For privacy, I'll post about my rendezvous on here and not on any other social media bc my super conservative, Jesus loving family doesn't need to know about the older dudes I succ face with..... Anyways, I've gone a bit ghost for 4 days on almost everything bc I got into a relationship with someone that's actually 12 years older than me [chill my dudes, I'm over the age of 18] and he seems like he has his life in order so he arranged a 4 day stay at his place and food tour of Pasadena. Here's the break down of these 4 days: 1st day- I met his mom and brothers at a very nice beach location. His mom loved me and wanted to take me home with her! I usually hate this but I found out that she always wanted a little girl to care for but had 3 boys with no desire for children. So I was polite and let her do mother-daughter things to me like braiding my hair and calling me 'sweetheart'. The oldest brother likes photography and took a lot of pictures of everyone having a good time. He's too pure for this world and I've made it my duty to protect him! Somebody hurt this gentle soul and I wanna hurt the person who dared. The 2nd oldest is low key douche, he's that one sibling that will pants you in front of ya crush and grabs ya ankle when you're swimming in the ocean. Overall I liked his family and they didn't seem to care that I was younger and dating the younger brother. They said I was a pretty cool chick that doesn't mind getting a bit dirty or scraped up. I stayed at my boyfriend's house and I thought things were gonna get steamy, but I was too tired and so was he and we kinda just slumped onto his bed after showering and dosed off. No kissing or thoughts of doing the do, it was time to rest. 2nd day- I woke up to the sound of his phone alarm playing "today I don't feel like doing anything~" by Bruno Mars and I just started laughing. My laughing woke him up and he was like "what's so funny?" And I said "you're so fucking basic! Of course you would have that song as your wake up tone". He just rolled over to turnoff the alarm,sat up and said "good morning, ready to do some touring?" And I got so excited to start the day with him. We spent the whole day looking at and eating at Asian food places that I thought were amazing! At sun set I saw that there was this night market thing and usually I wouldn't bother the person I'm with to go with me bc I can't control myself sometimes BUT! I saw a stand that had Mexican Botantas [mexican street food/snacks] and another stand had kumquats [my favorite citrus]. And I knew he hasn't explored into some mexican street food because to order some stuff you have to know how to order it in Spanish or have someone that knows to guide you. So I was like "hey lets go check out the night market, please?" And he didn't put up a fight, he came along with me. We got that stuff I wanted and he doesn't like tostilocos or kumquats when I gave him some to try but loved mangoñadas. Im low key upsetti that he didn't like those things but at least I got him to try the food of my people that's under appreciated. And so we head back to his place and it's almost dinner time and we didn't feel like going out to eat or order pizza. So I said "why don't we cook something then? I'll help with everything" and he said "ok but I have to tell you something, I don't know how to cook anything that's not coffee, oatmeal and frozen food" and that statement broke my heart. He was so perfect and likes the same type of food as I do but doesn't cook?! Bruh what kind of grown ass man that lives by himself doesn't cook for himself?! And as calmly and cool as I can be, I said "well, you gonna learn today!". Turns out he bought groceries only bc he knew I'd judge him if he didn't, but like where's the lie? We managed not to burn anything and made shrimp scampi and lava cakes for dessert. He was thrilled that he cooked something and I just looked at him smile like a little kid and it made me feel good. At bedtime, we were in this happy, airy emotion and before I could sit on the bed, he grabbed me and I thought "we gonna do the do now?". We started the whole pinned down kissing thing and under clothes groping. I was ready for it but he stopped and said "I've noticed something, you don't have tattoos or wear clothes that match your personality, what's up with that?" And I started to go off that I have conservative parents and if I dressed the way that I wanted too, I won't hear the end of it and if I got a tattoo, I had to hide it. He then told me when he was college age, he let loose with everything; got tattoos, dressed in clashing colors and partied a lot. He didn't want to be controlled by his mom or older brothers when he wasn't in their supervision and went on this rebellion that made him feel empowered. He asked me "what image or things make you feel empowered? I'm curious what goes on underneath the sweet and soft exterior" and I just list off a whole bunch of dark and edgy ideals like a skull tattoo, wearing thigh high stockings with just barely covering dresses and giving off an image of 'don't get too comfortable, I'll knock ya lights out'. He said "well let's start off small, I wore short shorts at first" and I thought about it and said "my mom doesn't let me wear underwire bras or thongs of any type" and he response with "oh you wanna start kinky huh? I'll buy you thongs, right now on my phone"..... I was at a loss for words, did he just say he'll buy me sexy underwear for non-sex purposes?! Only because that will start my self empowerment?!!!!!! Holy shit dude why didn't I kiss this dude earlier! He's really making this whole dating older dudes kink work for me. We look at sexy, lacy women underwear for like 2 hours and managed to only buy 3 and checked the time, it was 4am. We climbed into bed at 11pm and we didn't even do the do? That's amazing but I'm not upset about it not happening, just impressed that I can have deep conversations for hours on end in an intimate setting. Will continue days 3 and 4 on the next post
