Hi love,

You are definitely not over-reacting, and you’re not being mean in the least bit. His behavior was inappropriate, especially since you obviously weren’t reciprocating his feelings. You had every right to tell him that his actions made you uncomfortable. He should’ve respected your boundaries instead of accusing you of hurting his feelings. The fact that he reacted by demanding that you stay otherwise he will hurt himself is a huge red flag. This is very manipulative and the kind of behavior typical of toxic and unstable people.

I really suggest that you be cautious around him. I think you should get an adult involved, to be on the safe side. Is there any teacher at college that you can talk to about this? Maybe your college advisor? They might be able to give you some suggestions, or connect you with someone at your school that can help you handle this situation.

Please keep me updated,