This has to be like the fourth time I thought he would be mad at me for initiating a difficult discussion only for him to be honored that I care enough and am committed enough to do so.
He has the same exact reaction to this trait of mine: hypervigilance...
My anxiety makes me stress over loved ones in ways that can feel anywhere from annoying to pushy and controlling. I've been shocked to find he is the only one who actually appreciates this without complaint. In his words, it makes him feel loved. This is a relief as it's an area I'd never be able to 'better myself'. Either a partner can accept it or I can't be in a relationship.
I'm also continually surprised that he still means things he's said. On the difficult subject I brought up today, he said that he'll do better from now on and that I can have the reins. Just as he already promised: he'll improve where I ask him to and let me take the helm while he supplies the coal.
Hopefully things continue smoothly like this. I know the change won't be easy and I hate getting angry with him. He feels bad when I get angry but that's the way it has to be sometimes.
