i have a genuine question, no harm or ill will intended.
if youre attracted to men (your bio says transmascs) why do you consider yourself a lesbian/dyke?
yeah oc, i had a feeling someone would ask at some point. i hold the opinion that all trans ppl hold the magical ability to be a part of most queer communities and use most labels because ultimately gender is a fuck.
specifically in regards to myself being a dyke and also loving other transmascs, for me i consider transmascs and transmen to be a part of the lesbian community because, historically, we always have been. in the same way many people we today call transwomen and transfemmes founded the gay movement, many people we would today call transmen and transmascs founded the lesbian movement. i think this allows transfemmes to lay claim to the label of gay no matter their attractions and transmascs to lay claim to the label of lesbian no matter their attractions.
this belief is doubly so for trans people who date other trans people, because, depending on how much you or your partner pass, society may deem you a dyke or a faggot or straight based on their own assumptions, and that can change day to day, person to person. i appear to most people as a woman, and many of the people i have been romantically or sexually involved with have also been perceived as women as well, either because they were non-passing transmen or passing transwomen. to an outsiders perspective that is a lesbian relationship. we're not going to be able to "um actually, we're transmascs" or "actually this is a straight relationship because i'm a transmasc and she's a transfemme" our way out of being called dykes on the bus.
if society is going to call me a dyke, and transmascs have historically been considered dykes, then i'm going to call myself a dyke. so far many of the transmascs in my life have felt the same. i also don't consider myself a man, and many of the transmascs i've had in my life have also not considered themselves men or not considered themselves only men. if i was dating someone who was not comfortable with me calling our relationship a lesbian relationship i, of course, wouldn't. but, i wouldn't date someone if they said i couldn't identify as a dyke and date them.
