So here we are the quietly enormous, I just want someone to love club. All claiming that we want a real love but all we do is beg for likes when we are feeling ourselves, I’m writing this because I care about people & I am no longer afraid to express how I feel publicly now that I have seen my words help a few people around me, also because of the emo music I create (far too regularly lol). I have become popular with the girls & the guys in and around my life when it comes to discussing the ups & downs of trying to love these days, having been through things myself & having paid way too much attention to older relationships around me, the good & bad. So below, I’ve written some words that I hope, might be helpful, if you are going through something or at a crossroads.
The Prescription:
When you love someone or really care about them you don’t treat them bad or make them feel insecure, ever. It’s as simple as that, but now we live in a generation of excuses, people mess up, I know that very well myself, but when you mess up you move mountains or you leave people the fuck alone, if you don’t it says a lot about you. If you’ve been hurt and allow how you’ve been treated to affect how you treat others, it says a lot about you too, I’m sorry I am not here to lie to you, guys and girls are just as bad out here on these cold streets. It used to be so simple, either/or. Love me or leave me alone. We now live in a time where people want all the benefits of a relationship but not the relationship, they usually feel the need to keep themselves open incase, something better comes along, they change their mind or they get caught out, so they can always say “but we weren’t together” if they want another chance, making you feel silly for not seeking that clarification before. Be wary of anyone who over compensates & gives you almost everything but commitment, that is a dangerous person, almost as dangerous as someone nursing a broken heart(might explain this later if this bangs lol). That person can leave whenever they feel like it & they are not to blame, you are, you’ve allowed it. That said, there’s always a getting to know you + us period! but with the pace of most things these days I think after 3 months or definitely four months someone should know whether they want to try with you (be official etc). If they don’t “lol”. Ways to combat that, refuse to do anything out of the norm, you shouldn’t be the perfect partner without commitment makes no sense. N&ggers(men) lie & b&tches (women) do too. Our generation literally has men spending money they don’t have on women who will never really love them for the right reasons & it has women treating men like kings who will do everything but commit to them. In the words of Childish Gambino (in Redbone) “Stay Woke”, love & life is hard anyway but it isn’t as hard when you are doing it with people who have the best intentions for you, I have seen that first hand, my grandparents survived a lot of things, my parents didn’t, just imagine facing the world with a smile on your face every morning because you know no matter what, the person I share a bed with, is down for me, rain or sunshine, nice ain’t it? Part of growing up is realising that the chances of finding somebody that turns you on instantly beyond belief & has the best intentions for you is slim to none, it’s highly unlikely the pengest thing you’ve ever seen will feel the same (because they are usually pornstars lol) but if they do BRAVO, anyway, on the surface that’s a bad thing but in reality, it really isn’t, after all in the long run, you will always find other humans attractive, but overtime the sexual satisfaction you will get from the person who wants the best for you & does the best for you has no comparison. But understanding that needs maturity and experience. Besides a life long relationship has never been about peng, it’s about understanding another human being who has contrasting emotions & feelings, if you get an extra peng one, you’re buzzing. Drake/Rihanna might give you the best night ever, to brag to your mates, but Dave/Sharon the 6/10 probably has the love/heart that you have never experienced and won’t ever want to give back.
The Contradiction:
That said, above is just a guideline to protect yourself & your heart, but essentially these are feelings so I have to be realistic because a lot more people are in the situation I am about to explain but tend to deny it, if you really love a piece of sh&t that’s stressing you & you only want him/her and can’t see no one else stick with them, do your best to help them, evolve if you can. I say that because, another lover can take you Maldives 5 star everything, bare pics for insta & that, but I guarantee a week in Benidorm with that piece of shit will mean a lot more. It’s difficult, because when you do it right it’s worth the stress because even with the “right” person there will be ups & downs. If your heart beats for them it’s pointless to walk away & walk into a pure soul’s life and mess it up with all your baggage, you will only hurt another person. Call that monkey bar love. Holding onto the next and the last. You cant substitute one addiction for another, walking into a better situation, changes very little when you are torn internally. You will either end up alone and in pain or deserve 775 oscar awards for faking a life time of love. As we all know, when you are not where you genuinely want to be, you will probably cheat. Save yourself the stress & exhaust your current situation before moving on. Easier to build again if you can look back & tell yourself i did all i can. No Regrets *dappy voice*
In Closing:
Respect yourself, protect yourself, everybody has a story & everybody has a pain, but don’t let them make that experience your problem if you are offering a new beginning & an open heart, because no matter the experience, open, pure & positive hearts and minds can overcome a lot . Pure people always get along just fine. Mandela & Ghandi never beefed & they changed the world for the better, politicians always beef 👀 & they… Um I don’t know what they are doing lol. You get the drift.
Stay safe you sexy goats & be patient. Every example is a reasonable realistic guideline, circumstances like distance, illness & death may tamper these guidelines. That, said no matter the situation love & respect has to be a constant. If it’s not, run. Run as fast as you can. Be nice to people always, but stay on your toes, kindness allows an environment where people can hang themselves, making decisions clearer (not easier).
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