How do you stop letting people or things/ fear make you feel so powerless? How do you feel strong and confident?-PD
Well, this is quite a big question that can only be answeredby you alone, because you define confidence by yourself. However, I definitelyhave some tips for you!
The first thing I want you to do is repeat this to yourself: “Iam beautiful. I am strong. I am worth it.” Repeating positive words toyourself, called affirmations, can really help to boost your confidence. I knowit can feel silly repeating these word to yourself, but the more often you hearsomething out loud, the more you start to believe it!
Another thing I want you to do is to make a list of allpositive attributes you have. I realize it may take you a while to list theseand you may not be able to think of any right away, but just try to write downone positive thing about yourself. This can be an action you did, or a physicalthing like the color of your eyes, etc. Over time, you can look back at thelist and see what a big list there is of good things about yourself.
As for stop letting fear and people make you feel powerless,the first thing you need to do is accept that fear and mean people are a partof your life. This is a difficult concept to accept, and I get that. However,fear is something that is always there, and fear in small amounts can be a goodthing. Fear spurs us to get things done, act in a moment of danger, etc. Thekey thing to remember about fear is to not let it control you, and that can beincredibly hard. Yet, you can totally do it by reminding yourself that you havesurvived all bad points in your life so far and you can survive them again.
Now onto people: mean people exist. People will try to makeyou feel powerless for reasons like it can make them feel better that there arepeople below them. There are other reasons as well, however, the focus here ison how you react to what they may say/do to you. I know people’s words andreactions can hurt, and always remember that the hurt you feel is valid. Everyfeeling you feel is valid. Even though you may feel hurt from others’ actions,the thing to remember is that you cannot control others. You can only controlyourself. You cannot control what others do or say to you, but you can controlhow you react to them.
It can be difficult to not take to heart what people say toyou, but remind yourself that you are the only one who defines yourself. Whatother people may say to you does not determine your self-worth. If someone saysyou’re not beautiful, that doesn’t mean that you are not beautiful because theydo not determine your beauty. You determine your beauty – if you tell yourselfyou are beautiful, you are beautiful. You are the one who defines yourself.
You can do this. I know you can.
I’m here if you need anything,
