-A fellow INFJ in their 30s

My dear Anon,

I apologise for the tardy reply 9trust me there are some Anon that have been waiting months for my reply … some answers need a lot of research 😬🙏🏾 …) but I have no good reason for having made you wait 4 days for such a cute inclusive statement.

There’s many of us out there, I’ve had the pleasure to interact with a few so yeah “Welcome on board!” 💗 

Always respectfully yours 🫰🏾,

My Dear Anon,

I’m so glad you enjoy reading my content just as much as I like writing it! It really makes me really happy, no cap! Love you so much for sending this my way, now I’ll go shy away while reading this a couple of 20 more times … Have a great day Anon!

Always respectfully yours 🫰🏾💜,

... Ororo 🥹💛,

I woke up to this and it did indeed make me smile, but also made me feel like i just received a bouquet of yellow roses if anyone doesn’t know the meaning of yellow roses definitely look it up!, so I felt also very warm and fluffy!

Thank you so much!

Very warmly 🫰🏾💛,

Tuesday, February 16: Write about some of the complications you’ve come across as identifying or existing on the aromantic spectrum

I guess my biggest problem as an aromantic is that it’s not very visible.

Now that I’m confidant in my identity it’s easier for me to deal with. I can just tell people I don’t want to date them, I’ve got a name and a community to back me up. But back when I was still figuring things out I felt like I was constantly wading in a dating pool filled with sharks.

Well maybe that’s a little unfair, it was more like I was a hermit crab leading people on and agreeing to go out with them and trying to figure out under when I might start to enjoy this until I finally got sick of it and retreated into my shell. I felt like the most frigid bitch in the sea, the more everyone told me how beautiful and lovable and cute I was, the more I wanted to shed off all my skin. Compulsory heterosexuality. It fucks people up.

One time in high school three different people asked me out on the same day. I shit you not. I distinctly remember considering telling everyone in school that I was gay just so they’d all leave me alone with the “Who do you like?” bullshit. And I know now that I really wasn’t leading anyone on, and that it wasn’t my fault if I hurt anyone’s feelings turning them down, I just wish I had known sooner so I didn’t have to waste so much time and effort.

I still wish there was some way to broadcast it to the world. Like if everyone I know could just get a mass text or something [this person is aromantic they do not date no exceptions] it would save me so much trouble and misunderstanding.

Unfortunately we (ASAW The Blog) don’t have a Facebook group or an official website. If you think that people in your social circles won’t take a Tumblr blog like ours seriously, I’d recommend finding other aromantic groups or websites and linking to their information when you’re talking about aromanticism this week! We don’t have a monopoly on information about being aromantic (far, far from it) and we support you sharing information from other people for awareness purposes.

Has the Asexual Community considered that they are not the only identity beginning with A? The mods here who identify as on the Asexual spectrum sure have. What about Agender, Aplatonic, Aromantic, Asensual, Aego-, Akoi-, Aco-, Alterous, Apothi-?I’m prepared to consider alternatives for the purposes of clarity.I particularly like ASAW because it is about the Aromantic Spectrum after all.I’m not prepared to have an anon come into my askbox and tell me that the simplest acronym available [which wasn’t even the general Tumblr tag which was ‘AroSpec Awareness Week’, just our personal one] is detracting from someone else who get there first and rudely tell me that I don’t deserve the letter A.[Vagg]

Anon i have no idea if you meant to come off as rude as you did so I'm not gonna be upset at you or anything i just wanted to point some things out:

We get a lot of asks and comments about how we are distracting people from other events, as if we don't deserve to have attention when the others should

We also get a lot of asks that tell us to change something without considering there should be a compromise, not just us changing

We actually take a lot of stuff into consideration when we make decisions here, including the name, dates, events, etc. We used AroAW before but ditched that with the Aromantic Awareness Week name change since AroAW makes it seem like we're only here for aromantics, not the entire aro spectrum (hence Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week).

We share A with every A identity, yknow. Ace, aro, agender, aplatonic, a- everything. Saying AAW only stands for ace awareness week is like saying "the A only stands for ace" which is not good at all

I have yet to see anyone tell the acespec community that they are detracting from arospec awareness week, so I am led to believe the only individuals that see a problem are from acespec; yet many of us mods are acespec and a lot of our community is also acespec...

As for considering alternatives, we are thinking that ASAW may be a good acronym for us since we are Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, but we also don't see why there is a problem to start with when there was no cross tagging in our tags. Our awareness weeks are on very different sides of the year, as we understand it. 

Also, if the ace community should move toward using "Asexual Spectrum Awareness Week" like we did with our awareness week, then we'd also be sharing ASAW. ArospecAW could work, though it's not as short as the others.

We can share AAW, you know c: Unless we both should start using ArospeAW and AceAW. Because letting ace awareness keep AAW and telling us not to use it is kinda fucked up

Make a post and write about the prompt! How have you faced amatonormativity, arophobia, and other issues that you have to deal with due to being arospec?

Write as much or as little as you'd like~ Just make sure to tag it with #aaw issues prompt

I've just now put it up, I'm super sorry for the wait! I've been at work all day and couldn't update until now @u@