeavors. We seek success and happiness and recoil from the prospect of misfortune. Yet on occasion, our worries tend to encompass more and more aspects of our life. We worry about things that may never happen and imagine worse case scenarios or catastrophic outcomes. When we reach this point, we start having trouble concentrating because our mind does nothing else except worry. Constant worry drains our energy making us feel tired most of the time. We become restless. We develop difficulty sleeping or remaining asleep. Sometimes our fears worsen all because we do not wish to face them. This is especially true of matters which we shouldn’t really fear. We become afraid of things that cannot really harm us. But we have to realize that whenever we fear something, we grant it power over us. And the more we avoid it, the worse the fear gets. In such a situation, we have to challenge our beliefs by facing our fear head on. By so doing, we may prove to ourselves that there is really nothing to fear. Fear is all about not wanting to lose control. One way to handle our fears is to give up the notion that we are always in control. Worrying about what may happen does not guarantee a better tomorrow; it only ensures that today will be more miserable. Therefore, we need to acknowledge the possibility that we will sometimes be powerless to change whatever circumstances arise and just accept whatever happens. Sometimes, we merely have to let things proceed naturally and just let go. “Every time your fear is invited up, every time you recognize it, smile at it, your fear will lose some of its strength.” #abwenelson. https://www.instagram.com/p/CopP1DDhTb8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

It takes maturity and reflection to realize that when people are kind to us, we should not abuse it. In fact, we should reciprocate. For is this not upon which a healthy and mature relationship is based? The principle of give and take is an essential ingredient of any lasting human relationship. However, there are people who may be blinded by their ego and may fail to appreciate what others do for them. A proud person finds it difficult to acknowledge the generosity of others because he sees this as an admission of his dependence. If we feel that our efforts are unappreciated or that we are already being used, then it is not wrong to stop giving. What is wrong is to encourage other people’s dependence on us. Because if we do so, it won’t be long before we find ourselves being manipulated and abused. It takes an even greater level of maturity to not expect anything at all, because the true essence of selflessness is to see that giving is its own reward. By realizing this, we can rid ourselves of any expectation. And by having no expectations, we will avoid being hurt. Let's consider an example, you are habituated to live in air conditioned rooms but suddenly if you are made to stand in hot sun. Its natural that you will get a skin burn because your skin isn't adapted to that extreme level of heat. But the people who are habituated to live in that sun with nothing to avoid that heat, their skin will not burn that easily or so spontaneously because it has adapted to withstand that heat. So when you are facing something or being exposed to something new beyond your comfort zone..You tend to get disoriented and affected by the new thing for a while. Expectations are like those comfort zones we put ourselves in. We tuck ourselves tightly in them because they give us joy/happiness or some pleasure filled emotion when ever we think of them. For example, you are attracted to a girl, your attraction is so intense that you start imagining how would it be if she was your girl friend. This imagination will make you feel good because that thought is beautiful. The more you think on that thought…the more you convert that thought into an “expectation”. #abwenelson. https://www.instagram.com/p/CokimW5BFmx/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

What do we see when we look hard at the people around us? Is what we perceive all there is or is there more than meets eye? If we look deeply enough, will we discover something else that lies hidden beneath the surface? There are people who laugh and smile all the time. And there are those who are constantly angry. Still others appear to be strong or project an image of perfection. Do we routinely accept what we see in people as the truth? Perhaps what we notice in people is not necessarily what they feel. There are those who smile and laugh only because they do not wish others to see the sadness within them. And there are others who are constantly angry perhaps to hide the fear that they feel. Some project the image of strength because they do not wish their weaknesses to be seen. Still others appear to be friendly, but the truth is they would rather be alone. And there are people who strive for perfection in all that they do only because they do not wish others to see their many flaws. Wearx these masks is understandable because our experiences have conditioned us that showx our weaknesses often leads to becomx victims of discrimination. Furthermore, we've been taught repeatedly that society values strength. Thus, the way we carry ourselves in front of others is almost always an act. But the more we pretend to be what we are not, the more distressx it becomes. What is the real reason why we hesitate to reveal our true selves? Is it because we fear the harsh judgment of those around us? Are we afraid of rejection? Do we believe people will treat us differently if they discover who we truly are and what we really feel? And what if this apprehension resides only in our mind? We need to realize the necessity of being true to ourselves. We must acknowledge our limitations and admit that we are not invincible. Is it not a fact that the more honest we are about ourselves, the more authentic we appear to others? We have to concede that we are prone to sadness and fear, because it is only by accepting our frailties are we able to understand what it truly means to be human. We must overcome our fear and do away with the 🎭🎭🎭 we wear. #abwenelson. https://www.instagram.com/p/CofgXnehGqF/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Oftentimes we are unaware of what we want. Many of us go through life without having a clear end goal. Or we know what we desire but fail to see the appropriate path to take. And when we finally know what we long for, the next question we should ask is whether our goal is realistic? Is it attainable? Or will we become frustrated in the end? Happiness is perhaps everyone's objective. But our definition of it may vary. Some may see it as enjoyment while others conceive of it as fulfillment. But society also plays a role in how we define happiness since we tend to set other people as our standard. But there are questions we must first answer as we work towards our goal. Is what we want, really the path to that happines we seek? And willl achieving this goal make our lives better? Life deals us with a finite number of chances to achieve what we want. Our resources and our strength are not unlimited. And balancing our time between our obligations and our goals is perhaps the hardest part. We must also be careful with our decisions. Sometimes, there are points of no return, of opportunities that are forever lost. But we should always be open to other possibilities and we should never accept defeat. Know what you want, and write what you know. This simple truth can wake us back up into our inspiration. Telling stories and producing great, authentic, creative work is driven by our innate human need to feel interconnected to our community. Us humans have an insatiable appetite to find meaning, love, connection, and reliability in all aspects of our life. #abwenelson. https://www.instagram.com/p/CodSxJOBSJQ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=