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MBTI Type: ESFJ Dominant Extroverted Feeling – ease of emotional communication and shaping their actions around how their decisions affect others: Bernard is extroverted, warm, and outreaching; he easily makes others feel at home and tries to motivate everyone to work together for everyone’s best interests. When he decides to create a plan to get off the island and get them all rescued, he…

MBTI Type: ISFJ Matthew cares very much about his family, but also has a traditional streak that doesn’t show itself until later in the series run, when he chooses to make all the financial decisions and tries to save their resources, without ever asking his wife what she wants or how she intends to contribute. He sees himself as the chief provider, and does not take it well when forced to rely…

MBTI Type: ISFJ Melissa is down to earth and practical, focusing on what needs attended to in the present moment rather than speculating on anything. Scott says that his mom keeps a scrupulous budget in which she ads up all their expenses and then tries to figure out how long they can survive before being evicted. She bases her appraisal of everyone and everything on her own personal…

I hate accepting help and freebies. From my immediate family, gifts always came with strings and expectations. They were never truly free. I’ve swung so far the opposite direction after hurt that I don’t want to accept anything.

But I love giving. I love to help, to give gifts, to send words of encouragement to others. It gives me joy in return.

I’ve had to learn to accept gifts knowing that I now have people in my life like me. If I give them a chance to help me, they feel needed, involved, and appreciated. And they don’t ask for anything in return.

And now that I’ve seen that hesitancy to accept gifts in myself, I see it in others. Especially patients. The patients who have been the caretakers, the fixers. They don’t want to “be a bother”, but their health has tanked. So I pick up on it - “Would you help your friend/family if they were in this situation? You sound like you love helping others; time to let other people get joy out of helping you.” And usually that’s enough for them to pause and accept some things.

MBTI Type: ISFJ Cady is very attentive to the “here and now” needs of those around her, and uses her law degree to help people out of messes. It bothers her when her father gets into trouble without considering the effect his actions might have on others. She knows the law inside out and backward, and is a stickler for adhering to it. Whenever her father needs her, she’s there to help him in…

MBTI Type: ESFJ Aurora easily talks about what she is feeling, how she is feeling, and how it involves other people. She is mostly concerned with what she needs to do, to keep others safe or to support them, rather than thinking about herself. She seeks for others to accept and understand her, and feels enormous guilt if others sacrifice themselves for her sake. Aurora sees it as her sworn duty…